• Starting today August 7th, 2024, in order to post in the Married Couples, Courting Couples, or Singles forums, you will not be allowed to post if you have your Marital status designated as private. Announcements will be made in the respective forums as well but please note that if yours is currently listed as Private, you will need to submit a ticket in the Support Area to have yours changed.

  • CF has always been a site that welcomes people from different backgrounds and beliefs to participate in discussion and even debate. That is the nature of its ministry. In view of recent events emotions are running very high. We need to remind people of some basic principles in debating on this site. We need to be civil when we express differences in opinion. No personal attacks. Avoid you, your statements. Don't characterize an entire political party with comparisons to Fascism or Communism or other extreme movements that committed atrocities. CF is not the place for broad brush or blanket statements about groups and political parties. Put the broad brushes and blankets away when you come to CF, better yet, put them in the incinerator. Debate had no place for them. We need to remember that people that commit acts of violence represent themselves or a small extreme faction.

TheEnglishHovind

evangelist
May 24, 2011
3
1
34
South England
✟22,631.00
Faith
Christian
Marital Status
In Relationship
Lately i have had thoughts on becoming a christian, i have allways believed in a creater in the back of my mind but lately i have been closely researching alot.

The thing that is begginning to worry me is that i dont know any other christians and im worried that my friends/family will ridacule me if i tell them.

Any advice and help will be much apreciated
 

Bella Vita

Sailor in the U.S.N
May 18, 2011
1,937
98
36
✟25,239.00
Faith
Baptist
Marital Status
Married
Politics
US-Republican
You have to do what is right for you. I am still the only Christian in my family and you can bet they mock me all the time. Becoming a Christian doesn't make life easier if anything it only gets harder. You will be persecuted for your beliefs the Bible tells us this. But you are felling that tug in your heart because you know God is there and he loves you he want you to come to him. You won't be alone forever once you except the Lord he will put people into your life in some of the most expected and unexpected ways lol. Also going to a church really helps because then you can be in small groups and study groups where you will get a chance to meet other Christians and make friends. Having that support system around you is very important but give it time and don't walk away out of fear of being alone. God always provides you just have to be patient. Keep searching and hang in there you are going down the right path. =]
 
Upvote 0

seashale76

Unapologetic Iconodule
Dec 29, 2004
14,046
4,454
✟209,452.00
Country
United States
Gender
Female
Faith
Melkite Catholic
Marital Status
Married
The fear of a thing is sometimes/often worse than the thing itself. You have to get to the point where you're willing to just deal with what they dish out because your faith is more important. Plus, they may surprise you- then again- they could ridicule you as you fear.

I know quite a few people who have lost friends and have been essentially disowned by their families because they converted. While that hasn't happened to me, I do get guff about my faith from various people that I know on occasion. I offer to answer their questions and ask them if they really want to go there with the religious discussions as I can accommodate them- and usually they'll back off- until the next time they have something snide to say about my faith. I even offer them books and invite them to church- because I assume they have to be interested if they're commenting.

I had the biggest fear of telling my parents I was converting to Orthodox Christianity. Yes, my mother complained. A lot. Yes, she attempted to emotionally manipulate me and guilt me back into her way of thinking- but she eventually came to accept it (and if she really hasn't- she's at least come to not mention it or hound me about it). Yes, she glared at me all the way through my Chrismation, and flinched when she saw me cross myself, and the air was filled with her disapproval- but at least she showed up for it.
 
Reactions: heron
Upvote 0

Catherineanne

Well-Known Member
Sep 1, 2004
22,924
4,646
Europe
✟91,870.00
Country
United Kingdom
Gender
Female
Faith
Anglican
Marital Status
Widowed

One step at a time, EH. You don't need to tell your family or friends until you are ready to do so. It is a bit like falling in love; for a while you only want yourself and your beloved to know, because what you share is too special to talk about. Then, when the time is right, it just happens that you can tell people.

I suggest you find a church that suits you, if you haven't already done so, and make some new friends there. Try the nearest to your home, and if that is not really right for you (you will know this fairly easily) then try the next nearest; there are lots of worship styles to choose from.

Then take a few weeks or months to sort out your own thinking first, before you even consider telling anyone outside the church. A new faith is like a small seedling; it needs the right conditions; not too hot, not too cold, not too dark, not too light, but just right. Once that seedling is a nice robust plant it can be planted just about anywhere, and thrive very happily.

God be with you.
 
Reactions: heron
Upvote 0

SharonL

Senior Veteran
Oct 15, 2005
9,957
1,099
Texas
Visit site
✟38,316.00
Faith
Christian
Marital Status
Married
God is knocking on your heart - now is the time to let Him into your heart and be the Lord of your life - it only has to be between you and God - you don't even have to tell anyone - let them see your light shine - God is choosing you now - you may be the light that brings the rest of the family into the body of Christ.

Your life will never be the same - just put your hand in the hand of Jesus and let the Holy Spirit guide your life. Seek out Christian fellowship and your walk will grow - never be ashamed of God - He tells us in His Word that if you are ashamed of Him - He will be ashamed of you before the Father.
 
Upvote 0

paul1149

that your faith might rest in the power of God
Site Supporter
Mar 22, 2011
8,462
5,263
NY
✟697,554.00
Country
United States
Gender
Male
Faith
Christian
Marital Status
Private
Politics
US-Others
"If you remain in My word, you will know the truth, and the truth will make you free". The answer is to keep on abiding in Jesus. Keep taking in knowledge of Him. Grow in His love and His peace. When the time in right, He will show you what you need to do regarding your fam.

