I have a neighbor who has a crush on me. I am in the middle of a divorce, and am not in the least bit interested in dating anyone, much less this guy. He's sweet, and very funny, and claims to be a Christian, but cusses like a sailor, and talks about sex continuously, no matter how many times I tell him how much it bothers me. Other than those two bad things, I really like being around him because he's a good listener and he's hilarious. But I can't deal with the cussing and sex talk.
I witness to him every time we talk, and I've bought him some Christian books and a new testament bible to carry around.
So here's the problem. The guy is an insomniac....so much that he goes days without sleep, even though he's on heavy duty sleep meds. He's very hyper and gets upset easily, so he could have a medical condition like an overactive thyroid or a vitamin deficency. I made the mistake of telling him that I have problems sleeping too, and am sometimes up all hours of the night trying to sleep.
Well, he started calling me all hours of the night...."just to talk". I told him that I don't want him calling after midnight because I have to have my sleep. So he'd call at 5am, 7:15am, 11:59pm, etc. etc. So I started taking my phones off the hook so I can get some sleep.
I have some serious health issues (Type 1 diabetes, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Fibroymalgia, depression, etc.) and if I go without sleep, it really messes me up physically. I try to go to bed around 1am and then I get up around 8:30....and I try hard to stick to that schedule. If I can't sleep, then I'm in bed TRYING to sleep!
So I had my phone off the hook the other night, as usual. I was very tired and went to bed earlier than usual. When I finally got up and turned my phone on, there was a rather rude, long message from my neighbor, chewing me out.....he had called around 12:30 I think it was, and he was very upset because I had not answered the phone when he called.
He could not sleep (as usual) and he just wanted someone to talk to-maybe that helps him sleep, I don't know. He really chewed me out and said something that really hurt me.....he said......
"Well, maybe you need to spend a little less time preaching at me and more time being a real Christian! I just wanted someone to talk to because I couldn't sleep-but you obviously don't want to talk to me! If you don't, then just tell me and I'll leave you alone!"
That hurt my feelings because I try so hard to be a "real Christian" and I don't know how much of my sleep I need to give up for this guy! I mean, as a Christian, am I supposed to compromise my own health and go without sleep, which will really mess up my sleep patterns, get my diabetes all out of whack, make the Fibro and Chronic Fatigue worse, etc, etc.
I really want to be one of those SELFLESS Christians who would jump out of bed at 3am to go help a friend...but honestly, I'm nowhere near that because of my health issues and my own lack of getting enough sleep.
If I don't get enough sleep, I get very moody and depressed, foggy headed, etc....and it really affects my job. I'm up for a job dialogue now and the managers are watching me like a hawk, and I've screwed up at work lately anyway when I have not gotten enough sleep.
So seriously...am I a bad Christian because I take my phone off the hook when I sleep? I tried calling the guy 3 different times to apologize to him for not being there for him when he needed someone to talk to when I was trying to sleep, but he refuses to pick up the phone. Obviously he's very mad at me.
I witness to him every time we talk, and I've bought him some Christian books and a new testament bible to carry around.
So here's the problem. The guy is an insomniac....so much that he goes days without sleep, even though he's on heavy duty sleep meds. He's very hyper and gets upset easily, so he could have a medical condition like an overactive thyroid or a vitamin deficency. I made the mistake of telling him that I have problems sleeping too, and am sometimes up all hours of the night trying to sleep.
Well, he started calling me all hours of the night...."just to talk". I told him that I don't want him calling after midnight because I have to have my sleep. So he'd call at 5am, 7:15am, 11:59pm, etc. etc. So I started taking my phones off the hook so I can get some sleep.
I have some serious health issues (Type 1 diabetes, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Fibroymalgia, depression, etc.) and if I go without sleep, it really messes me up physically. I try to go to bed around 1am and then I get up around 8:30....and I try hard to stick to that schedule. If I can't sleep, then I'm in bed TRYING to sleep!
So I had my phone off the hook the other night, as usual. I was very tired and went to bed earlier than usual. When I finally got up and turned my phone on, there was a rather rude, long message from my neighbor, chewing me out.....he had called around 12:30 I think it was, and he was very upset because I had not answered the phone when he called.
He could not sleep (as usual) and he just wanted someone to talk to-maybe that helps him sleep, I don't know. He really chewed me out and said something that really hurt me.....he said......
"Well, maybe you need to spend a little less time preaching at me and more time being a real Christian! I just wanted someone to talk to because I couldn't sleep-but you obviously don't want to talk to me! If you don't, then just tell me and I'll leave you alone!"
That hurt my feelings because I try so hard to be a "real Christian" and I don't know how much of my sleep I need to give up for this guy! I mean, as a Christian, am I supposed to compromise my own health and go without sleep, which will really mess up my sleep patterns, get my diabetes all out of whack, make the Fibro and Chronic Fatigue worse, etc, etc.
I really want to be one of those SELFLESS Christians who would jump out of bed at 3am to go help a friend...but honestly, I'm nowhere near that because of my health issues and my own lack of getting enough sleep.
If I don't get enough sleep, I get very moody and depressed, foggy headed, etc....and it really affects my job. I'm up for a job dialogue now and the managers are watching me like a hawk, and I've screwed up at work lately anyway when I have not gotten enough sleep.
So seriously...am I a bad Christian because I take my phone off the hook when I sleep? I tried calling the guy 3 different times to apologize to him for not being there for him when he needed someone to talk to when I was trying to sleep, but he refuses to pick up the phone. Obviously he's very mad at me.