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KeilCoppes

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A significant quote from a gentleman on Christian Mingle:

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John Blanchard stood up from the bench, straightened his Army uniform,
and studied the crowd of people making their way through Grand Central
Station. He looked for the girl whose heart he knew, but whose face he
didn't, the girl with the rose.

His interest in her had begun thirteen months before in a Florida
library. Taking a book off the shelf he found himself intrigued, not
with the words of the book, but with the notes penciled in the margin.
The soft handwriting reflected a thoughtful soul and insightful mind. In
the front of the book, he discovered the previous owner's name, Miss
Hollis Maynell. With time and effort he located her address. She lived
in New York City. He wrote her a letter introducing himself and inviting
her to correspond.

The next day he was shipped overseas for service in World War II. During
the next year and one month the two grew to know each other through the
mail. Each letter was a seed falling on a fertile heart. A romance was
budding. Blanchard requested a photograph, but she refused. She felt
that if he really cared, it wouldn't matter what she looked like.

When the day finally came for him to return from Europe, they scheduled
their first meeting - 7:00 PM at the Grand Central Station in NewYork.
"You'll recognize me," she wrote, "by the red rose I'll be wearing on my
lapel." So at 7:00 he was in the station looking for a girl whose heart
he loved, but whose face he'd never seen. I'll let Mr. Blanchard tell
you what happened: A young woman was coming toward me, her figure long
and slim. Her blonde hair lay back in curls from her delicate ears; her
eyes were blue as flowers. Her lips and chin had a gentle firmness, and
in her pale green suit she was like springtime come alive. I started
toward her, entirely forgetting to notice that she was not wearing a
rose. As I moved, a small, provocative smile curved her lips. "Going my
way, sailor?" she murmured. Almost uncontrollably I made one step closer
to her, and then I saw Hollis Maynell.

She was standing almost directly behind the girl. A woman well past 40,
she had graying hair tucked under a worn hat.. She was more than plump,
her thick-ankled feet thrust into low-heeled shoes. The girl in the
green suit was walking quickly away. I felt as though I was split in
two, so keen was my desire to follow her, and yet so deep was my longing
for the woman whose spirit had truly companioned me and upheld my own.
And there she stood. Her pale, plump face was gentle and sensible, her
gray eyes had a warm and kindly twinkle. I did not hesitate. My fingers
gripped the small worn blue leather copy of the book that was to
identify me to her.

This would not be love, but it would be something precious, something
perhaps even better than love, a friendship for which I had been and
must ever be grateful. I squared my shoulders and saluted and held out
the book to the woman, even though while I spoke I felt choked by the
bitterness of my disappointment. "I'm Lieutenant John Blanchard, and you
must be Miss Maynell. I am so glad you could meet me; may I take you to
dinner?"

The woman's face broadened into a tolerant smile. "I don't know what
this is about, son," she answered, "but the young lady in the green suit
who just went by, she begged me to wear this rose on my coat. And she
said if you were to ask me out to dinner, I should go and tell you that
she is waiting for you in the big restaurant across the street. She said
it was some kind of test!" It's not difficult to understand and admire
Miss Maynell's wisdom. The true nature of a heart is seen in its
response to the unattractive. "Tell me whom you love," Houssaye wrote,
"And I will tell you who you are."
 

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Thats a nice story and I can relate to this.Wonder how many christian men in reality would have run a mile!!!!! I once came to love someone through emails and letters but this person really was into looks and I wasnt blonde or skinny enough for them! Not that I am fat or ugly. sometimes people although they maintian they are not into looks really are into looks and this also applies to christian men and maybe this is what causes the number of divorces among christians.I really devloped feelings for this person but really he was into looks. I think people should be cautious of email friendships with the opposite sex as I wouldnt have believed that you could develop such feelings if it hadnt happened to me.
 
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I've heard this one. Although I don't think passing one test makes this guy a peach or anything ;) Interesting story. I noticed that the woman in the green suit (who was actually miss maynell) called the Lt. "sailor"...this imposes several implications...he is not a sailor, but in the Army as evidenced by the first paragraph of the story and also calling an Army Lt. a sailor is probably a no no ;)
 
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Nice story, and it would be nicer is is was somewhat plausible too. The real Miss Maynell was blonde, slim, wise, insightful and thoughful? Riiggghhhtt. And the old lady that was heartlessly used for this "test" actually gave up a free meal to make a beautiful blonde woman half her age happy? Never happen! ;)

Sorry, but I thought that was a slightly disturbing story Keil. But I guess it's heart was in the right place. Thanks for sharing it.
 
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KeilCoppes

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IS - actually I floated it just to see the reactions, even knowing it might be urban legend. My own reply with some paraphrases:

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A real man would step up to the plate.

What followed would be a challenge, though - having faced down self to bring joy to an older lady and a friend, and dealing with incorrect preconceptions, it would be quite a challenge to go back to the young lady who started the meeting framed with distrust. If the young lady were wise, she would have sketched a quick note of explanation and congratulations to leave with the older woman.

"Whatever you tell me, tell me with trust. Truth has no shadows. True friends have no reservations."
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My own view is that I don't play games with people, particularly with the hearts of friends. Having people jump through hoops rather than accepting them in trust for who they are? Caution yes, wisdom yes, but trust does not keep reservations and it does not hide behind masks. Trust puts self on the line and opens to whatever may come. In the end, trust and love are on the same page.
 
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OhhJim

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KeilCoppes said:
His interest in her had begun thirteen months before in a Florida library. Taking a book off the shelf he found himself intrigued, not with the words of the book, but with the notes penciled in the margin.
The soft handwriting reflected a thoughtful soul and insightful mind. In
the front of the book, he discovered the previous owner's name, Miss
Hollis Maynell. With time and effort he located her address. She lived
in New York City. He wrote her a letter introducing himself and inviting
her to correspond.
Of course, these days he'd be a "stalker" and get hit with a restraining order! :D

Every time I try something clever to meet a woman, she gets scared off. I don't think women like it when guys do something out of the ordinary to meet them. This reminds me of that scene from 'Tootsie', where Jessica Lange tells Dustin Hoffman (in drag) that she wishes men would do such and such, but when he does, she throws her drink at him! :sigh:
 
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A few reasons why I find this story disturbing:

Doesn't it seem to propagate the tall, skinny, blonde, and blue-eyed beauty ideal? (and for the record, I can fully say this because I happen to fit all those and do not consider myself more physically beautiful than the next girl) I realize that it's a true story, and that if the girl really did look like that, fine... but why emphasize those features while telling the story? I think redheads, brunettes, Asians, African-Americans, and all sorts of other people can be just as strikingly beautiful.

Secondly, people tend to be superficial to the plain and beautiful alike. Why would a beautiful girl be any more self-conscious about this than a plainer one?
 
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