So yea, it's not that I said anything bad or wrong or wrongly... I just am not sure if I should have said more. Hmm maybe I should clarify. Although, if they were just trying to be concillitory and happened to go a bit overboard, then I don't want to pick that up and run with it (if that's not what they really ment) and make it uncomfortable.
Hmm, maybe not if one makes a statement like oh I think I know you, we've been talking (whatever) for like a yr. now... lol a bit of an exaggeration. I know it's only been 6 months. ROFL and I only know that because it directly all started because of a certain event- and i firmly know the date of that event (cause it always comes around the same time every yr.)
ooor I wonder if they brought that up to test me, like if I knew the difference (6 m or a yr?)... alot of times when people do that i just don't say anything but that doesn't mean I didn't catch what they said- so I didn't mention it then.
uh but someone (a certain type of someone) who might be feeling a tad guilty or embarassed might mention some things like that, to help smooth things over.
Ooor it could just be my personal cynical nature- it usually takes a lot for me to believe someone in things like that. Ha, that's what makes it so tough if I actually get to that point...that's why it becomes so heavy for me and hard to let go. Viewed as betrayal... guess it's also like I feel I betrayed myself in getting carried away.
Reminds me of the horrible instance of when you think someone is waving at you, so you wave back or try to acknowledge what you think was their gesture... and it turns out they really weren't...:o
Don't wanna do that.
But don't want them to think I don't appreciate what seems to be a verbal acknowledgement & gesture of goodwill & desire for getting closer...
Then mentioning that gal, was that just about mentioning a friend as an example of a friend... or as an example of someone they are annoyed that they think takes advantage of them?
I'm thinking, look I'm not one of those people who's always looking over their shoulder if someone is trying to pull a scam- take advantage of me materially\resource wise. I take it like-whatever. I think I can spot the people I know who are like that, and as long as I'm aware of it I don't feel so bad\bothered. I know how they are, and either they have other redeeming qualities in their personalities, or I know they have a purpose for their being in my life (like for me to influence them to God). There are the times when I don't have anything to give or think it's not the time to help out- so I back off\don't respond to their trying to contact (whatever)... but I usually don't cut them only 'cause they're that type. (ROFL- unless they're NPD too...knda jkng).
For whatever reason right or wrong I'm like that though relationship wise, cautious etc. I definately don't want to be taken that way. Ha but am I going to announce that and sound like- "oooh don't hurt me please"...(where is an "rolling the eyes" emoticon when you need one?)
OK, I gotta stop and think not about what's best for me- to cover my own back...
but them...what is it they need? What is it they're looking for?
Hmm, maybe not if one makes a statement like oh I think I know you, we've been talking (whatever) for like a yr. now... lol a bit of an exaggeration. I know it's only been 6 months. ROFL and I only know that because it directly all started because of a certain event- and i firmly know the date of that event (cause it always comes around the same time every yr.)
ooor I wonder if they brought that up to test me, like if I knew the difference (6 m or a yr?)... alot of times when people do that i just don't say anything but that doesn't mean I didn't catch what they said- so I didn't mention it then.
uh but someone (a certain type of someone) who might be feeling a tad guilty or embarassed might mention some things like that, to help smooth things over.
Ooor it could just be my personal cynical nature- it usually takes a lot for me to believe someone in things like that. Ha, that's what makes it so tough if I actually get to that point...that's why it becomes so heavy for me and hard to let go. Viewed as betrayal... guess it's also like I feel I betrayed myself in getting carried away.
Reminds me of the horrible instance of when you think someone is waving at you, so you wave back or try to acknowledge what you think was their gesture... and it turns out they really weren't...:o
Don't wanna do that.
But don't want them to think I don't appreciate what seems to be a verbal acknowledgement & gesture of goodwill & desire for getting closer...
Then mentioning that gal, was that just about mentioning a friend as an example of a friend... or as an example of someone they are annoyed that they think takes advantage of them?
I'm thinking, look I'm not one of those people who's always looking over their shoulder if someone is trying to pull a scam- take advantage of me materially\resource wise. I take it like-whatever. I think I can spot the people I know who are like that, and as long as I'm aware of it I don't feel so bad\bothered. I know how they are, and either they have other redeeming qualities in their personalities, or I know they have a purpose for their being in my life (like for me to influence them to God). There are the times when I don't have anything to give or think it's not the time to help out- so I back off\don't respond to their trying to contact (whatever)... but I usually don't cut them only 'cause they're that type. (ROFL- unless they're NPD too...knda jkng).
For whatever reason right or wrong I'm like that though relationship wise, cautious etc. I definately don't want to be taken that way. Ha but am I going to announce that and sound like- "oooh don't hurt me please"...(where is an "rolling the eyes" emoticon when you need one?)
OK, I gotta stop and think not about what's best for me- to cover my own back...
but them...what is it they need? What is it they're looking for?
