How to pray while TTC?

[AJoyfulNoise]

This may sound crazy, but it's something I've been having a hard time with for the past few months. How, exactly, do you pray in regards to TTC?

I know that the Bible says to ask and it shall be given to you (hypothetical "you" throughout this post)..so on the one hand, you could ask God to bless you with a baby. But on the other hand, we should pray for God's will - and what if it's not His will that you have a baby, or not have one right now? If you prayed and asked for that blessing, would you be praying against His will, and not know it? To ask, or not to ask?

I've just confused myself with this one. So I tend to ask for another child, IF it's His will...His will and not mine be done. What about everyone else?

 

[gracefaith]

I pray that God will train me to be a good mother, and that He will bless me with happy children at the right time. Of course, I'm hoping 'the right time' is soon and that I get to bear the children myself, though I leave the prayer open to adoption, which I would definitely consider.

I actually think the important part being open to the Will of God and asking to be trained as a good mother. I can work on me. Ultimately, God makes the babies.

 

[DivineFiliation]

I still struggle with this. I don't feel as though I can ASK for a child. Basically, my cries are to the Lord to ease my pain and for acceptance of his will.

 

[DivineFiliation]

I saw this thread on another forum... thought it pertained very much to us here at CF. Enjoy.

http://www.pcosupport.org/forums/viewtopic.php?t=7024

 

[Beth1231]

I ask Jesus to open my womb and bless my husband and I with a child in the best timing there is (and to give me patience).

 

[SweetBella]

bump.

 

[HappyVonHut]

well
I think I pray for patience!

then I pray for another "just one more" blessing, as it completes my reason for being.

And sometimes I feel guilty and throw in there "IF it be your will, please be your will...just one more time, allow me ot bless this world and our lives with one more healthy child of God!"

Like I say, I sometimes pray really hard..."please please please"
LOL

but he knows what I mean!

 

[jenrenee]

well
I think I pray for patience!

then I pray for another "just one more" blessing, as it completes my reason for being.

And sometimes I feel guilty and throw in there "IF it be your will, please be your will...just one more time, allow me ot bless this world and our lives with one more healthy child of God!"

Like I say, I sometimes pray really hard..."please please please"
LOL

but he knows what I mean!

LOL! I pray the same way! I recently read in another thread - to go (go to God), bow your head, and trust in God. That is how I try to Pray. And I do say if it is in Your will - but then I'll add - Please, please, let it be in Your will!

 

[Catholic Wife]

Bump

 

[LittleFoot]

Thanks for the bump, I enjoyed reading others comments.

Myself, well.... I use to pray for it.

I use to ask God to bless my husband and I. I know that's what He wanted for my life, as a child, that is ALL I wanted to be, a mom. I don't ask if it is His will, I know it is His will, by what means, I do not know....
When we first moved here, we didn't have a place to live, we stayed at a church that had a wonderful view of the mountains with land, I walked around there and cried and prayed to God.

Since that time I haven't specificly prayed for a baby. A lady at our church the same age as me, we talk on a messenger, the only way I really talk to people. Anyway I told her about my struggle and to please pray for me. One day I asked her to bring it up in the church prayer meeting, a day we would miss. I break down too easy so I couldn't say it myself and I didn't want to be there. So now other people are praying.

God knows my heart, and I just cry every time I try to pray about it...

 

[godsgirldre]

A scripture a friend of mine sent me about conception:

None will miscarry or be barren and the number of our days you will fulfull Exodus 23:26

Also, a prayer she sent me to pray for conception:

Conception prayer

Thank you Father that Jesus has borne all my sickness and diseases and carried all my pains away so by his stripes I am healed and made whole!
Therefore, in Jesus name...
I bine Satan's power and hold over my womb
and my body.
i command ALL forms of sickness and disease to be removed.
I command infertility and the curse of barrenness to be removed in Jesus name!
I also profess according to the word of God that..
I have a blessed, prosperous, healthy and FRUITFUL womb!
I command health into my body and I say BODY, in Jesus name: you are to conceive and be pregnant! Every part of you is to come in line with the Word of God. You will function efficiently, the way you were created to be: fearfully and wonderfully made.
I also pray for good solid attachment of my baby to the uterine wall (not the fallopian tubes) and then for my baby to grow perfectly, to be nourished and protected for the full nine months (40 weeks), I plead the blood of Jesus as a hedge of protection around the womb, protecting my baby from all harm. I declare this in Jesus name as your word says: ask whatever you wish in Jesus name and iit will be done! I give you all the glory for my healing and for my baby.
Let it be done to me according to your word! Amen!

 

[annaapple]

I've just started Philip yancey's new book Prayer. As with all his books it is easy to read, humble and inspiring (so far, whcih is up to page 30 or so!)

He makes the point that when Jesus prayed, he didn't necessarily pray for bad stuff NOT to happen (e.g. with Peter and the devil asking to sift him, or Judas for that matter) although he could easily have brought down the whole host of heaven to protect him. Following Jesus' example, we should rather be praying not to be spared trials, but that God will use our trials to bring forth good and make us more like Jesus. These are yancey's ideas, not mine!

In answer ot the OP:

I ask to be forgiven for not trusting Him enough; I re-dedicate my body for his use; I remind God that we'd love to have a bigger family; I ask Him to keep me content to follow His will and guidance.

On the point of asking for stuff, the next chapter is all about Abraham and Moses, who bargained with God (e.g. save Sodom for the sake of 50, of 45 etc etc etc) and by appealing to God's mercy received what they asked for. So I guess when infertility is causing pain, we can appeal to God's mercy to relieve that pain one way or the other, or at least to use it for His kingdom.

 

[alicat0719]

Hi everyone,

This is my first time on this forum and I have already been encouraged after reading alot of your comments.

My husband and I have been trying to conceive for 5 years. I had a miscarriage 3 years ago, had 3 IUI's and then was told that I would not be a good candidate for IVF because of an elevated fsh level. After much prayer, we decided to adopt, and went through the lengthy process of getting a homestudy done, etc.. After being on a list for 1 year, we received a phone call telling us that we had been 'chosen' and....3 days later our son, Jakob was born. I wish I could say that this story had a happy ending, but it didn't. After spending several days with our new son, the birthmother had a change of heart and she asked for him back. What a devastating experience for us to go through. We are now back on a list and we continue to wait to be chosen again.

In my heart of hearts, I strongly believe that God gave my husband and I the desire to be parents. It is our prayer that God will fulfill the longing of our hearts in His timing. The waiting is hard, some days more than others, but we know that God is control of our lives and we wouldn't have it any other way. We've been in our share of valleys over the past 5 years, but God has brought us through each disappointment and made our faith stronger than ever.

Has anyone else had a similar experience?