I don't know about a lot of you, but most of my friends are married. In fact, on the top of my head I'm realising that all of my closest friends are married.
I have watched their relationships throughout the years and saw certain things in them that I really like, and things that I really don't like.
Have you noticed this in your friendships?
How about movies or TV? Have you seen relationships that make you want to swoon or groan with exasperation?
I thought I'd jot down a few things that I've noticed and think is neat. Some I wouldn't mind incorporating in my own marriage (which will probably not happen).
~ Not to talk negatively about each other in front of or to other people. Not even in jest. I LOVE this one. One couple has accountability partners outside of the marriage and that's where they vent, but that's about it.
~ Allow independence. One couple I know are very close but they have their own email accounts, own Facebook accounts, and sometimes own checking accounts. Even if one party is the only one working. It works for them and it shows that even though two become one, there are still two people involved.
~ Being on the same page with disciplining children even if they don't agree. A child walks up, "Can I have a soda?" Mum says yes, Dad says no. They say decide on no and when the child walks away they talk about it. Even if it's real quick. "Why can't she have a soda." "she's already had 5 pounds of gummy bears. I think she's had enough sugar for the next 10 years." "Well I still would have let her for this special occasion." "I know." and it's over. I love it!
~ Having fun arguments. Not all arguments have to be thought provoking and painful. Some can be fun if you know how to do it.
Anyone else have any other observations?
I have watched their relationships throughout the years and saw certain things in them that I really like, and things that I really don't like.
Have you noticed this in your friendships?
How about movies or TV? Have you seen relationships that make you want to swoon or groan with exasperation?
I thought I'd jot down a few things that I've noticed and think is neat. Some I wouldn't mind incorporating in my own marriage (which will probably not happen).
~ Not to talk negatively about each other in front of or to other people. Not even in jest. I LOVE this one. One couple has accountability partners outside of the marriage and that's where they vent, but that's about it.
~ Allow independence. One couple I know are very close but they have their own email accounts, own Facebook accounts, and sometimes own checking accounts. Even if one party is the only one working. It works for them and it shows that even though two become one, there are still two people involved.
~ Being on the same page with disciplining children even if they don't agree. A child walks up, "Can I have a soda?" Mum says yes, Dad says no. They say decide on no and when the child walks away they talk about it. Even if it's real quick. "Why can't she have a soda." "she's already had 5 pounds of gummy bears. I think she's had enough sugar for the next 10 years." "Well I still would have let her for this special occasion." "I know." and it's over. I love it!
~ Having fun arguments. Not all arguments have to be thought provoking and painful. Some can be fun if you know how to do it.
Anyone else have any other observations?