You might want to check your traditions
Well slavery is a tradition
by your logic slavery must be an acceptable practice then.
Or will you declare that somehow magically different
You oversimplify the church's traditional approach to slavery. Are you actually a Catholic? You know this is the same era of tradition we're talking about, right? Roman society slavery does NOT equate to what most people concieve of as slavery.
None of which precludes same sex marriage
If you take it out of context it doesn't. It's called an introduction. Many issues, this one included, are complex, and complexity sometimes takes more than a soundbite reply to express. If I use multiple paragraphs, that doesn't mean each individual sentence has to be an independent reason to agree with me.
Do you agree then that our love, as human beings, is intended to be an icon and expression of the Divine Love of the Trinity on earth? That could be a good starting point.
This was said in reply to my asserting that the marriage of man and wife was intended to be an icon of Christ and the Church. You assert, without warrant, counter analysis or explanation "not really." Wow. I must admit, I'm convinced...
In addition to this, you've managed to directly contradict St. Paul. Ephesians 5 is explicit on this point:
Wives submit to your husbands as to the Lord, for the husband is head head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the Church; and He is the Savior of the Body. Therefore, just as the Church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loves the Church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious Church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing but that she should be holy and without blemish.
So husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes it and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the Church. For we are members of His Body, of His flesh and of His bones.
"For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh." This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the Church.
Do you wish to disagree with Paul? How many times does he have to draw the parallel between Christ/Church and husband/wife before you'd agree that there's a correlative relationship between the two?
He even EXPLICITLY connect the Genesis prophecy with Christ/Church. Explicit, right at the end.
This same could be used as an argument against men (women apparels are not included in much of anything) leaving their parents and going off to school
I don't entirely follow you, but at the least this serves as an adaquette place to comment on something: it doesn't matter to me what one
could use for an argument. I don't follow sola scriptura or anything close to it. The mere fact that one
could twist a passage of scripture to say something silly is nothing new - nor is it problematic to me. I stick to as traditional an understanding as possible, and have faith that the teachings of the Church are protected and guided by the Holy Spirit. If you doubt that, then you have forsaken Nicaene Christianity and we are probably done discussing this - not because I would judge you for that, but because faith in the Church is not something I can argue to you. It is a matter of faith. We'd just get ourselves twisted up saying the same thing trying to convince one another.
Suffice it to say that mitigating my point by trying to show other ways a given passage could be understood will not only fail to convince me, but also fails to take into account the complexities of how the scriptures are understood in the catholic-orthodox tradition. It is, like most of your replies, sound-bite-ish and simplistic.
Again
nothing excluding same sex marriage
Then you agree? Again, I'm setting up my point. It's important to establish and warrant one's premises before driving for a controversial and unassumed conclusion.
Which is why its run by men
YES. This is exactly why it is run by men. The Church is feminine by nature, and so the clergy, who are icons of Christ in Orthodox theology, are at the "head" theologically speaking. It is a man who hands out Eucharist, because the essence of Christ's role relative to the Church is expressed in masculinity, so the leaderhsip of the Church is male, while the Church proper (always the laity - we are not our clergy) is referred to as "she" consistently in the scriptures. Note the Ephesians passage above. Also note the entire book of Revelations.
I would focus on the Eucharist. There are two levels on which we as the Church are feminine. One is in our way of relating to our Lord - Jesus Christ. We submit to Him, He dies for us. That's the perfect, ego-less love I spoke of which is modeled in the Trinity and offered to us within the Church. Our duty is not to demand equality with God, but to submit to Him demanding nothing, and Christ, in His love, elevates us to "partake of the divine nature" (II Peter). We become as He is.
The second way, however, is physical. The eucharist is physical. Christ became man - He is a physical man. His bride is a woman. In what way does the Church physically show femininity? In the Eucharist. In the way that we become one body with our Lord (which, yes, is a reference to sex; to me sex is an icon of the Eucharistic union of Christ and Church). We accept Christ into ourself as a woman accepts her husband. We don't enter Christ's body with our body - Christ enters our body that we may become one with His body.
Does that help? I hope it does. It is that physical womanhood (along with the attribute of femininity) that so clearly ties the icon of marriage to the male-female relationship for me. It's about more than leadership within a relationship (since the Christian leadership is really about self-death and service anyway). It's about our way of loving Christ (submission in voluntary love) and our way of become one with Christ physically (by recieving His body into ourself).
I challenge you to find me a place in scripture where a presybter is referred to in the feminine or the Church referred to in the masculine. If you can find ONE passage in scripture or the early church fathers then you'd have a start on debunking this "gendering" of Christ/Church, clergy/laity, husband/wife. Otherwise, my point stands.
