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This is a concept I realized I really don't understand,
and in my attempt to be "less ignorant" I wanted to put this out there and see if anyone understands where those who do this are coming from.
about 13 or 14 years back, there was this small-studio movie called "a walk to remember" it starred Mandy Moore and it was about a wayward high school bad boy who got into trouble and how mandatory community service landing him working side by side with this small-town preacher's daughter who he always made fun of.
They wind up falling in love and then she tells him she's dying from leukemia. They marry anyway, even though he has only a few months to enjoy her.
It's a movie, and it's from a Nicholas Sparks novel and it's based on a true story (I think).
I was 14 when I saw that in theaters, and it was the first time I ever heard of someone marrying someone who was dying.
They made it LOOK beautiful and romantic though.
Over the years I'd read real stories from like Huffington Post about actual people who were dying and their dying wish was to marry their girlfriend or boyfriend so they had a wedding right there in the hospital.
Most recently, there's been this old couple that are customers at work and they are in their 60's, they dated in high school, then he went off the war and she married someone else .... now she's alone again so they started dating but he's dying from tumors and they still plan to elope even though he's on his last leg.
What is that called? Why do people do that?
I can imagine marrying someone with a disability.... technically I did, I married someone with PTSD and it's hard sometimes... and I can imagine getting married to someone with maybe a health condition or autism or a physical disability and you have to compromise alot but you have your whole lives together.
But I could never imagine getting romantically, emotionally attached to someone who is going to be gone soon.
gone overseas? yes, they might come back.
gone forever, eternal sleep? no. I couldn't put my heart through that yikes.
Is there a name for the act of purposefully marrying someone who is dying, to grant a dying wish? Is that a type of altruism?
Just curious. Enlighten me.
and in my attempt to be "less ignorant" I wanted to put this out there and see if anyone understands where those who do this are coming from.
about 13 or 14 years back, there was this small-studio movie called "a walk to remember" it starred Mandy Moore and it was about a wayward high school bad boy who got into trouble and how mandatory community service landing him working side by side with this small-town preacher's daughter who he always made fun of.
They wind up falling in love and then she tells him she's dying from leukemia. They marry anyway, even though he has only a few months to enjoy her.
It's a movie, and it's from a Nicholas Sparks novel and it's based on a true story (I think).
I was 14 when I saw that in theaters, and it was the first time I ever heard of someone marrying someone who was dying.
They made it LOOK beautiful and romantic though.
Over the years I'd read real stories from like Huffington Post about actual people who were dying and their dying wish was to marry their girlfriend or boyfriend so they had a wedding right there in the hospital.
Most recently, there's been this old couple that are customers at work and they are in their 60's, they dated in high school, then he went off the war and she married someone else .... now she's alone again so they started dating but he's dying from tumors and they still plan to elope even though he's on his last leg.
What is that called? Why do people do that?
I can imagine marrying someone with a disability.... technically I did, I married someone with PTSD and it's hard sometimes... and I can imagine getting married to someone with maybe a health condition or autism or a physical disability and you have to compromise alot but you have your whole lives together.
But I could never imagine getting romantically, emotionally attached to someone who is going to be gone soon.
gone overseas? yes, they might come back.
gone forever, eternal sleep? no. I couldn't put my heart through that yikes.
Is there a name for the act of purposefully marrying someone who is dying, to grant a dying wish? Is that a type of altruism?
Just curious. Enlighten me.