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If that's what people want to do it's obviously none of my business. As I said, there are even times it makes finanical sense. I mean a part time retail job isn't going to even cover daycare costs most likely so there'd be no point in just working for the sake of it either. OTOH, I'm not much for the idea that staying a home is somehow a right bestowed on women and if that's not possible than the guy is a lazy scum bag. In the farming soceities that existed during the era in which the books of the Bible were written labor divison existed when there were enough farm hands to make it happen. If there weren't everyone worked the fields. Frankly, a huge amount of it simply comes down to social instructions for people 2,000 years ago don't apply to modern soceity one for one.
Agreed. Should a woman want to stay home (and not all women do), then it should be either b/c her income wouldn't supplement the household enough to cover more than daycare expenses (which are astronomical!) or b/c the husband's income is sufficient and they are in agreement that she will stay home with the kids. I also agree that some of the things written into the Bible were specific to that day and time - not necessarily things that we can realistically apply to our lives now.
As for me personally, I'm a teamwork kind of guy. Not to turn everything in life into a hockey analogy, but it's incredibily stressful when forwards won't play defensive hockey and defenders won't chip in on offense. In the same way I don't think harmony is increased in the home when two people split themselves off into two unique and completely separate roles. A perfect 50/50 share on everything isn't possible in most cases, but I just feel when everyone is sharing the load across the board it makes life easier for everyone and avoids some of the silly illogical problems we see in modern soceity. For example: it's simply not logical to complain that a man isn't involved enough in child care when he's expected to finanically support the entire household. I don't think there's anything wrong with the notion of the modern involved father, but there are only so many hours in a day. For more father involvement in child care to be possible then women need to do some paid work.
I think it's up to each couple to determine what works for them. Some couples are happy with traditional gender roles and some prefer more of a blend. I lean towards traditional roles, but don't think they are set in stone and that the lines can't be blurred - for example, one spouse or the other carries a bit more of the household burden depending on their work schedule.
And, yes, I agree that if dad is working two jobs or ridiculous hours to keep the family afloat and never sees his wife or kids, then the wife needs to be helping with the financial welfare of the family.
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