All the stuff I wrote the other day, also ties to this:
if a person is really that cold, I highly doubt they are trustworthy in a personal sense- like as in for relationships.
I figured someone was pretty much relationally trustworthy- pretty much harmless & malice free... that wasn't proven wrong, however their level of self-control wasn't trustworthy and they happened to open their mouth wide about some stuff I didn't want shared- even if it was to a mutal friend. One of my sayings is: "If I wanted so and so to know whatever, I would've told them myself...
So that's one form, then there is another of being aware that there are others out there who are not so harmless and have tendencies to offensively/deliberately hurt people (for whatever reason), or people who appear not to be so but are, and will try to stick you, sometimes behind the scenes, when they get the chance.
Some of these people sometimes when they think you're on the same side (or whatever passifies them) will be ok but they can turn on you and make horrible enimies.
I prefer those who though not seeming the most caring or rather when they aren't getting what they want out of things- they will just leave it, go their own way, don't have time for maliciousness, revenge & pettiness.
The "harmless" are either those who don't have a problem "destorying" someone (whichever way). And those who are covert ( rather shall we say phony) who appear otherwise but inside they are the same.
Not that "the harmless" never get bothered, say something stupid or callous, do/say things that will upset you- but at least you get the sense that it was just spontanious and without much planning, sneakiness, revengemindedness, & malice.
Even the Bible diferenciates betweek those "who lie in wait". Also mentions those "who like to dig pits for people" (that they will fall into them themselves).
Those I see who like waste time "digging pits", I try to keep my distance from them- at least in a personal sense.
So to me the degree someone is heartless the less they are trustworthy, and more so the more malicious & covert that person is.
And common sense teaches (if we will listen)... what someone does to others they will probably end up doing to you, one day- What delusion makes people think they are exempt?...oh they treat everyone like dirt, or backstab them, or whatever...but they won't do that to ME- ha!
if a person is really that cold, I highly doubt they are trustworthy in a personal sense- like as in for relationships.
I figured someone was pretty much relationally trustworthy- pretty much harmless & malice free... that wasn't proven wrong, however their level of self-control wasn't trustworthy and they happened to open their mouth wide about some stuff I didn't want shared- even if it was to a mutal friend. One of my sayings is: "If I wanted so and so to know whatever, I would've told them myself...
So that's one form, then there is another of being aware that there are others out there who are not so harmless and have tendencies to offensively/deliberately hurt people (for whatever reason), or people who appear not to be so but are, and will try to stick you, sometimes behind the scenes, when they get the chance.
Some of these people sometimes when they think you're on the same side (or whatever passifies them) will be ok but they can turn on you and make horrible enimies.
I prefer those who though not seeming the most caring or rather when they aren't getting what they want out of things- they will just leave it, go their own way, don't have time for maliciousness, revenge & pettiness.
The "harmless" are either those who don't have a problem "destorying" someone (whichever way). And those who are covert ( rather shall we say phony) who appear otherwise but inside they are the same.
Not that "the harmless" never get bothered, say something stupid or callous, do/say things that will upset you- but at least you get the sense that it was just spontanious and without much planning, sneakiness, revengemindedness, & malice.
Even the Bible diferenciates betweek those "who lie in wait". Also mentions those "who like to dig pits for people" (that they will fall into them themselves).
Those I see who like waste time "digging pits", I try to keep my distance from them- at least in a personal sense.
So to me the degree someone is heartless the less they are trustworthy, and more so the more malicious & covert that person is.
And common sense teaches (if we will listen)... what someone does to others they will probably end up doing to you, one day- What delusion makes people think they are exempt?...oh they treat everyone like dirt, or backstab them, or whatever...but they won't do that to ME- ha!
