What if your spouse wanted to do plural marriage?

[Autumnleaf]

What if your spouse decided that they believed in plural marriage and wanted to invite someone else into the marital bed? How would you respond to such a proposition?

 

[seamonster]

Only if the other person was really rich and bought us ice cream and cool presents.

 

[Avatar]

No thanks. One woman is enough to survive. And if it's another husband, well, other men in my house grate on me when they don't leave.

 

[cherryblossom03]

That would be a big negative for me.

 

[charligirl]

LOL, do you have alot of spare time to think up such topics for discussion?

This is a christian marriage forum - you're not going to get much of a debate on this one.

 

[Gods4me]

oh no thanks. one marrage is hard enough never mind 2.

theres a guy in britain who has 2 wives and 2 misstress and they all live in the same house and have like 13 children and a few on the way.

 

[Captivated]

Plurality of spouses means plurality of in-laws Just one more reason that this would be a 100% deal breaker.

 

[BeanMak]

I have read too much Robert Heinlein to be completely against it. I agree with Seamonster.

 

[Adamantium]

If my husband were the sort of man who would even consider such a thing, I wouldn't have married him in the first place.

 

[HuntingMan]

What if your spouse decided that they believed in plural marriage and wanted to invite someone else into the marital bed? How would you respond to such a proposition?

This isnt anything Id personally have to worry about with Laura.
If the exs had brought this sort of thing up, Id have refused. I find polygamy to be somewhat disgusting, personally. Its irritating enough that I ever had to file divorce because of someone else being in my bed with my ex's, let alone being there myself and agreeing with it.

 

[tiredwalker]

After I got up off of the floor from laughing, I'd ask him what it was that he actually wanted to talk about.

 

[felinity]

I'd check to see if maybe his doctor had prescribed him some heavy-duty painkillers or something.

 

[Tychicus2]

What if your spouse decided that they believed in plural marriage and wanted to invite someone else into the marital bed? How would you respond to such a proposition?

DIVORCE.

Marriage = ONE man and ONE women

 

[virtualgirl]

My husband's best friend had an affair. He told my husband that he didn't understand why plural marriage was looked down on here in the States when it is accepted in other countries. (Obviously he wanted to have his cake and eat it too. ) This led to my husband and I having some interesting discussions about the subject. Neither one of us would tolerate it.

Divorce.

 

[LovebirdsFlying]

One more reason to get to know your spouse before marriage. I wouldn't marry someone who had such a desire in the first place. And if he hit me with it after marriage, I'd seek a divorce on the grounds that the marriage vow says, "forsaking all others." A plural marriage isn't forsaking all others.

People use it against gays all the time: "Marriage is for one man and one woman." The focus is on the opposite sex part, but then what about the "one"?

Edit: Bowing to Tychicus2, who already said that. I hadn't read the thread first.

 

[Redguard]

DIVORCE.

Marriage = ONE man and ONE women

Is that a double entendre?

 

[snoochface]

If my husband were the sort of man who would even consider such a thing, I wouldn't have married him in the first place.

Me too.

When I was in college, an older girl I was friends with got married. Shortly thereafter, her husband wanted to begin introducing others into their bedroom activities, both men and women. It ultimately ruined their marriage. He felt like because she had agreed to try it, she was okay with it, and she felt like because he was her husband she had to do what she could to please him. She ended up falling in love with one of the "regulars" he brought over, and divorced her husband for him.

 

[LovebirdsFlying]

Is that a double entendre?

Oops, I didn't catch that. (checking my own post to see if I got it right.)

 

[Adamantium]

Me too.

When I was in college, an older girl I was friends with got married. Shortly thereafter, her husband wanted to begin introducing others into their bedroom activities, both men and women. It ultimately ruined their marriage. He felt like because she had agreed to try it, she was okay with it, and she felt like because he was her husband she had to do what she could to please him.

I know a woman who is divorcing her husband for this very reason. After they got married, he took a mistress and wanted her to be ok with it. She didn't have very good self esteem, so she agreed because she wanted to please him. Then, after a few years he wanted it to become a threesome. At this point the wife finally woke up and got a lawyer.

Edit: and the irony is, now the husband's mistress has broken things off. So the man who wanted two women now has none.

 

[LoisGriffin]

I wouldn't have married him in the first place if he was like that.