I've got a problem with some of my co-workers. For years, my old boss let me be the scapegoat whenever something went wrong. It didn't matter whether I was involved in the project or not, some of my co-workers would finger me as being the one who caused the failure or delay. And because my boss doesn't like me personally (I'm a Christian with an anti-Christian boss), he would accept their version of events without looking for my side of the story.
Well, now I have a new boss, and he is falling into the same pattern.
The assitant manager of one of our divisions told my boss that I never reviewed a development master plan with him or the manager, even though I went over the plan with them twice, at great length. Then they said that they never saw a specific development plan for one area of the business (as you can guess, I am a planner), even though I personally handed them three copies of the plan and offered to meet iwth them anytime to go over it. Then yesterday, they called my boss and asked to be exempt from one requirement of the plan, even though they asked me twice and twice I told them that that requirement was essential to the success of that area of business. The plan cannot be successful without completing that requirement, but it is a difficult task requiring much hard work. I believe they did that because they didn't like my answer and wanted my boss to override my decision.
Well, I got mad at that point. I'm very tired of their lies and my boss believing those lies. In the past, I would just let it go and determine to do a more perfect job in the future, but I don't want to do that anymore. My new boss promised that things would be different, but everything's exactly the same. So, I told my boss, rather briskly, that they were already told "no" twice. They just rattled my chain a bit too much for me to overlook. My boss sat me down and told me that I have an anger problem and that I constantly try to deflect the blame to others and that I should get into counselling to find out how to "fix" myself. Then he asked me, "What would Jesus do?" rather patronizingly.
Was it inapproporiate for me to be angry at my lying co-workers who try to make themselves better by making me look bad?
I didn't yell, curse or be aggressive or violent. I just strongly told my boss the truth.
Well, now I have a new boss, and he is falling into the same pattern.
The assitant manager of one of our divisions told my boss that I never reviewed a development master plan with him or the manager, even though I went over the plan with them twice, at great length. Then they said that they never saw a specific development plan for one area of the business (as you can guess, I am a planner), even though I personally handed them three copies of the plan and offered to meet iwth them anytime to go over it. Then yesterday, they called my boss and asked to be exempt from one requirement of the plan, even though they asked me twice and twice I told them that that requirement was essential to the success of that area of business. The plan cannot be successful without completing that requirement, but it is a difficult task requiring much hard work. I believe they did that because they didn't like my answer and wanted my boss to override my decision.
Well, I got mad at that point. I'm very tired of their lies and my boss believing those lies. In the past, I would just let it go and determine to do a more perfect job in the future, but I don't want to do that anymore. My new boss promised that things would be different, but everything's exactly the same. So, I told my boss, rather briskly, that they were already told "no" twice. They just rattled my chain a bit too much for me to overlook. My boss sat me down and told me that I have an anger problem and that I constantly try to deflect the blame to others and that I should get into counselling to find out how to "fix" myself. Then he asked me, "What would Jesus do?" rather patronizingly.
Was it inapproporiate for me to be angry at my lying co-workers who try to make themselves better by making me look bad?
I didn't yell, curse or be aggressive or violent. I just strongly told my boss the truth.