As unusual as the title may sound, I was doing a Google search on this topic, and had come across message boards of Christian singles suffering the same plight. "I'm Frustrated Trying To Date Christian Women"
The whole "I'm dating Jesus" thing or "I think of you as a brother in Christ" excuses.
It appears when though a guy is looking for a Christian woman to date, there is never really what appears to be honest communication from the Christian, and they hide behind their faith as a reason to side-step their real answers. Where as secular types tend to be more candid if things aren't working out.
There are concerns about even if you did get into a dating relationship with a Christian woman (or man), that everything would have to be so legalistic. This is where people lose sight of dating and the getting to know you process. It's rather unnatural.
An excerpt:
I'll set aside the 'unequally yoked' speech (which I'm sure you'll get from half the comments here) and risk the downvotes by saying that I don't blame you. There's following God and there's religion, and religious people can be the worst. It can be refreshing to just hang with people who don't carry the baggage of years of repression and judgment and insipid rules (like how quick you can kiss or how fast you're going to hell if your divorce wasn't exactly in line with the sometimes vague language in the Bible).
Also:
I think when people note the steep dropoff of younger people who identify as religious/churchgoers, that culture is largely responsible. Millennials and younger generations want realness, and it can be hard to find there.
The link to the post is up top (right), there's a good amount of insight, and it definitely resonates with me.
It's ironic, that even though unequally yoked, that you can connect and be compatible in every other way with a secular person, if you set religion/faith aside. This is how frustrating it can be.
I've been talking to a Christian woman that is this way, and she's told me she's been on very few dates, and the dates she had been on, she did meet in church, but apparently, she didn't think they thirst for Christ as much as she did....like...they weren't at her level....regardless of their faith. And they're all Christian across the board, just didn't share the same "thirst" for it as she did.
The whole "I'm dating Jesus" thing or "I think of you as a brother in Christ" excuses.
It appears when though a guy is looking for a Christian woman to date, there is never really what appears to be honest communication from the Christian, and they hide behind their faith as a reason to side-step their real answers. Where as secular types tend to be more candid if things aren't working out.
There are concerns about even if you did get into a dating relationship with a Christian woman (or man), that everything would have to be so legalistic. This is where people lose sight of dating and the getting to know you process. It's rather unnatural.
An excerpt:
I'll set aside the 'unequally yoked' speech (which I'm sure you'll get from half the comments here) and risk the downvotes by saying that I don't blame you. There's following God and there's religion, and religious people can be the worst. It can be refreshing to just hang with people who don't carry the baggage of years of repression and judgment and insipid rules (like how quick you can kiss or how fast you're going to hell if your divorce wasn't exactly in line with the sometimes vague language in the Bible).
Also:
I think when people note the steep dropoff of younger people who identify as religious/churchgoers, that culture is largely responsible. Millennials and younger generations want realness, and it can be hard to find there.
The link to the post is up top (right), there's a good amount of insight, and it definitely resonates with me.
It's ironic, that even though unequally yoked, that you can connect and be compatible in every other way with a secular person, if you set religion/faith aside. This is how frustrating it can be.
I've been talking to a Christian woman that is this way, and she's told me she's been on very few dates, and the dates she had been on, she did meet in church, but apparently, she didn't think they thirst for Christ as much as she did....like...they weren't at her level....regardless of their faith. And they're all Christian across the board, just didn't share the same "thirst" for it as she did.
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