I see how that could be confusing, but I didn't intend this. It's not one or the other it's both. I just brought up the first point to demonstrate that there are 'practical' reasons for it since the person I was replying to said there is never a good reason for it. Yes I do have physical issues, but I also have psychological reasons for crossdressing [I thought I made this clear in earlier comments (I can't remember), but you might have missed that].
I admit that seemed a little contradictory, but that was not intended at all. I hope this clarifies it for you.
In fact sometimes I wonder how much my physical problem has affected my psychological state. I've had this issue for over 14 years. 14 years of nearly chronic pain in a such a personal place can do a lot to one's emotional well being. I've been to several doctors about the pain and so far they have told me to either take narcotics, just deal with it, or undergo risky surgeries that might end up causing me more pain... thousands of dollars for that advice doesn't make me too happy. I often ask myself how much the physical pain I experience has actually affected my dissatisfaction with being masculine. I guess it makes it harder for me to want to be a man when my manly parts cause me so much pain every day of my life, especially since I had issues with my masculinity before I had these physical challenges.
While I had tried on a few articles of women's clothing in the past out of curiosity (about 3 times) I tried very hard to avoid it because I was afraid of what people would think of me if they found out I wanted to wear women's clothing. Ever since I was little I wanted to wear girls/women's clothes, but I had never really crossdressed until after I got married and had kids.
BlackSabb, I agree with you that I have issues. I've been trying to work through them for a very long time. I've spoken to councilors, a psychiatrist, ecclesiastical leaders and doctors about them and for the most part the only thing I have found so far that helps is being completely honest with myself and my wife about the way I feel. I was very close to wanting to kill myself over this (it scares me to think how close I was). I was scared to death that my wife wouldn't want to be with me anymore if I told her how I felt and I hated hiding my feelings (I tried so hard not to feel how I do, but it didn't work) but when I actually discussed my feelings in complete honesty with my wife she showed me nothing but compassion, love, and understanding. That was the best day of my life.
Anyway, I just thought that discussing this topic with a community of Christians might help me further understand why I feel the way I do about things, and I thought my experience my help someone else as well.
Sorry about being a little argumentative earlier.