You have to, sweetheart....
Also, you need to forgive him... not for his benefit but for your on. As long as a person or a situation has control over you, they have the power to keep you bound up and messed up. Let it go and let God deal with your husband. By being angry, you aren't punishing him, nut enabling him to have control that only God should have.
I'm glad I could help. I've just learned to implement that into my own life over the past few months. I realized that as long as we have our hand in something, there is no room for God to work. Also, to keep ourselves bound up in anger, hurt and resentment also suggests that we are afraid and unwilling to let God handle our vindication and need to somehow control the situation ourselves... Fear and faith can't occupy the same space.That was a really great way to say it. Actually, that made me feel a little better about my own situation. It's easy to get so caught up in how we should be treated and how badly we are currently being treated that we don't see what God is doing in the situation. Great advice!
I don't understand what exactly it is that you can't forgive.
A few people in here mentioned previous posts by you where the issue might be illuminated upon. Thankfully you've only got like 11 posts - so it was pretty easy to read back. However - after reading them - I'm still just utterly confused.
What exactly is it you can't forgive him for?
For talking to some girl's father - and not cutting all ties with the guy - because the daughter was a little flirty with him? Or the fact that when he was 18 or so - he made a mis-step in being kind of flirty with some other girl in college?
From reading your posts - I really don't know how to best advise you. You started dating the guy when you were 13 - and were "engaged" by the time you were leaving HS. Honestly - that (in and of itself) has a lot of problems the come along with it. Neither of you are really adults - and neither one of you has had time to grow into who you're going to be - without the considerations of "partnership" being thrown into the mix. Youth is meant to be spent growing into who you are - with only being true to yourself in mind. Once you know - then you get involved. Unfortunately - both of your growth has always been under the watch of each other.
If you hadn't been "engaged" - who knows if you'd have even ended up together. If you had met today - without all of those years of childhood "togetherness" - who knows if you even would have picked each other. That's why I'm not a fan of young marriage - and you guys almost define the term. You have no concept of life without each other - and each other's expectations.
So - what is it that you can't forgive? If it's the talks with the father of that other girl - or the girl that he flirted with a few years ago and it's resulting insecurities - then maybe you need to let go a little bit. All things considered - you're "lucky" (and I put that in quotes - because who knows what the future will bring) that it didn't go further.
Chill out a little bit.