Toughest Decision Of My Life

[prince didymus]

I agree Iddie4him. He came here to share his feelings about a struggle he's experiencing in his life currently and to receive some compassion. Not to receive the old "being gay is wrong" essay.

 

[Iddie4him]

Whitehorse,

While I can understand your concerns about the possibility of closing the thread, I simply stated that Jacob came here asking for support. I believe that there is a BIG difference between loving another man and having sex with him. Jacob hasn't crossed that line and doesn't need anymore flack from us that comdemn that lifestyle. If we could just give him that support as brothers and sisters in christ, Then we can help him thru this difficult time. If not, then you have a choice whether to post or not.

Jacob,

I hope that steven is doing better and will be out of the hospital soon and on his way to a speedy recovery.

 

[Jacob4Jesus]

Thanks, Iddie4him, I appreciate it. I saw Steven the other day. He is still pretty incoherent, but he did say 'Jacob' at one point. Hopefully he's getting better. I will be seeing him this Friday too. Hopefully more progress will be made.

Prayers

Jacob

 

[TheOriginalWhitehorse]

Iddie, I'm glad you're concerned for Jacob. Thank you for responding to my private message, although posting your response out publically on the forums may have caused more damage to the one you mean to protect.

Jacob, you're in my prayers.

 

[desi]

*Iddie4him puts mod hat on for a minute to make a point.

I believe Jacob came here asking for some compassion, Not condemnation for his admitted love for another human being. I suggest that we stay on topic and not on chastising him for what we feel isn't a normal lifestyle. I will close this thread if I have to.

Sorry boss, didn't mean to ruin things by bringing up the Bible's stance on homosexuality. For some odd reason I thought it might apply on a Christian Forum.

 

[kiwimac]

Jacob,

Give yourself some distance and some time. If you love Steven and he loves you then he will need you again as he heals. Once the major physical traumas heal and are behind him, his mind will naturally turn to the emotional / spiritual traumas of his life.

If you love him, you will need to prepare so that you can support him (even if only from a distance) as he explores who he is post-accident. But, please, do not cut yourself off from the possibility of this relationship, God may yet have more to say to you in the person of your beloved Steven.

May the Wise Lord bless you both in your pain and in your struggles and may He guide you!

Kiwimac

 

[kiwimac]

Sorry boss, didn't mean to ruin things by bringing up the Bible's stance on homosexuality. For some odd reason I thought it might apply on a Christian Forum.

The Bible says an awful lot about judging someone else's heart and their walk with God and nothing about homosexuality as we understand it today.

More to the point Jacob came seeking compassion for a difficult decision, one that not only hurt him but would hurt others too, he needs neither condemnation nor scriptures to be hurled in his face.

Kiwimac

 

[desi]

The Bible says an awful lot about judging someone else's heart and their walk with God and nothing about homosexuality as we understand it today.

More to the point Jacob came seeking compassion for a difficult decision, one that not only hurt him but would hurt others too, he needs neither condemnation nor scriptures to be hurled in his face.

Kiwimac

You seem to think homosexuality is different today than it was long ago, I don't get it. Did God tell you he changed his mind about it? Is murder different today too? I'm starting to think I care more for Jacob than some of the others here as I'm one of the few concerned how this will affect his eternal spiritual life instead of how he feels this month. We can all make him feel better today by telling him everything will be okay and noone should judge him. How does this ultimately help him if he is not discouraged from pursuing this to its train-wreck of a destination?

 

[doofus125]

desi, I think it's time we dropped this, it's jacob's decision, we have all voiced that we feel it's wrong, but it's up to him to make that decision for himself, I just wish him and steven the best.

 

[Iddie4him]

Very True Doofus,

But, The main point here is that The Struggles, Depression, and Recovery Forum IS NOT A FORUM FOR DEBATING. It is a forum for the helping of people and for all of us to show those needing help the Love, Compassion, and Caring that they deserve and need to help them thru their time of trials. Is this clear enough ??