Will u ever...?

[* kittie *]

I get along with people of other races just fine, it's just that what I find physically attractive has changed over the years.

yea...I used to think I would marry someone who was NOT Asian. I was interested in a lot of different races, replying to threads such as these with, "yea I would marry any race.". Even now, it's not like I have anything against other races. It's just that now I'm older, and I kinda know how I am. I know what would "work" for me. There are a lot of factors that don't have to do with just "race."

Perhaps I'm looking for a lot of security. Being born in Texas and growing up in a predominantly Hispanic city, I am extremely Americanized. But still...a lot of these cultural differences are actually very important to me, and affect my life a great deal. I think that sometimes, there is a particular understanding that similar groups share...especially as you go into collectivist cultures. mm...I lost my dad when I was younger, and now...I'm sorta looking for that similar family setting. I find the most support when all these things exist.

Doesn't mean I couldn't marry another race...but most likely...I would not.

 

[~HopeFloats~]

I do not think it is so mucha race issue, more that what your preference is like others have stated.

 

[joyouspirit]

Don't mind. I am in one, we're both Asians, but from different countries.

 

[sweetlambofgod]

sure why not?

 

[Someguyouknow]

haha i take what i can get.

 

[Sketcher]

I might, I don't know.

 

[Niels]

Race isn't much of an issue for me. The only reason I say it isn't "much" of an issue is because I've never felt physically attracted to asian women for some reason. Intellectually, yes. physically, no.

Anyway, my ethnic background is Northern European. I'm basically a tall nerdy white guy who can't jump. The women I attract tend to be nerdy white women. I'm not sure what women of other races would see in me.

 

[idner]

Its all interesting answer though

What if your parents dont approve you to have bf/gf other than ur race?

 

[Sketcher]

What if your parents dont approve you to have bf/gf other than ur race?

It's not an issue with my parents. The main thing I would be concerned about is whether her parents would approve or not.

 

[Macrina]

Its all interesting answer though

What if your parents dont approve you to have bf/gf other than ur race?

It wouldn't be an issue with my family.

 

[simmeringabsolute]

Hey Everyone...

Just want to know what do you guys think about Interracial relationship. Will you ever get involve in interracial relationship? If yes, why? And If no, why?

Probably not, though I will not write off the possibilty. It's just that I am usually attracted to people who resemble me -- dark hair and eyes with olive to light skin. If I do in the future, the woman would probably be of (white) hispanic, native american, or asian origins.

 

[Jenster]

I've dated hispanic, caucasian, asian. My best guy friend in college was black.

I'm getting to know someone now who is not my race, and I do have cultural concerns. But if he's Christian and smart and has all the other Top 10 qualities I'm looking for, then hopefully we'll be able to deal with cultural differences. We'll see...

 

[simmeringabsolute]

I've dated hispanic, caucasian, asian. My best guy friend in college was black.

I'm getting to know someone now who is not my race, and I do have cultural concerns. But if he's Christian and smart and has all the other Top 10 qualities I'm looking for, then hopefully we'll be able to deal with cultural differences. We'll see...

Heh... If you don't mind, I'd be interested in hearing your "Top 10" qualities...

 

[eatenbylocusts]

I'm surprised the usuals haven't posted this yet; but we're all of the human race. Ethnicity and culture are concerns. I married someone from another country. I probably wouldn't do that again unless they were from England, etc with a similar culture as mine.

Why not? Because if you're dating to get married you should really read a few books and understand that it is usually the similarities that hold you together; not the exciting differences that attracted you in the first place.

Cultural differences can put a real strain on a marriage. You really need to educate yourself on the other culture and not think that love conquers all like I did. Being shunned by family and friends could be a bummer also. Having kids and what neighborhood you're going to move into is another consideration.

BTW-There are some honky white guys who I wouldn't date because they were raised with different cultural values.

 

[BeautyForAshes]

You guys bring up "cultural differences" but you are very well likely to have that with people of your own ethnicity too. For example, if you grew up dirt poor and you were interested in dating one of the Kennedys, I'd definitely say there are some cultural differences there - even if you both are Caucasians! lol

So I've often wonder what is REALLY meant by "cultural differences" when used in this context?

Just curious...

 

[CargoPants]

I can't see why I wouldn't.

I'm Caucasian, some Spanish ancestory also and am more attracted to dark haired,olive skinned women than your blonde barbie types that caucasian guys usually go for.

Above all(Christian being the obvious #1 priority) she has to be a nice person. Those women come from all races.

There is a lovely Chinese Malaysian girl living in my city who I'd love to get to know more. She is absolutely gorgeous to my eyes. And a nice person too from what I can tell so far. But I will not persue anything.

 

[Blank123]

skin colour is such a minor issue in the long scheme of things - I mean who cares if your skin colour matches with your SO's or not? relationships are supposed to go a lot deeper than that.

 

[BoazB]

In essence the basic bottom line is communication and understanding. There are built in attraction things that I have found in my own life that make people click (like Oedipus complex - you marry somebody like your mother - not racial background). I asked my mom for a photo of herself as she was at the age I was a few year's back, and it was amazing to see!! (Scary )

I have never had a problem with skin colour - more personality and undertsanding. I don't have a problem and neither would my family, but unfortunately there are small minorities who haven't come to terms with reality yet, and if they owned a restuarant, I probably wouldn't go there (putting my family / spouse at risk of abuse.)

 

[sweetlambofgod]

Its all interesting answer though

What if your parents dont approve you to have bf/gf other than ur race?

if they didn't their racist

 

[~HopeFloats~]

if they didn't their racist

now that si not really true, I think we try to see things in a perfect world.

My sister married a guy from Hadie(sp) and after a few years it ended because there is so much more to being from different cultures then just race..

Until you actually are in it, living it.. it is HARD to see the whole picture.

Being racist is alot wider then a question like this.