Recognize that marriage only became a sacrament about 700 years ago
Not remotely true. Christ attended and sanctified marriage at the wedding in Cana. The Church practiced a common chalice for civily married couples to bless their marriage during the first 300 years of the Church. Yes, it was later combined with the civil service of the Roman empire, but the idea of marriage entering the Church community and being blessed and fulfilled by it is extremely early.
Additionally, we don't number our sacraments. It has always been a sacrament in the East. John Chrysostom treats it like one in the late 4th century (a far cry from 700 years ago). Just because some RCC council or Pope in the middle ages felt it necessary to ennumerate the sacraments and included marriage in that list in the 700's doesn't mean that's where it began.
Regardless - all of life is a sacrament, ultimately. Marriage is just a unique one (like baptism and eucharist). Again, refer to the Ephesians passage. Heck, numerous Apostles were married.
I Timothy and Titus BOTH say that a bishop is to be a man MARRIED to ONE WIFE. Hebrews also explicitly affirmed marriage as appropriate. So do multiple of Paul's writings, even as they support and encourage celebacy.
It was condoned and blessed in the early church. Nicaea even EXPLICITLY stated that the marriage bed was undefiled and holy. Certain western "saints" (Jerome, I'm looking at you) gave sex a bad name, but their theology had almost no impact on the East outside of the already-celebacy-inclined monastic communities. There's a REASON we have married priests and deacons as the PRIMARY form of our presbytery and deaconate. We find marriage a perfectly viable sacramental road to Christ. This has always been the case for us.
prior to that the church considered it a necessary evil and even after it was upgraded to sacrament weddings were not performed in churches because doing so would acknowledge that the people getting married would be having sex.
Refer to the above. You have a skewed, and my guess is Western-Centric, view of medieval theology. Check out the Byzantines. Were there anti-sex theologians? Sure. But EVERY ecumenical council continued the affirmation of the marriage bed, and churches were given the authority of civil marriages (done not outside the church but at the entrance) and sacramental marriage (performed at first merely by partaking of the same chalice at Eucharist; later the ceremony of crowning was added to this).
And this is why individuals who are sterile cannot and never have been able to get married
right?
The Church, in the sacraments, is the immediate joining of this world to the New Kingdom. It is the invasion of this fallen world with that perfect one. In this sense, it is of itself a miracle that we have sacraments. They bring us into a unique state of being - into contact with Christ and His Heaven.
That said, I think the iconography of the Church, as a window into Heaven, is helpful here. You'll notice that most physical infirmities are absent from icons (unless those icons depict a specific historical event, in which case they aren't so much looking at the present state of Heaven as at Heaven's [real and present] remembrance of a key event of salvation). In heaven, such products of the fall as physical ailments will be absent. Human mortality will be no more.
The Church is, therefore, eschatalogical in it's approach to the sacraments, and, in being eschatalogical it is deeply optimistic. The sacraments are acts of hope. So when we marry a man and a woman, we do so because
ontologically - in an unfallen world -
they'd be able to produce life from their iconically-eucharistic union. That is to say, we don't take into account the failures of the fallen world when partaking of sacraments precisely because those sacraments are not the matter of the fallen world.
It is precisely by refusing to allow the evil and suffering of this world to compromise, in ANY way, our actions or eschatalogical optimism, that we imitate Chirst on the cross.
In other words, we must look at the potential marriage couple from the perspective of the Kingdom (Without the lense of the fall) and see them as man and woman, capable of producing life. From that, it is up to God. The fall is indeed real, so when the sacrament is complete, perhaps there will be no children. But in our eschatalogical optimism and kingdom-oriented view...
All births are miracles. And the children of gay and lesbian couples especially so as they are not accidents but brought forth though the conscious effort of the childs parents and through the parents love.
I agree that all births are miraculous, but I fail to see how a homosexual couple can concieve. You could do invetro-fertilization for a lesbian couple, but it would be with a sperm donor. Again, a gay couple could have a surrogate to carry the child to term, but you'd have to have a woman supply the egg. Thus far, to my knowledge, technology hasn't found a way around that. Given my point above about the sacraments being about ontology, my point stands since this a non-ontological conception (and not even truly a conecption by that couple proper, as person of another gender must supply the missing zygot).
Ultimately you are presenting a double standard. On the one hand you want to use fertility as a means to justify prejudice. While at the same time you wish to remove the issue of fertility from being a concern for the majority.
On a simplistic view, yes, I can see how that would be a double standard. I am speaking of ontological fertility, though - that is to say couples who, in the perfection of God's original design for this universe - would be able to reproduce. It's less about actual reproduction than it is about the fullness of the icon of Christ found in marriage.
In Christ,
Macarius