you want to know why you should be listening to your parents and doing what they say?
This is why(its going to be long)
EPH 6:1
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER (which is the first commandment with a promise),3 SO THAT IT MAY BE WELL WITH YOU, AND THAT YOU MAY LIVE LONG ON THE EARTH.
Children, obey your parents in the Lord for this is right. Honor your father and mother which is the first commandment with promise that it may be well with you and that you may live long on the earth." By the way, these are the only verses in the Bible that command children. Children should be taught these. They should specifically be taught these things. They should be taught to obey.
Children, by the way, the word "children" is ta tekna, it's the general word for offspring, it doesn't necessarily identify an infant, there's another word for an infant. It's just talking about children in general, no age is in view, from the birth all the way to being young people, as long as they are under parental control and parental care, as soon as they are old enough to know what is right they are to be taught to obey their parents. That strong self-centered depravity has to be harnessed, and obedience is the key to that. They must be taught to obey. The word "obey" is
hupakouo,
akouo has to do with hearing, hupa, under--to get under and listen. Obedience is the issue, teach your children to obey.
And really that's the issue. And I'll tell you something. As you raise your children and you're consistently doing that, there will be times when they fight against it more aggressively than other times. And those are the battle times, when you have to consistently force the issue of their obedience and make the consequence severe enough so that they get the message. It's not going to be ten years of battle, it will be ten years of teaching with here and there, a few weeks of real warfare as they endeavor to fight to maintain the freedoms of their own evil nature.
This is so serious to God, listen to what it says in Exodus 21 verses 15 and 17, "And he who strikes his father or his mother shall surely be put to death." Whoa...that's some serious respect. In the old economy, you hit your mother, you hit your father, you're dead.
And listen to what the rest of it says, verse 17, "He who curses his father or his mother shall surely be put to death." Kill those children who don't show their parents respect.
You say, "Whoa, is God that serious about it?" God knows that there is no way as He identifies His people in Exodus, as He calls them out to be a witnessing nation in the world, there is no way to perpetuate righteousness in a family unless there is obedience. And it is so serious that that law of God be perpetuated from Israel and spread around the world that He says if you have any child that won't obey, just kill him. Disobedience and disrespect, punishable by death. That is how serious an issue this is. You can't pass on righteousness to a generation. You can't even have a society that controls itself. You can't have anything that is ordered unless you have people who have learned submission, obedience, and the big word, self- control. When you teach your children to obey, you teach them self-control. You teach them how to repress their depravity, how to win the victory over their sinful impulses. You do it by making the consequences severe enough that they won't do it. It's the only hope for society. It's the only hope for the preservation of righteousness. It's the only hope for the truth of God to be passed on, is an obedient generation of children. So serious was God at the start of this that He said kill the ones that won't do it.
You see, children are deficient in four areas. And you can find those areas simply by reminding yourself of Luke 2:52 where it says about our Lord Jesus, "And Jesus kept increasing in wisdom and stature and in favor with God and man." Jesus as a little child grew. He grew in four areas. Wisdom and stature, that means he grew mentally and physically. In favor with God and man, that means He grew spiritually and socially. Those are the four categories in which children are deficient. They are mentally deficient, what that means is they have limited knowledge and limited wisdom. They are physically deficient, they have limited strength. They are socially deficient, they are selfish and proud. You know, they want what they want when they want it and they show off a lot. And they are spiritually deficient in that they are sinful and do not know God personally.
Obey your parents in the Lord," what does that mean? For the Lord's sake because your parents are teaching you the things that are precious to the Lord. Children, you should obey your parents willingly. You should obey your parents unconditionally. You should obey your parents gladly and joyfully because they are teaching you the truth of God. And all these efforts that go on in our culture, all these efforts that go on to liberate children from parental authority and liberate children from physical punishment are disastrous and violate God's law.
For more info on this check this site (ps, all my info came directly from here)
http://www.biblebb.com/files/MAC/1948.HTM
http://www.biblebb.com/files/MAC/1949.HTM
peace
Sounds all too familiar! My parents can be very controlling. 
