Views on adult products in marriage.

[Razzie]

If it positively helps your marriage and doesn't interfere with your or your spouses walk with Christ, then I think it's OK.

My biggest caution would be where you get them? I would guess most places selling them also sell inappropriate contentography - which does damage many marriages and many walks with Christ. I would not want to support a store that sold inappropriate contentography in addition to these toys. (Since toys are not a desire for either of us, I don't know for certain if you can find places that don't sell both.)

You can find sites on the internet that just sell the toys and Such. This way you wouldn't have to go into a store to make your purchase.

 

[JMRE5150]

Yes, stay out of those stores...all those stores have inappropriate content mags out in the open that have two women having sex, homosexual sex, gangbangs, etc. It is filled with inappropriate contentography, and completely unacceptable. You can purchase "toys" without having to look at or be around inappropriate contentography.

 

[Oblivious]

I'm one who believes that a married couple can do whatever they want in the bedroom. IMO If you want to use adult toys go for it!

 

[inHisgrip]

I was thinking today (yay for me! ).
What are your views on Christian couples using Adult toys and things in their sex life.
I'm not talking about watching inappropriate contentography together or anything like that but do you think its OK to use the Adult "toys"?
I myself would not see a problem with it if they were for erotic times between you and your spouse.
Sex is something God gave us to enjoy and I myself see nothing wrong with them.
I guess the reason I am asking is because, I still have some toys from when my fiancé and I were promiscuous. They are things we used before we became Christian and in less then 2 weeks we will be married and sexually active.

Should I keep them or toss them out?

If it is okay with both partners I think it is fine. Also as long as it is not taking from the intimacy of being together(i.e. self gratification, inappropriate contentography, ect.)
Its about being comfortable with your spouse.
In Him

 

[Buzz Dixon]

When God talks about keeping the bedroom clean, does that mean toys etc.?

No, it means vacuum the dust bunnies from under the bed.

(It's a JOKE, folks!)

Seriously, as long as the toys and accoutrements do not become a fetish (i.e., they become the object of sexual desire instead of the spouse one is supposedly enjoying them with), it's okay. I see where many people would not think inappropriate content is acceptable in a marriage.

Hmmm, re-reading your message, I should think one would want to keep one's toys clean. I mean...yuck!

 

[ShaunJ]

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Hmmm, re-reading your message, I should think one would want to keep one's toys clean. I mean...yuck!

That could be a potential health hazzard.

 

[tobeproverbs31]

I am glad someone else brought this up...My husband has purchased lots of toys recently...he says they are for me, but I am not comfortable. From a womans perspective I feel it cheapens intimacy. I would much rather just experiment one on one with no devices.

 

[plmarquette]

I was thinking today (yay for me! ).
What are your views on Christian couples using Adult toys and things in their sex life.
I'm not talking about watching inappropriate contentography together or anything like that but do you think its OK to use the Adult "toys"?
I myself would not see a problem with it if they were for erotic times between you and your spouse.
Sex is something God gave us to enjoy and I myself see nothing wrong with them.
I guess the reason I am asking is because, I still have some toys from when my fiancé and I were promiscuous. They are things we used before we became Christian and in less then 2 weeks we will be married and sexually active.

Should I keep them or toss them out?

Men are impatient creatures , who like toys .... if I find the right wiggle , vibrating , size , shape .... then ...

Actually , if you sit down and talk , honestly , direct one another's hands
show them what is best / how ... then quality , trust , team work provides some thing that blesses you both . What you enjoy , you do again , what is strained , you put off ..

 

[HeatherJay]

I am glad someone else brought this up...My husband has purchased lots of toys recently...he says they are for me, but I am not comfortable. From a womans perspective I feel it cheapens intimacy. I would much rather just experiment one on one with no devices.

If it's something that your uncomfortable with, then your husband should be able to respect that. Anything that causes tension is not something that's healthy for the marriage. Time for a heart-to-heart, maybe? Good luck and prayers for you. Welcome to CF.

