Okay Ladies

[Filia Mariae]

Those of you who are mothers, please stop yourselves from telling women who are not mothers:

a. how easy their lives are
b. how they don't know anything
c. how they don't know what it means to love someone

On top of having the crappiest EVER week at work, I find this email exchange between one of my staff members and several parishioners about how I don't know anything because I'm not a mother and how one day I'll see and I'm so cold and unloving because I said it's not appropriate to not take your school age children to Mass and just drop them off at CCD instead.

I'm a little touchy about it in the first place after attending a women's retreat where all my friends stood in the corner having their "I have a baby and you don't club" while I got to go be in a small group with a bunch of girls who just graduated from college but I am just so, so irritated right now. Why are women so horrible to each other?

 

[Epiphanygirl]

Those of you who are mothers, please stop yourselves from telling women who are not mothers:

a. how easy their lives are
b. how they don't know anything
c. how they don't know what it means to love someone

On top of having the crappiest EVER week at work, I find this email exchange between one of my staff members and several parishioners about how I don't know anything because I'm not a mother and how one day I'll see and I'm so cold and unloving because I said it's not appropriate to not take your school age children to Mass and just drop them off at CCD instead.

I'm a little touchy about it in the first place after attending a women's retreat where all my friends stood in the corner having their "I have a baby and you don't club" while I got to go be in a small group with a bunch of girls who just graduated from college but I am just so, so irritated right now. Why are women so horrible to each other?

I'm a stepmom, but I get the same treatment, even from my own sisters...btw, I helped raise my siblings kids.....my niece from 6 weeks old. Did all the work but none of the "Glory".

As for women acting the way they do,IDK....the only cattiness I like comes from my cats. Women who want to treat you that way FM, well, they can stick it in their ear........I'm editting my truck driver verbage here....but I'm cussing in my head.........they won't change....same in school, same grown up..........shame really.

 

[krstlros]

Those of you who are mothers, please stop yourselves from telling women who are not mothers:

a. how easy their lives are
b. how they don't know anything
c. how they don't know what it means to love someone

On top of having the crappiest EVER week at work, I find this email exchange between one of my staff members and several parishioners about how I don't know anything because I'm not a mother and how one day I'll see and I'm so cold and unloving because I said it's not appropriate to not take your school age children to Mass and just drop them off at CCD instead.

I'm a little touchy about it in the first place after attending a women's retreat where all my friends stood in the corner having their "I have a baby and you don't club" while I got to go be in a small group with a bunch of girls who just graduated from college but I am just so, so irritated right now. Why are women so horrible to each other?

I hear ya Sister.

Sometimes, I think Mother's forget how lucky they are to have children.

And why are women so horrible to each other? Beats the heck out of me. I've been wondering about that for years.

 

[Lady Bug]

Those of you who are mothers, please stop yourselves from telling women who are not mothers:

a. how easy their lives are
b. how they don't know anything
c. how they don't know what it means to love someone

On top of having the crappiest EVER week at work, I find this email exchange between one of my staff members and several parishioners about how I don't know anything because I'm not a mother and how one day I'll see and I'm so cold and unloving because I said it's not appropriate to not take your school age children to Mass and just drop them off at CCD instead.

I'm a little touchy about it in the first place after attending a women's retreat where all my friends stood in the corner having their "I have a baby and you don't club" while I got to go be in a small group with a bunch of girls who just graduated from college but I am just so, so irritated right now. Why are women so horrible to each other?

I don't like how people sometimes say to you that since you are not a parent then you're opinion means nothing. I can see how experience as a parent might play a factor, but some people who are mothers (or fathers for that matter) don't seem to know how to raise their children any better than those who aren't parents in the first place.

I detest the "smug married" or "smug mother" attitude of some people who are in either category.

I detest equally those attitudes of who are either married or parents who tell us singles that we have to be content as a single if we find ourselves circumstantially single. For example, "Just because God designed you to be a mother doesn't mean you will be," or "if you never get married, it's because God doesn't WANT it to happen," or "if you are infertile, you have to understand that God doesn't WANT you to be a mother" (no one has told me the latter statement but it wouldn't surprise me if the latter statement existed somewhere)

Filia, I hate to sound anti-woman or anything because I'm not, but women can almost be more cruel to other women than some men are (well, if not equally cruel, let's put it that way).

This is exactly why I'm sometimes weary of making friends sometimes. A lot of women don't treat other women well at all. I know I'm lonely so maybe I'm asking for my own destruction. There are good women out there who are not bee-itches and stuff, but they seem to be in the minority...I'm a woman and I don't like to be around other women!

Please all women try not to get mad at me for this...you may not be the types of women I'm describing here...

 

[krstlros]

I am very selective of my women friends.
Don't hang around gossipy women because they bug the "s" out of me.
i've even told off one of my cousins because she was being catty and being a total "b" about things, and I'm not ashamed to do it to other women who act the same way.

Sometimes, watching some mothers at Church, I think to myself I could probably be a better parent than they are just by the way their children act. I never blame the child for their behavior. I blame the parent.

 

[Lady Bug]

I hate to say this but I don't think I'll fit in as a single person at church. I don't think I'd be able to handle feeling like the odd duck.

I don't want to be responsible for hijacking the thread by talking about a slightly different issue like this.

 

[krstlros]

I'm an oddity I suppose.
The group of friends at church I hang around consists of:
A divorced Catholic living with someone.
A gay guy.
A woman who's husband doesn't go to church.
A married woman who is childless.
A married woman who's husband went through the RCIA but doesn't want to be Baptised.
A woman married to a non-Catholic.
A non-married couple living together.

And yes, we all hang out together at Church. Talk about an oddity.

