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another story...

I'll begin here...
It not just about "family loyalty" or something. lol just cause they're family doesn't mean you have to like or respect (someone elses definition) them. Love & look out for yes.

Well, we hit it off right away (of which I was so thankful to God). You know right here is a good spot to thank and praise God for his grace w me & her:clap::amen:. God you've been so good, thanks. It's all about you...

Ok well, I think its mosly because we have prophetic callings. I mean personality wise we're similar but that much so that we'd hit it off so and fit like that? Either that or just straight grace from God (like He gace me for a time w L).

So in the early years, they weren't serving God but at least seemed open. I had said different things. It's kind of weird, seeing them grow from a teen... not only did we get along but they received me so warmly into the family. We always had like an unspoken understanding. We both like to get up later & stay up later too lol. Even though her english wasn't perfect and she didn't talk all the time or as much (like you know who) I could understand and connect w what she was saying & I felt vice versa.
(wow I'm feeeling a real flood here of gratefulness & humbleness in my heart...)
I think she & I got close, closer than they were with them.

I was going to write about the last time they were here, how we hugged each other & cried before they left:hug:... I think though that happens every time they leave.
So thats not all why I respect them but I guess it's part of the total picture.

OK, they have always fit the desciption of attractive, in appearance & manner, a "head turner". But as far as I could see they didn't let that go to their head. They put into their appearance but aren't vain or conceited about it. As far as I know they hadn't been into using that to manipulate or use men. Maybe a few who don't know them) might accuse them of being stuck up, but not true. That might be, only because they are reserved discerning dignified type person- add that to being attractive and the jealous might want to call that "stuck-up".


I observed that they didn't go the wild way, didn't get into drugs drinking & the party scene. They had their head on straight and finished school. Even though they could have as much as they wanted- they stayed calm in regards to the guys. As far as I remember, they only had 2 steady boyfriends over those many years.

They were responsible as a teen and got a job and took it seriously-even if it wasn't an "important one", they maintained a good attitude about it and a good work ethic. They went to college and became a teacher. Bought their own house. Their ideas ( and the thorns in their heart) had also been developing and taking a certain turn & bent. Like their potential gifts & calling mixing w their issues w God. Let's just say rebellion made it easy to get into feminism, and activism. So as part of this mix they are into being about women being strong independent educated...
I agree w some of that. And they do try not to be influenced by "the masses", but to think for themselves (which without God's influence can make you, well, rebellious)

So they've come to remind me in some respects of my mother, only more how I had wished she was- with more heart & respect for other people. She's been involved in all that and getting her masters. So all things concluded she might think she has a reason to boast and see herself above & better than others, but that's not her. Her heart, her gifts rather lean her to desire to be an example to young people- especially females. To: learn, grow, respect themselves, contribute to society, have high goals & vision & ideals. So I respect her for that too - but of course you can only go so far without God in the picture, you can get it mixed up.
= the right motives, wrong goals wrong ideals, and or wrong path to acheive those goals.

Like I don't agree with her total exact take on the feminism or the activisim, I respect her motives. I respect that she wants something bigger than her own "stuff", a nice job, to be thought well of &\or etc. etc. Hmm some similar thoughts & goals as my mother- different motive, different manner, bigger heart. For her it's more than just about her "making her way", getting her own, getting her piece of the pie, showing the world who she is, showing off for herself, trying to just be better than others...

Think my sis-in law genuinely has a teachers heart (as well as prophetic), which is to desire the best in & for others. And they can greatly care for others & be selfless. Although it's not quite the gushing emotions & compassion that those in social service have, but still concern & caring.

So though they seem to be in rebellion towards God now, and they may be agnostic (ug or even humanist?)- for all these other things, i do "respect" them. Though, I do feel sad that one can desire & even achieve so much and still fall so far short...
"What does it profit a man if he gain the whole world & yet lose his soul?"

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