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Would you marry a drug addict?

Discussion in 'Singles (only*)' started by redblue22, Oct 16, 2013.

  1. redblue22

    redblue22 Active Member

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    Would you marry a drug addict who had no intention of stopping?


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  2. dogs4thewin

    dogs4thewin Legend Supporter CF Ambassador

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    no Now if he was HONESTLY trying to stop I would work with him but would not marry him unless and until he got clean.
     
  3. TheyCallMeDavid

    TheyCallMeDavid New Member

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    Why would anyone in thier right mind, decide to marry a drug addict ? That should be an automatic red flag. And no...love is not enough for a marriage to work ... it is only a start. You need a whole lot more than just those feelings . Some mandatory things for a marriage to work include : Huge responsibility, integrity, commitment, steady employment, deep personal relationship to God , no neurosis, good emotional health, being on the same wavelength for the future, strong morals , strong ethics, same goals, as a minimum. Entertaining a Drug Addict for marriage is not Gods plan for your life -- he desires two people who are are emotionally and spiritually mature . Please dont consider marrying anyone who shows a red flag like this. You are far better off on your own.
     
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  4. RobertMerton

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    are you a druggie OP?

    seek help mate.
     
  5. KitKatMatt

    KitKatMatt stupid bleeding heart feminist liberal

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    Nah.

    I've had to fight addictive behavior a lot in the past, I wouldn't want to live with someone else who was in the grips of addiction.
     
  6. JohnyPoppacapolis

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    A woman addicted to drugs would be worse than a woman that shops all the time. So no.
     
  7. Maka

    Maka Active Member

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    No! I wouldn't date anyone who did drugs either.
     
  8. Gracelands

    Gracelands Guest

    I understand addiction. I have an issue with Tramadol but I want to stop.Its not really an anti social drug. I'm not robbing to get it its prescribed. It doesn't really impact my moods and temper either.

    However, if i met a chap who had substance abuse issues/anti social issues/mood issues and no intention to stop no i wouldn't want a long term relationship.
     
  9. Gracelands

    Gracelands Guest

    i'll add to that though that more often than not love is not a rational thing. Most of us just kinda.. fall into it and all caution is thrown to the wind.
     
  10. nick garai

    nick garai Senior Member

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    No I would not.
     
  11. MehGuy

    MehGuy I am the actual ghost of saint Thérèse of Lisieux

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    Only if it was crystal meth.
     
  12. WileyCoyote

    WileyCoyote Contributor Supporter

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    Never. That would be a disaster waiting to happen.
     
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  14. JohnyPoppacapolis

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    I think Emily Haines from Metric did coke and she's pretty hot.
     
  15. Going Merry

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    Only if the drugs fit my lifestyle. Like cayenne snorting, or cayenne brownies
     
  16. Neve

    Neve Always even

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    No. Drug addiction is a dealbreaker.
     
  17. Messy

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    Nope, I married one who stopped and started right away when we were married.
     
  18. redblue22

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    what is it about drugs that make it a dealbreaker?

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  19. Saleena

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    not being able to pass a drug test and find work
    severe mood changes/ irritability when they jones
    stealing for a fix
    that's just a few things
     
  20. KitKatMatt

    KitKatMatt stupid bleeding heart feminist liberal

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    For me it's not the drugs, it's the addiction.

    Addiction of any kind is a huge dealbreaker for me.

    Would I marry someone who did drugs occasionally and wasn't an addict? Possibly, it would depend on a number of variables about the individual.