Catherineanne
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Let's put it lightly, I have a family who either at "Atheists" or "Part of a Cult", I will not name the denomination so it doesn't look like I'm bashing.
Anyways I'm having a ton of trouble speaking to them, It seems no matter what I talk about with them, it's always varying opinions. It's to a point where I don't even want to talk to them, by the way it's not always talks about god and stuff like that, it's just every thing that my friends, family say to me are so out there and wrong in view that It makes it impossible for me to have a conversation that doesn't end with some argument.
I'm still young, but I don't know how to get out of this situation, When I talk with Jesus, I'm told, hang in there, things will get better.
It is very easy, particularly when we are young, to think that we have to go around correcting people when they are wrong. In fact, we don't. Other people are perfectly entitled to be wrong if they want to be.
There are things you can say when you hear things you disagree with, that will NOT lead to an argument, but will also not compromise your own conscience. Here are a few suggestions, but I am sure you can think of some more of your own.
That is an interesting suggestion.
Do you really think so?
Fair enough.
How interesting.
That is one way of looking at it, certainly.
You seem to have thought about this one very carefully.
The main thing is to affirm the person talking, without affirming that what they say is right to you, but also without arguing against it or defending your own point of view. From a Christian point of view this is perfectly valid, because it is the role of the Holy Spirit to convict any of us of our mistakes, whether of sin or of opinion. We cannot go around correcting one another; it is his job and only he can do it. Don't rise to provocation, just use one of these phrases, and repeat it over and over if you want to. If you stop biting, the others will learn to stop trying to provoke you to argument.
If you can try not to defend your position, and to simply allow other people to be as misguided if they want to be, then you might find it easier to get along with them. It takes time to learn to relate to people this way, but in the end it makes for a far easier life.
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