Making comparisons to other women in terms of their bodies

Well what would God think? He made us in His image. We are all beautiful. Don't worry about what another person looks like compared to you. Not to mention someone could look like super fit but maybe have mental issues or have a nasty personality. It doesn't help that the media always look at perfect looking "according to them" people in everything. I'd rather be fat (I am) and have a loving, caring, honest, humble personality then be super fit and be cocky, arrogant....etc.

I'm sure every woman compares herself to other women to a certain point (Even confident women) but you really shouldn't compare yourself to others. God made us all unique,beautiful and with a purpose. We will never be/look like someone else so what's the point in comparing yourself to them. You're just going to get upset and make things harder for yourself. Also, the people you are comparing yourself with might be beautiful on the outside but not the inside. Trust me, God thinks we're all beautiful inside and out and He loves us more than we could ever know. We are literally God's precious gems and He cherishes us so much. That's worth more than anything else in the world. If you're really that upset about your body, maybe you should work out or buy yourself some cute clothes or jewelry. But remember God loves you either way so just because you do those things doesn't change anything in His eyes. Also the key thing is having confidence in yourself, if you don't have confidence that just makes everything seem so much worse than it really is. You can get your confidence from God's Word.


Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.
1 Peter 3:3-4

But the LORD said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7

Lik3 said:

I often find myself making comparisons to other women. This is true especially with body shape. I don't think that I have as beautiful body as they do. I wish I could have love for my own body. They are obviously fit and look to be more confident as far as their looks.
*Outward appearances often belie what is so.
I worked in health care, I saw many women who
were fit, had beauty and seem confident...many of
them were simply playing a part... as us southern people call it "putting on airs". It's one thing to see someone out
in public, but when one has a job that allows one to see them in their homes or in a medical setting...facades soon fade.

I have a huge stomach and a smaller booty. It is as if I am too flat. I would like a flat stomach and a curvier backside. My question is, how do I feel better about my body? What does God's Word say about the human body in terms of beauty and comparing myself to others?

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*A few verses...
1 Samuel 16:7
"But the LORD said to Samuel, "Don't judge by his appearance or height, for I have rejected him.
The LORD doesn't see things the way you see them.
People judge by outward appearance, but the LORD
looks at the heart."

Proverbs 31:30
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised”

1 Peter 3:3-5
"Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious."
(This isn't about the forbidding of styling one's hair, wearing
of jewelry etc...it's about NOT idolizing those things, as women were doing then...they made great shows of trying
to look more beautiful than other women.)

Colossians 3:5
"Put to death therefore what is earthly in you:
sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire,
and covetousness, which is idolatry."

Psalm 139: 13-16
For You formed my inward parts;
You covered me in my mother’s womb.

I will praise You, for I am fearfully and
wonderfully made;
Marvelous are Your works,
And that my soul knows very well.
My frame was not hidden from You,
When I was made in secret,
And skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth.

Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed.
And in Your book they all were written,
The days fashioned for me,
When as yet there were none of them.

Luke 12:7
"Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered.
Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows."


Matthew 5:3-12
"Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
"Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.
"Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth.
"Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be satisfied.
"Blessed are the merciful, for they shall obtain mercy.
"Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.
"Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.
"Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness' sake, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
"Blessed are you when men reviled you and persecute you and utter all kinds of evil against you falsely on my account. Rejoice and be glad, for your reward is great in heaven, for so men persecuted the prophets who were before you."

* "blessed" in Matthew 5, refers to: the happy state that those who find their purpose and fulfillment in the Lord.

I dont know if you are always comparing your body to other womens because womens magazines encoruage you to do this, but if I found myself doing that I would not buy those magazines.

And start reading the bible, placing that as a higher priority. So if you have a huge stack of womens magazines as bedside or bogside reading, get rid of them. In doctors waiting rooms, i would take my own pocket bible and read that instead of the magazines there.

Those magazines constantly compare themselves with others celebs and beauty and fashion are unrealistic. Nobody wears outrageous clothes or looks perfect like that all the time. So maybe make a reality check on what you are being influenced by and take active steps to eradicate it.

If theres problem areas for your own body ask God for wisdom on how to best look after it, as its his temple.

Lik3 said:

I often find myself making comparisons to other women. This is true especially with body shape. I don't think that I have as beautiful body as they do. I wish I could have love for my own body. They are obviously fit and look to be more confident as far as their looks. I have a huge stomach and a smaller booty. It is as if I am too flat. I would like a flat stomach and a curvier backside. My question is, how do I feel better about my body? What does God's Word say about the human body in terms of beauty and comparing myself to others?

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If it makes you feel any better I got a flat stomach and a nice butt and an hour glass figure, BUT I have horrible acne and I don't look good outside of my clothes because of acne and scars. My chest is also not so great... And Ive got a million other problems. Not everything is perfect. Also you can change a big tummy and a smaller butt. Exercise and squats and diet can change all that... I must admit though, at times I am happy when other girls don't have a body like me cause it makes me feel in control, like at least i can out do them in that area. Sad what this world will do to ya, it shouldn't be that important, but its hard not to care sometimes.

Lik3 said:

I often find myself making comparisons to other women. This is true especially with body shape. I don't think that I have as beautiful body as they do. I wish I could have love for my own body. They are obviously fit and look to be more confident as far as their looks. I have a huge stomach and a smaller booty. It is as if I am too flat. I would like a flat stomach and a curvier backside. My question is, how do I feel better about my body? What does God's Word say about the human body in terms of beauty and comparing myself to others?

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Do you exercise? If you have a huge stomach then are you taking responsibility for it? Are you eating reasonably healthy, lifting weights and doing cardiovascular activity? The very fact that you are comparing yourself to other women shows a problem. Do you love yourself? How much confidence do you have in yourself? From reading your original post, you sound like you have some blues. Exercise is proven to help fight the blues, especially during this time of year when it's dark and cold outside (at least here in Chicago). Regardless, it's important to exercise to stay healthy and feel good about yourself, otherwise you'd be selling yourself short.

Let me finish off this post with an anecdotal story:
I once knew a girl in my small group who complained about her looks. She was about 23-24 years old. She complained about how she wasn't as beautiful as she used to be. I saw older pictures of her when she was younger and thinner. She wasn't so thin anymore lol. She stated how it wasn't God's will for her to be pretty anymore, whilst it was within her power to go to a gym and exercise and get in shape again.

Just something to think about...