 

[Lady Bug]

(sorry if I don't have enough else to say)

 

[Miss Shelby]

You hit a nerve dear girl. It’s NOT appropriate to not take kids to Mass but take them to ccd. They learn at ccd they’re not supposed to be skipping mass, and then their parents do it. Millstones and drowning comes to mind. I would say don’t let it bother you but truthfully it would probably bother me. You know what, screw them. They’re hags. They don’t know what a good person they are treating like poop, but some day they will. I think women are horrible to one another because we’re all basically miserable. because of our husbands and kids. LOL, tell them hags that.

 

[ZooMom]

In total agreement with Michelle.


Miserable people hide, bury, or alleviate their feelings by making other people miserable. It's inexcusable and unnecessary, but there you are. Women who are insecure about themselves bolster their ego by frequently and loudly enumerating the ways in which they 'score' higher than other women. IOW...it's not you, it's them. Just think...once the 'shine' wears off the new wedding ring/baby...they'll either gain some much needed perspective and become much more temperate in their remarks...or they'll turn in to bitter carping hags re the same husband/baby that they once slapped around like the prize trout in a fishing tourney. Either way, they need prayer...same as you and me.


Peace be with you!

 

[krstlros]

In total agreement with Michelle.


Miserable people hide, bury, or alleviate their feelings by making other people miserable. It's inexcusable and unnecessary, but there you are. Women who are insecure about themselves bolster their ego by frequently and loudly enumerating the ways in which they 'score' higher than other women. IOW...it's not you, it's them. Just think...once the 'shine' wears off the new wedding ring/baby...they'll either gain some much needed perspective and become much more temperate in their remarks...or they'll turn in to bitter carping hags re the same husband/baby that they once slapped around like the prize trout in a fishing tourney. Either way, they need prayer...same as you and me.


Peace be with you!

I love you ZMommy.

You totally rock.

 

[ZooMom]

I love you ZMommy.

You totally rock.

I love you, too!

 

[Miss Shelby]

not to mention that if you didn't make remarks like the one that torked them off, you wouldn't be doing your job. hellol

 

[krstlros]

Isn't it our job as Catholics to irk people off?

 

[BAFRIEND]

You hit a nerve dear girl. It’s NOT appropriate to not take kids to Mass but take them to ccd. They learn at ccd they’re not supposed to be skipping mass, and then their parents do it. Millstones and drowning comes to mind. I would say don’t let it bother you but truthfully it would probably bother me. You know what, screw them. They’re hags. They don’t know what a good person they are treating like poop, but some day they will. I think women are horrible to one another because we’re all basically miserable. because of our husbands and kids. LOL, tell them hags that.

The day my momma socked it to the Harper Valley PTA.

 

[BAFRIEND]

Men get this same crudola too, even from their wives.

 

[3girls2dogs]

Those of you who are mothers, please stop yourselves from telling women who are not mothers:

a. how easy their lives are
b. how they don't know anything
c. how they don't know what it means to love someone

On top of having the crappiest EVER week at work, I find this email exchange between one of my staff members and several parishioners about how I don't know anything because I'm not a mother and how one day I'll see and I'm so cold and unloving because I said it's not appropriate to not take your school age children to Mass and just drop them off at CCD instead.

I'm a little touchy about it in the first place after attending a women's retreat where all my friends stood in the corner having their "I have a baby and you don't club" while I got to go be in a small group with a bunch of girls who just graduated from college but I am just so, so irritated right now. Why are women so horrible to each other?

I'm sorry they were so rude to you. I wish I could explain why we, as women, do this to each other. I feel your pain, though. I'm a military wife, and we move in June, and this time, I begged my husband to live off base. I'm too old to be dealing with the juvenile junk and general gossipy cattiness of the women in housing. I left high school over 20 years ago. If it isn't about the kids, it's about the husband's rank or whatever else they can find to complain about.

I have very few female friends now, because I can't be bothered with it.

 

[BillH]

Sorry, not with you on a). As someone who was recently not a parent, I can't begin to tell you how much easier my life was before I was a parent. And it's been ten times harder on Eva than it has been on me. I used to find people who told me that annoying, but I can't say that I disagree with them now.

That being said, b) and c) don't follow from a). It sounds like you're in a place where people don't actually want you to do your job. It's of course one thing when you get some resistance from the parents, but that's awful that your staff doesn't support you with it as well. Hope that your job hunt is going well!

 

[Michie]

Those of you who are mothers, please stop yourselves from telling women who are not mothers:

a. how easy their lives are
b. how they don't know anything
c. how they don't know what it means to love someone

On top of having the crappiest EVER week at work, I find this email exchange between one of my staff members and several parishioners about how I don't know anything because I'm not a mother and how one day I'll see and I'm so cold and unloving because I said it's not appropriate to not take your school age children to Mass and just drop them off at CCD instead.

I'm a little touchy about it in the first place after attending a women's retreat where all my friends stood in the corner having their "I have a baby and you don't club" while I got to go be in a small group with a bunch of girls who just graduated from college but I am just so, so irritated right now. Why are women so horrible to each other?

Thank you.

 

[Teshi]

Sorry, Filia.

C particularly gets my goat as well. I especially like when it's accompanied by a tirade about how people who don't have children are just selfish (which, ironically, is often accompanied by a statement about how the parent had children in order to be fulfilled as a person herself). Or when there's a knowing "when someday you carry a child - and I know you will! - you'll understand what I'm saying."

Yeah, no I won't, sanctimonious mom. Also, shut up. Heh.

Anyway, everyone likes to feel like they've got one up on other people, and "I gave birth and you didn't" is a pretty easy card to play. Try not to let them get you down.