wrong to chat online with fiance?

[LiannaLeigh]

my fiance is over in iraq now and we have taken to playing while online. i am obviously masterbating but only with him. is this wrong?

 

[Marie D]

Well if he was in the same room as you, presumably you wouldn't do this thing but would instead keep it for marriage...?

 

[Psalmangel]

my fiance is over in iraq now and we have taken to playing while online. i am obviously masterbating but only with him. is this wrong?

Lust, especailly before marriage is indeed sin. But I'm bnot so sure about masterbating... I can say it does cause lustful sin. Jesus did say that if you look at woman or a man with lust, in your mind you already committed that sin sexually. Perhaps you should save it for when your married. That's no different than masterbating while thinking of your fiancee, considering you are not married to him. Yeah, I've been there before.. but no fiancee.

 

[ChildofGod88]

Hmm. Well different people are going to interpret this a different way. The Bible does tell us to keep pure, in our minds, in our hearts, in our souls, and with our bodies until marriage. I know that it's hard, but the Bible says to flee from sexual immortality until we are married. I know that you two are to be married, but I can see how there could still be issues. You are giving into lust, which is a sin. My best suggestion would be to stop. Ask God, he's the one to talk to. The best of luck with your battle!

 

[ribbonbowtie]

While what you are doing may seem like it's okay, since he is your fiance, God intended sex only for marriage, and only between a man and a woman. The fact that you are questioning whether it is okay or not is your first clue. That little doubt in the back of your mind is the Holy Sprit trying to guide you to the truth. You just have to choose to listen to it.

 

[ribbonbowtie]

Although what you are doing may seem okay because he is your fiance, God intended sex for marriage, and only between a man and a woman. The fact that you are questioning if it is wrong should be your first clue. That little uneasy feeling in the back of your mind is the Holy Spirit guiding you to the truth. And all you must do is choose to listen to Him.

 

[Lead]

I would say most likely yes. The first hint is that you are checking to see if it is wrong. This implies that you feal that it is wrong in your spirit. That is what you need to pay attention to - the Holy Spirit.

 

[Lead]

I would say most likely yes. The fact that you are checking to see if it is wrong is a big hint. It means that you most likley know it to be wrong but are not doing anything about it. Listen to the Holy Spirit.

Thank you both for you sacrifice and everything you are doing for all of us.

 

[StephanieD]

If you are asking if something is wrong, that is an indication that you may think it is. What is the purpose of your touching yourself? Is this causing you to lust after your fiancee? You may call it playing, but it can lead to other things once he returns. I would encourage you to look at the purpose of it all and if it is necessary in your relationship with him.

 

[onlooker]

This is a tough one...believe it or not. I read it a fews days back, and have given it some thought.
IMO, it is just a form of intamacy shared between you and your husband. Have fun with it.

 

[Marie D]

This is a tough one...believe it or not. I read it a fews days back, and have given it some thought.
IMO, it is just a form of intamacy shared between you and your husband. Have fun with it.

I think it *might* be morally OK if they were married, but they're not. This woman is abusing her body while chatting online to her fiance, instead of waiting until they're married. Surely what they're doing is wrong?

 

[onlooker]

I think it *might* be morally OK if they were married, but they're not. This woman is abusing her body while chatting online to her fiance, instead of waiting until they're married. Surely what they're doing is wrong?

Marie O....glad you caught that...they're not marries, are they. So, for the time being, no, it is not ok. It is no different than actually have premarital sex with him.

 

[Arclight610]

If you were married it would be okay. I also believe that lust is not a sin in a COMMITTED (married) relationship. Not all lust is bad.

 

[FSK]

The Holy Scripture says "Flee from sin".....whenver that thought comes in your mind, just kill those thoughts with His help...i am sure you can do it...