Is it immature to avoid a person who has hurt you? This person was not honest with me and basically took advantage of me.
They are also part of my church group. For quite some time I have avoided them, and largely avoided the group too. However, I dont really want to avoid the group and not participate. The other people in the group are frustrated with how I handle things, and have found ways to let me know they think I am just being immature. Things like saying were all adults here, be a man, or even just acting irritated towards me. I dont want to overblow the situation, the comments are rare, and the irritation is subtle. It is enough to bother me though. Most of the people in the group really dont understand what the deal is or why Im even hurt. Let alone why I cant just get over it. What is the most mature way to handle this? Would it be more mature of me to participate in this group in full, and *try* to coexist with this person or maybe more mature to completely remove myself from this group? The group meets on a weekday evening, Ive shown up at the church, but have not participated with the group. I say hi, then do my own studying instead of study with the group.
Forgot to add, but the person who took advantage of me avoids me too. Just not the point that they will not participate in the group. Just wont talk to me or even acknowledge I exist. Walked past them, and they just glanced at me and looked really angry to see me.
They are also part of my church group. For quite some time I have avoided them, and largely avoided the group too. However, I dont really want to avoid the group and not participate. The other people in the group are frustrated with how I handle things, and have found ways to let me know they think I am just being immature. Things like saying were all adults here, be a man, or even just acting irritated towards me. I dont want to overblow the situation, the comments are rare, and the irritation is subtle. It is enough to bother me though. Most of the people in the group really dont understand what the deal is or why Im even hurt. Let alone why I cant just get over it. What is the most mature way to handle this? Would it be more mature of me to participate in this group in full, and *try* to coexist with this person or maybe more mature to completely remove myself from this group? The group meets on a weekday evening, Ive shown up at the church, but have not participated with the group. I say hi, then do my own studying instead of study with the group.
Forgot to add, but the person who took advantage of me avoids me too. Just not the point that they will not participate in the group. Just wont talk to me or even acknowledge I exist. Walked past them, and they just glanced at me and looked really angry to see me.