Doula

[llghoney]

Voice that concern to her--most doulas would be just fine with that--and willing to to then run errands or whatever sort of behind the scenes. I have to tell you- that as a mom with three daughters--and thinking about them giving birth someday- I feel totally okay not being there if that's what they want--I deeply understand the need to hhave certain energies outta the room. I would just share that concern very explicitly with the doula and see what her response is--my guess is that it will be a favorable one. Her whole goal is (or ought to be) for you to have the birth that you want.

I didn't even think about that. Can you be my doula?

What about what to expect as far as charging?

 

[seamonster]

llghoney - most doulas in my area who are certified charge $300-500.

 

[jgonz]

Jan, why do you think things would have been different?

Things may have still gone the way they did, but *I* would have been more ok if my doula had agreed with the OB's opinion, kwim?

 

[Onomatopoeia]

I didn't have a doula with my last birth, and if I had it to do over, I most definitely would have.

With my two previous births, I didn't know doulas existed, and was content in having the typical medical model of care labor and birth. This last time I really wanted to not get an epidural, but circumstances during my labor made it too difficult for me. I believe if I would have had a doula, I would have been able to birth without one.

 

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

DH and I are seriously considering hiring a doula for our hospital birth. My SIL's friend is a doula and I am going to be getting in touch with her.

 

[gracepaints]

DH and I are seriously considering hiring a doula for our hospital birth. My SIL's friend is a doula and I am going to be getting in touch with her.

It's money well spent. Plus, if you think about it, if you have to pay a percentage of your hospital bill and your doula helps you avoid an epi (and possibly a c-section), you save money and she actually pays for herself.

 

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

Well I only pay $300 out of pocket for all my pre natal, post natal and delivery (c sec or otherwise). So... I can't really complain. We've got excellent insurance!

 

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

My other preference would be flying grace out for the birth, could be cheaper than a Doula

 

[gracepaints]

My other preference would be flying grace out for the birth, could be cheaper than a Doula

With the cost of fuel right now? Not likely. Though I would love to come.

Great insurance BTW. Leaves a lot of extra for, er, extras.

 

[llghoney]

Well, I asked the lady how much she charges & her response is she will not tell a price. So now I really don't know what to do. She said to pray about it & whatever we come up with is what she will take if we decide to use her. I'm not good with these type of situations because I wouldn't wanna give her too little.

 

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

I've heard the typical price is between $300-$500. So maybe somewhere in between?

 

[gracepaints]

I've heard the typical price is between $300-$500. So maybe somewhere in between?

Yeah, that's what I've heard. A lot of doulas look at their work as a calling or mission and so don't want their costs to keep women from having a doula if they want one. My doula wouldn't take money from me even though I tried to give it to her.

 

[llghoney]

I've heard that amount too but wanted to be sure. This lady said that this is her calling as well & that she has seen many women for free. I would have to give her something for sure. She even told everyone in class that she would help with breastfeeding or first baths if anyone needed the help. Truly a caring person & God send.

 

[gracepaints]

Sounds like a winner!