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Ok so I just got in a big argument with my friend he's really kind of lame to me now that I am older but we have been friends for so long he is really family. I'm talking about I got a call from his mother mad she didn't get her invitation on the same time other people did, not seriously though just joking but serious at the same time....But that's the type of friends we are.
He's lame because he still into fighting and clubbing and going to all the parties. I just out grew that a long time ago jumping from girl to girl looking on the floor to see if a condom was there and that was in high school. He even introduced me to someone that got me robbed and I know he didnt have anything to do with it because he made sure to get most of my things back. But his life style is lame to me. lets call him YB.
I have another friend lets call him KB, really KB is like my brother. We are actually cousins. We grew up together fought together and got whoppings together, he even taught me how to tie a dorag, we have always been at competition with each other. But that is really my brother we grew up like on the same block, went to the same schools, so we are real close and more so brothers. Especially after his older brother got killed in a car accident. But KB and YB they do live very similar life styles as far as fighting, fast money, fast women but KB doesnt really like the club scene he out grew it the same time I did.
Anyway YB he has a problem with my fiancée. He feels as though she tries to change me, and since I have met her I have changed(I met both YB and my fiancée at the same time freshmen year). He tells me I am an animal in a cage he looks at my eyes and see's a lion in a zoo ready to get out. He really doesn't like my fiancée at all. He told me she changed the way I dressed, talked, acted, and had fun. But in my mind I think she just helped me grow up a bit, all she did was tell me when she thinks I'm wrong. I actually do the same thing I tell her whenever I think she is out of pocket. We dont just do it inside the relationship we do it with other relationships also. For example I have a lot more pride then I should, I didn't know that about myself. So God has really used her to help me stay humble and be more of a calm person with how I approach others. While she has a mean streak when she's mad and I'd like to believe that God has used me as a tool to soften her anger. We do this all through scripture and reading the bible and pointing out when each other is wrong and also right of course.
And of course my fiancée can't stand YB. She actually told me he uses me because I am a stable person and he just comes around when I have something to offer him....which is true but we are friends too. She thinks he always getting me into dangerous situations, she doesn't like who he hangs around and would rather me never talk to him again. She thinks of him as a little boy that won't grow up and be a man, "stop sagging, fighting and being teenage at 20 plus. You need to stop bailing him out and let him fall on his face so he can stand up a man."
So YB is mad that I am getting married and he talks to me like its not happening. Asks me constantly how many girls did I bag this weekend and how many clubs did I hit. Really uncomfortable almost being that I am trying to get married in feb. We got in an argument about it all tonight it kinda bothered me.
However KB is crazy about my fiancée he calls her his cousin in law and he actually always has liked her. When I asked him about it he told me that "people that dont have happiness like that would rather have me lonely with them." KB actually doesn't like YB because he feels like my fiancée is already family because we've been dating awhile, and due to the whole me getting robbed thing. So my fiancée and best man dont like YB.
Is it time that I let me freshmen friend go, so I can prosper as an adult in a grown up world?
should YB still be in my wedding party(my best man is saying no but I really dont care what YB thinks he's just my homeboy)?
Should I use the time KB is coming to visit to handle wedding things with a means for me to talk about how he's living? I mean the boy knows the word he actually reads his bible every single day. But he sells drugs, smokes weed , and does a lot of things I dont even really want to know about. How can someone be so deep in the word and have an understanding of the word and study the word but live so crooked? Its hard to talk to him about the Lord because he already knows what he's doing is wrong.
He's lame because he still into fighting and clubbing and going to all the parties. I just out grew that a long time ago jumping from girl to girl looking on the floor to see if a condom was there and that was in high school. He even introduced me to someone that got me robbed and I know he didnt have anything to do with it because he made sure to get most of my things back. But his life style is lame to me. lets call him YB.
I have another friend lets call him KB, really KB is like my brother. We are actually cousins. We grew up together fought together and got whoppings together, he even taught me how to tie a dorag, we have always been at competition with each other. But that is really my brother we grew up like on the same block, went to the same schools, so we are real close and more so brothers. Especially after his older brother got killed in a car accident. But KB and YB they do live very similar life styles as far as fighting, fast money, fast women but KB doesnt really like the club scene he out grew it the same time I did.
Anyway YB he has a problem with my fiancée. He feels as though she tries to change me, and since I have met her I have changed(I met both YB and my fiancée at the same time freshmen year). He tells me I am an animal in a cage he looks at my eyes and see's a lion in a zoo ready to get out. He really doesn't like my fiancée at all. He told me she changed the way I dressed, talked, acted, and had fun. But in my mind I think she just helped me grow up a bit, all she did was tell me when she thinks I'm wrong. I actually do the same thing I tell her whenever I think she is out of pocket. We dont just do it inside the relationship we do it with other relationships also. For example I have a lot more pride then I should, I didn't know that about myself. So God has really used her to help me stay humble and be more of a calm person with how I approach others. While she has a mean streak when she's mad and I'd like to believe that God has used me as a tool to soften her anger. We do this all through scripture and reading the bible and pointing out when each other is wrong and also right of course.
And of course my fiancée can't stand YB. She actually told me he uses me because I am a stable person and he just comes around when I have something to offer him....which is true but we are friends too. She thinks he always getting me into dangerous situations, she doesn't like who he hangs around and would rather me never talk to him again. She thinks of him as a little boy that won't grow up and be a man, "stop sagging, fighting and being teenage at 20 plus. You need to stop bailing him out and let him fall on his face so he can stand up a man."
So YB is mad that I am getting married and he talks to me like its not happening. Asks me constantly how many girls did I bag this weekend and how many clubs did I hit. Really uncomfortable almost being that I am trying to get married in feb. We got in an argument about it all tonight it kinda bothered me.
However KB is crazy about my fiancée he calls her his cousin in law and he actually always has liked her. When I asked him about it he told me that "people that dont have happiness like that would rather have me lonely with them." KB actually doesn't like YB because he feels like my fiancée is already family because we've been dating awhile, and due to the whole me getting robbed thing. So my fiancée and best man dont like YB.
Is it time that I let me freshmen friend go, so I can prosper as an adult in a grown up world?
should YB still be in my wedding party(my best man is saying no but I really dont care what YB thinks he's just my homeboy)?
Should I use the time KB is coming to visit to handle wedding things with a means for me to talk about how he's living? I mean the boy knows the word he actually reads his bible every single day. But he sells drugs, smokes weed , and does a lot of things I dont even really want to know about. How can someone be so deep in the word and have an understanding of the word and study the word but live so crooked? Its hard to talk to him about the Lord because he already knows what he's doing is wrong.
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