Christian girlfriend

MikeRR · Aug 4, 2015

Good morning,

Thank you in advance for any help you can give.

My girlfriend is a Christian and I myself am not. Lately she says she has been struggling to see a life together with a secular person. She worries that I won't go to heaven and that I will not get on with her Christian friends and not be able to offer her the kind of guidance she needs.

I am very open minded and have said I'm happy to go along to church with her, learn things and I'm open to being Christian myself. It'll just take time and I'm concerned the longer it goes on the more she will worry.

Is there anything I can say or do to help alleviate her fears? Anything I can do to give her support?

Thank you.

M

Tigger45 · Aug 4, 2015

I believe letting your faith in God, your relationship with your GF and your GF's relationship with you all grow naturally. If they were meant to be they will be. Take care

Soyeong · Aug 4, 2015

Hello,

I think she would likely be encouraged by seeing you learning or asking about Christianity. The only good reason to become a Christian is because Christianity is true, so you shouldn't feel compelled to become one just to continue your relationship with your girlfriend, but if Christianity is true, then it is very important, so you owe it to yourself and to her to try to investigate whether it is true as objectively as you can. I recommend starting with reading Mere Christianity by C. S. Lewis:

https://www.dacc.edu/assets/pdfs/PCM/merechristianitylewis.pdf

Also Cold-Case Christianity: A Homicide Detective Investigates the Claims of the Gospels by J. Warner Wallace:

http://www.amazon.com/Cold-Case-Christianity-Homicide-Detective-Investigates/dp/1434704696

MikeRR · Aug 4, 2015

Thank you for your responses, I've seen that book mentioned a fair amount, I will have a look at it.

Troy Rambo · Aug 12, 2015

Your girlfriend is correct in her thinking:

"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14).

I admire that you care about your girlfriend, but its far more important that you seek the truth of existence. I know that Jesus is the truth. I pray that you will learn this to be true as well. You will be a far greater asset to your girlfriend if you convert.

ToBeLoved · Aug 13, 2015

If you are sincere, seek God and you will find Him. If you need faith, pray for faith.

GracetotheHumble · Aug 13, 2015

Hi, you are fortunate to find a good Christian girl. I understand her concern. As has already been said you shouldn't convert simply to please her. You have to find faith in God for yourself. Start by going to Church and reading your bible. God Bless!

In God's Grace
GracetotheHumble

Johnnz · Aug 13, 2015

One's religious views will impinge on many aspects of a marriage due to the intimacy of that relationship. Different foundations can result in much grief very often.

John
NZ

annafullofgrace · Aug 13, 2015

You will find him when you seek him with all of your heart. As a previous agnostic, these words were so true for me. Mere Christianity is a great book...I also enjoyed The Case for Christ by Lee Strobel. God bless!

terryjohn · Sep 17, 2015

As a young man I fell in love with a beautiful Christian girl, but I as an unbeliever could never begin to hope I could approach her. In time, I found I was more in love with her faith, than I was with her. Of what value is her faith to you? It will either become a burden or a blessing.

Jesus' Follower · Sep 17, 2015

As a person who has no faith - good for you in going with her; many would say no.
When you are at church, feel the sermon and receive the words; it might open Christianity up to you my friend. :preach:

Aidan K · Sep 17, 2015

MikeRR said:
Good morning,

Thank you in advance for any help you can give.

My girlfriend is a Christian and I myself am not. Lately she says she has been struggling to see a life together with a secular person. She worries that I won't go to heaven and that I will not get on with her Christian friends and not be able to offer her the kind of guidance she needs.

I am very open minded and have said I'm happy to go along to church with her, learn things and I'm open to being Christian myself. It'll just take time and I'm concerned the longer it goes on the more she will worry.

Is there anything I can say or do to help alleviate her fears? Anything I can do to give her support?

Thank you.

M

Dear Mike, I think it's amazing for an agnostic to tell his gf that he's willing to go to church with her and learn about her faith. I think this is very generous of you and admirable and she should recognise that willingness Mike. It would be wrong of her to ask for more

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