You married ONLY because you lusted? Is that what you are saying? And you found someone "decent"?
Have you ever thought about what you mean when you say the words, I love you to your spouse? In counseling, people regularly declare their love for their mate. However, if the person making this profession of love is struggling in their marriage I usually ask them to define the word love for me. I ask for this definition because I have found that many couples struggle with loving each other in two ways. The first is that they usually dont understand the practical actions that are involved in loving another. The second problem is much worse. Once a person knows how to love their mate, they simply choose not to act on this knowledge. This failure to walk in love is the most common cause of problems in a marriage. Therefore, test your knowledge of what it means to love and determine if you are behaving in a manner that is helping or hindering your relationship.
Why is this examination of your behavior so important? Its very simple. The way in which you love your mate will directly affect the way he or she will love you.
Jesus said, "Whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them" (Matt. 7:12). Therefore, if you want your spouse to sincerely love you, you first must be actively loving your mate. You may already be thinking, But he or she is not loving me. That may be true, but your only responsibility before God is to deal with your own behavior. You cant change your spouse, but you can influence them by how you behave. Ask yourself if you love in this manner.
What It Means To Love Your Spouse