But it's been demonstrated (by international research) that parents don't need to teach their kids sex ed.
Again, international research is irrelevant. The differences between the cultures of America and Japan is so staggering, it would be like treating manic depression and aspergers with the same therapy session.
As far as the US goes, research shows that comprehensive sex ed (not abstinence only garbage) significantly cuts down on teenage pregnancy. You can call it "gaffer tape" if you want, but there is no better alternative right now. There is no other program that works better, and having no program at all works very poorly.
So the bottom line is, comprehensive sex ed leads to less teen pregnancies in the US.
No sex ed at all and even abstinence only sex ed leads to more teen pregnancies in the US.
Given the actual mountain of data we have to support sex ed in the US, what should we be doing, really? Nothing till 15?
Of course exposure to sexual material sexualises kids.
Sorry, I didn't explain that well enough. I didn't mean that teaching sex ed wouldn't start kids thinking about sex. I meant they're already thinking about sex by the time we start giving them sex ed. They're already sexualized, so giving them a better understanding of what they're already talking about, thinking about, imagining, etc... Is a good thing.
Having said all that, I guess I just don't know enough about America's particular problems, if you have so many grad schoolers getting jiggy etc.
Are you not American? Sorry, don't mean to sound patronizing or anything, I just assumed you were, but this makes it sound like you aren't. I forget sometimes how many people from outside the US post here, so I just assume most of us are from the US of A.
On a side note, my wife, when she was in the fifth grade, witnessed a classmate performing orally for another classmate under the desk. So believe me, it's out there and it's happening and we have to address it somehow as a society, not just tell parents to do a better job.
Meantime, the govt would be better off putting resources into self-esteem and resilience programs. That's the cause of kids falling off the rails, not lack of information on condoms.
I don't think self-esteem is as much of a problem with it as you might think. Of course it is the problem sometimes, but a lot of the time kids just think it's cool. As a boy I thought about sex a lot as a grade-schooler even, and talked to no end about it with my other male friends. I don't know how different it is for girls, but we weren't all suffering from low self esteem.
If you get dysfunctional or emotionally unintelligent 13 year olds thinking that sex is super important (and that is the message these programs deliver, intentionally or otherwise), you're more likely to see it acted out than if this message is not sent.
"Important"? I don't see it. Important to do it safely if you're going to, maybe. But even comprehensive sex ed warns against having sex by talking about unwanted pregnancies and STDs. They even show pictures most of the time... yech!
Why not also have them do compulsory "school drop out, on welfare" preparation courses?
Because we don't expect kids to do that. That's just like your "stealing a car" analogy. It's normal to have sex sometime in your life, and it's normal to experiment with alcohol and (some) drugs sometime in your life. It's fine if you never do, but it doesn't make you a social deviant to use either (or both) recreationally at times.