Christianwidow, may I ask you. What ways do you think the church could better service widows? Ours only has a meeting once a week. I don't even know how they find out about widows. If you can think back to your needs in the beginning (which I know for me were many) do you have any suggestions?
Hello my dear friend, memoriesbymichelle. That is a very good question. As a widow, the only time I recall anyone in the church supporting me during my time of grief was on the few days before my husband went Home, and the few days after. I received cards in the mail the first week of being a widow. After that, I was on my own. I was in a very loving church, but I honestly don't think they knew what to say or do. Even now, being a widow, when someone loses their loved one, it is very difficult to find the words to comfort someone. We know what the Scriptures say, but when someone is going through the trial, they don't want to hear that. Even though they love and believe God's word. All they want is for their life to be back the way it was. They want their loved one back with them. No matter what people do or say, it just isn't enough. I don't think having a church group for widows is enough either. You are still attending a function without the one you want to be with. You are still carrying on conversations with someone who you really don't want to talk to. You are still listening to a group of men and women who are going through the same thing you are going through which is another day without the one and only person you want to be with. Does that make sense? For me, belonging to a group would not have helped. I just drew so close to the Lord and cried out to Him because He was the only one that truly knew what I was going through - what my heart was feeling. That is how I got to where I am today. Truly content being a widow, knowing I am very special to my Lord, and wrapped in the arms of my Savior. Did this answer your question, Michelle?
His widow,
Christian Widow
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