I thank all of you for your imput but I want to know about sterotyping and how that factors into friendships . I borrowed the following from another thread to make a point....
He's UGLY but GORGEOUS?! What do I do?
We have strong feelings for each other and have decided to meet up to get to know each other better. (This is purely for marriage potentially, we're not playing around). However I have seen his pictures and (no offence to him at all) he is not so good looking (below average).
My sister saw his photos and came to me protesting, saying 'You're so beautiful you could do so much better' and telling me he looks 'very very bad' and stuff.
I don't know what to do guys?! Do I meet him and give it a go, or find another good christian guy who looks average at least? Looks aren't important, yes, but when the person is considerably below average...well.....
You see even christians are jugdemental when it comes to physical appearence and I think it factors in all aspects of life..As someone who is ..(as much as I hate to admit it) below average, unfortunately in the looks department as well , I know all to well the challenges that "ugly" people face and the opportunities and experiences that they never will have because of their lack of attractiveness . I know that this is off of the subject of friendship but it really bothers me that people are so shallow. I have been threatened to be beat up so many times, in my opinion , just because I didnt fit in. I f I had a dollar for everytime , I would would be a millionaire. I have even been threaten to be killed( my mom was there standing next to me when one guy threaten to kill me), again because I didnt fit in, in their mind , I wasnt normal looking enough,I was a waste of space Ive been denied jobs because , I didnt have the "look" even though I was well qualified. I guess I should be grateful noone has ever layed a hand on me , it is frustrating. If I could snap my fingures and make every "ugly " person super attractive I would , because noone should have to go through that. Even if you are just average looking, be grateful for that . Sorry for being off of topic, I had to vent, especially after reading the above thread. Yes I do know that she was talking about marriage. But I think that , that type of shallowness exists in all aspects of life. Any thoughts and / or comments?
Also if you want to refer to the thread which I mention above it was posted by sweet_gal on November 11th ,
I would like to say is ... if you happen to see some in your church group or club, etc, who is less than " attractive" rather that judging that person..him or her .. harshly , go up and talk to them get to know them ., you maybe suprised , they my not be as quite a loser / underachiver, unintelligent, unatheletic . uninteresting etc as you first thought but rather quite the opposite. Dont be so quick to write them off.