Would you date an unbeliever?

[Love&Pain]

Why or why not?

 

[Love&Pain]

To me, it depends. If the man knows God exists but doesn't have a personal relationship with God, I may accept him. If I am strong in my faith and he is willing to support me in my beliefs then I would. If I fall in love with an unbeliever who has a good heart, I would give him a chance. Who knows maybe one day, he will give his life to Christ. As long as he doesn't drink, want to have premartial sex, do drugs, or do any other illegal activity then it's fine. Most people believe in God but don't go to church. Before, even going out with an unbeliever I would tell him that I follow Christ. If he respects me and stills loves me then I'll leave it in God's hands.

 

[Cherub8]

No.

 

[Sinless_angels]

yup u sed everyfink i wanted to say`

To me, it depends. If the man knows God exists but doesn't have a personal relationship with God, I may accept him. If I am strong in my faith and he is willing to support me in my beliefs then I would. If I fall in love with an unbeliever who has a good heart, I would give him a chance. Who knows maybe one day, he will give his life to Christ. As long as he doesn't drink, want to have premartial sex, do drugs, or do any other illegal activity then it's fine. Most people believe in God but don't go to church. Before, even going out with an unbeliever I would tell him that I follow Christ. If he respects me and stills loves me then I'll leave it in God's hands.

 

[Diane_Windsor]

It depends. If he supported my faith then yes. Here's a RL illustration. Cokie Roberts and her husband have a very successful interfaith marriage-I think they have been married 30+ years and have raised a couple of children. She is Roman Catholic while he is Jewish. The reason that they have been married to each other all these years is because they strongly support the faith of the other. He will go to Midnight Mass and Sunday Masses with her while she goes to Jewish services with him. Supporting the faith of your spouse while on a different religious path shows a great deal of love you have for the spouse.

I'd strongly prefer dating/marrying a believer though-knowing the history of Israel and Paul's strong warnings against interfaith marriage-how could I not strongly prefer a Christian? A non-believer will really have to impress me for me to go on a single date with him-let alone enter into a serious relationship with him.

Diane

 

[micaela]

No. Besides taking the 'do not be unequally yoked' to mean that I shouldn't date someone who doesn't share my beliefs, I couldn't bear the thought of him not being able to understand or share that enormous part of my life.

 

[AveMaria]

Probably not, although I wouldn't rule it out completely.

The flip side, of course, is that someone who isn't a Christian wouldn't be very likely to want to date me, so I guess it all works out in the end.

 

[2Timothy2]

That's a big negative there. I suppose if dating was the most important thing in my life it wouldn't matter as much and I could justify it to myself. But my faith and my life in Christ is my life, so I can't imagine flirting with the idea of getting emotionally attached to a woman for whom these things aren't as important. Not having the most important part of my life in common with someone is a pretty poor way to begin a possible romantic relationship.

 

[treerootbill]

It is immoral, and much more immoral for a woman to engage in this sin. they should learn how to choose a good christian husband, not being held ransom over their hormones for some smooth talking non christian who will probably leave them for welfare taxes to bring up the children.

 

[Psalms34]

No, it's against God's will. Be not unequally yoked. If you are not doing courtship dating with other Christians, than you should just stay home.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

Not anymore. And not necessarily for the reasons given so far. The last five non-Christian girls I've dated have either flat out lied or they were too interested in playing games. I just don't have time for that.

 

[Psalms34]

Probably not, although I wouldn't rule it out completely.

The flip side, of course, is that someone who isn't a Christian wouldn't be very likely to want to date me, so I guess it all works out in the end.

I'm a guy so I hear what some really say. Once this guy, that didn't know I was a Christian, said to me that he would love to marry a Christian woman, he then added that he could then go out and have sex with other women knowing that his wife is not doing the same thing because she is a Christian. Slick, eh? Pretty common. And this really does happen. BTW, no I didn't deck him but I regret not doing so really, I've broken bones for less reason in my youth.

Anyway in my case, if a Christian woman would date a non-Christian, she probably isn't the person I'm looking or hoping for.

 

[jdw4jesus]

2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

 

[wvmtnkid]

Well, I have in the past. I hope though, I have learned my lesson. One of the biggeset problems I have faced with dating a Christian is they treated me as if I wasn't good enough for them. And at times I have been down right disposable. So, for awhile, I wasn't looking for a Christian. But, now my faith is very important to me and it would be hard dating someone (or marrying someone) who wouldn't share in this big part of my life.

 

[Sketcher]

My faith is such a big part of my life, I don't think I could date a non-Christian. Besides, I'm looking for someone who shares my faith and values.

 

[hockeysistah12]

Why or why not?

NO!!!!



You know better to even think that thought especially as a bible beliving christian. It may be tempting to do it now, but when you choose to marry someone not of the faith, the complications will be devistating, believe me, like not praying together, abusive marriage, and the list goes on and on.

I just hope people be wise and not be foolish. God put that 2nd Cor 6:14 scripture for a reason. Don't be a fool to date someone who does not have it together and will push you further out of the faith.

 

[Blank123]

absolutely not. Scripture tells us not to be unequally yoked, and I have no right violating that.

But I believe that even if that verse were not in the Bible I still wouldn't date an unbeliever. God is such a huge part of my life, and I honestly can't imagine ever being with someone who couldn't share in that with me. and I haven't even gotten into how having parents of mixed faiths and beliefs can really screw up kids (I've seen it happen several times).

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

I guess this also implies that "date" has romantic intent. I mean, I'll still go out with a non-Christian girl, there's nothing wrong with that IMO, but getting serious or getting involved is where it becomes a problem for me.

Depends on the semantics of the word "date" really.

 

[fluffy_rainbow]

No. I have in the past and it became painfully obvious why God commands us to not be unequally yoked. It's for our protection. I'm not saying non-christians lack morality; however, it's alot easier for them to drag you down than for you to lift them up. I am blessed to have someone in my life who prays for me and encourages me with Christian compassion. I wouldn't have that with an unbelieving partner.

 

[inchoate]

It is immoral, and much more immoral for a woman to engage in this sin. they should learn how to choose a good christian husband, not being held ransom over their hormones for some smooth talking non christian who will probably leave them for welfare taxes to bring up the children.

Are you for real...... ?

anyway yeah I would date someone who is a unbeliever, I have done so in the past and would prob again in the future. Of course I would prefer to date someone who had the same religious beliefs as me. But as long as their understanding and supportive of me its not a issue.