 

[Andy Broadley]

I don't think that there is a problem with marital aids, as long as both people are happy with it. Don't have any myself but we do send each other sexy e mails which works just as well. Like was said earlier, God invented sex and designed our bodies in such a way that it should be enjoyed and be fun.

The only danger I can see is if sex cannot be enjoyable without them. Then there is a problem.

Asked my wife once why she didn't moan when we made love, so the next night she said "that ceiling needs painting"! (sorry)

 

[ShaunJ]

Asked my wife once why she didn't moan when we made love, so the next night she said "that ceiling needs painting"! (sorry)

 

[NoneyaBiznezz]

Ok, I just had to respond to this one...lol

Toys are a good thing but I would caution against use every time you and your spouse have an encounter. My wife likes the toys so I have a hard time denying her things that turn her on but this does bruise my ego a little at times I can live with the bruises....lol

 

[DeLandGator]

my wife and I have used drugstore.com for our toy purchases...no inappropriate contento etc and have product reviews by actual users...

 

[RoyceP]

Be very careful! I bought my wife some sex positions books after we had been married 5 or so years ago. I found myself lusting over the images in these books and later I found my son looking at them. I thought I had hidden them for the kids but my son found them. I immediately burned the books realizing that I was creating a trigger for my son to get involved with inappropriate content. In truth, the books really taught is nothing that we had not or could not have learned on our own.

Royce.

 

[bshaw96]

Well, I'll give my 2 cents for what it's worth. My husband and I have "adult toys" that we use together. Im not speaking of inappropriate contentography either. We are married, have been for 8 years, and only recently discovered them. I am the type that will ask God anything (including issues on my sex life) and while He's never come back with a direct answer (might shock me anyway, lol), I have never once felt convicted for it. And believe me, I know when Ive done something that crosses the line in other areas of my life, there is just a knowing in me it is wrong. I see no reason He wouldn't give me the same knowing regarding this. JMO.

 

[startingover]

Here are my 2 cents... If there is no one else involved in your "sex play," then go for it. By "no one else" I mean no one else physically present or present in any sort of media.

I, too, had a Kama Sutra and was always uncomfortable with my now-ex husband looking at the other women in the book. Before that, we had such a good time thinking up new positions ourselves.

I shopped online for toys. I do not want to be surounded with inappropriate content, like at adult stores. Try drugstore or amazon. com for games, vibrators, etc. I think that they can enhance a couple's sex life, especially if the woman has a very hard time reaching [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse].

 

[Kokopelli]

I am half tempted to make a smart alec comment, but I think it'll hold my toung. My wife and I have been to those shops. They have string of them on the interstates called, "We Bare All." Ironically, when we did go in one, looking for toys, I wasn't lusting after the women performing their acts. Not because I was afraid with the wife present, but they simply did not keep my interest.

Our marraige has had a few "toys" for her and the Kama Sutra book. Asside from handcuffs, I am really disinterested in the "toys," mainly because: 1. prefer the real thing.

2. Call me a luddite, but I have a hesitations about using something that carries an electrical charge, albiet a small one, in that area.

 

[AirForceTeacher]

http://www.themarriagebed.com/index.shtml

The site above has a long discussion about this, including a link to a non-inappropriate contentographic source of sex toys for Christians.

 

[forgiven_by_jesus]

Hello all, I am new to this and would like to ask an embarassing question. My husband and I have used Adult toys for years and we see nothing wrong with it. But the bible states that you are not to sodomize someone, do you think that is the same situation with adult toys? My husband and I just do not want to cross the line.

With love in Christ

Christy

 

[HeatherJay]

Hello all, I am new to this and would like to ask an embarassing question. My husband and I have used Adult toys for years and we see nothing wrong with it. But the bible states that you are not to sodomize someone, do you think that is the same situation with adult toys? My husband and I just do not want to cross the line.

With love in Christ

Christy

I think that as long as both you and your husband are comfortable with it, there's nothing wrong with it.

Welcome to CF.