Blessings,
p.
 
Upvote 0

Catherineanne

Well-Known Member
Sep 1, 2004
22,924
4,646
Europe
✟91,870.00
Country
United Kingdom
Gender
Female
Faith
Anglican
Marital Status
Widowed
never be ashamed of God - He tells us in His Word that if you are ashamed of Him - He will be ashamed of you before the Father.

This is certainly true for a mature Christian, but for a new believer it is as well to remember that there is a time for everything under the sun; there is a time to speak, and there is a time to be silent.

Someone just on the verge of becoming a Christian is not called to speak immediately about their new faith to their family or friends. Their faith is likely to be too fragile to bear too much negativity, so if the reaction is at all doubtful, they ought to remain quiet, imo, for at least a few weeks, perhaps months.

Such a person needs to spend time getting to know the Lord, and discerning the voice of the Holy Spirit. He will let them know what to say, and when, and it is at this point, when the Holy Spirit is clearly heard telling us to speak out, that the Lord's words are relevant. When we speak in response to the prompting of the Holy Spirit, we know that the Lord will speak on our behalf before the Father.
 
Upvote 0

LilLamb219

The Lamb is gone
Site Supporter
Jun 2, 2005
28,055
1,929
Visit site
✟106,096.00
Faith
Christian
Marital Status
Private

May I ask what it is you believe (concerning sin, faith, savior, etc...)?

Since you are here, it's possible that you do have faith and already are a Christian. See, we cannot make ourselves Christians. That's the work of the Holy Spirit
 
Upvote 0

heymikey80

Quidquid Latine dictum sit, altum viditur
Dec 18, 2005
14,496
921
✟41,809.00
Faith
Calvinist
Marital Status
Married
Politics
US-Republican
Mine has always been to direct myself to the core of the matter, and not get entangled with anything else.

That 2000 years ago a Guy was killed ... and then lived.

They don't need to know more. It's the truth, and the implications are mind-boggling and life-changing. If they don't believe it, well, that doesn't change history.
 
Upvote 0

whatfor

Just me
Dec 15, 2006
24,081
14,906
63
Adelaide, Australia
✟117,417.00
Faith
Pentecostal
Marital Status
Married
I had the same fears about people finding out, one person in particular at work I knew would give me a hard time.
I prayed that it would not be too hard and he would not bother me.

When I finally told them, this person said I had already told him and he had already stirred me up about it.
I know I had never told him so I know God did something.

My wife has familly that make comments at times but it is not that bad , we just ignore them.
 
Upvote 0

Michaela7

Newbie
May 25, 2011
16
2
✟22,649.00
Faith
Messianic
Marital Status
Married
Politics
US-Libertarian
Yes this dilema.I would forget trying to please everyone else.It just does not work.I do see that the LORD is calling you though.Go!What a blessing it is to have the living God call you to be HIS own.And do not worry about you not having a family.We Christians would be are your family.We belong to the Living God and are apart of Him,and HE gave us a family.And I can tell you my brethren in Christ was the family I sought.I grew up in foster care.And I know a Christian whom call's me her daughter.That means alot to me.SO please if you read this do not feel you you will be without a family.Your not.I know that humans always ridicule something,and some things more than others.But one has to make there stand,are they going to be true to themselves,or let people dictate what they are?These things must be dealt with.I know it can be tough.But a person is not going to be liked by everyone or everything.
 
Upvote 0

1watchman

Overseer
Site Supporter
Oct 9, 2010
6,040
1,228
Washington State
✟358,418.00
Faith
Christian
Marital Status
Married

I like what you said, Bella. That is important.

- 1 Watchman
 
Upvote 0

Baqueinfaith

Newbie
Apr 18, 2011
570
37
Bay Area, California
✟23,447.00
Faith
Catholic
Marital Status
Single
Politics
US-Others

One thing you might consider doing is buying a small cross necklace, and wearing it in public in a place you don't think you'll run into any friends or family. You're in the UK? Take a train or bus out to a nearby city, walk around the city center wearing the cross. Buy a pair of pants or eat a restaurant--soemthing that will "force" you to interact with someone.

What you'll realize is...none of the strangers care or even notice.

Once you're at that point, it's a series of baby steps towards telling your family.
 
Upvote 0

heron

Legend
Mar 24, 2005
19,443
962
✟48,756.00
Faith
Christian
Marital Status
In Relationship
The most important part of your decision, is what happens between you and God. Make sure your communication with Him is well established before you start making claims to something you're still testing out yourself.

It's like those online product reviews, where the companies ask you to review the product before it arrives. Yay, five stars say all the people who just opened the package and got a coupon for filling out a questionnaire.

You don't need to make claims that you are still working out in your mind. God is not in a panic for you to start recruiting.

Mic 6:8
He has shown you, O man, what is good; And what does the LORD require of you But to do justly, To love mercy, And to walk humbly with your God?


God knows that you will benefit from support of other believers -- so ask Him! We'll ask right now.
Heavenly Father, please bring strong and loving Christians into EHovind's life. Thank you for caring for all the details of our lives.
 
Upvote 0

oi_antz

Opposed to Untruth.
Apr 26, 2010
5,696
277
New Zealand
✟7,997.00
Gender
Male
Faith
Christian
Marital Status
Single

I think it is wise to keep them on a tight leash, don't let them walk all over you, don't stand for any rubbish talk. I know that it is sometimes hard to deal with ridicule but make sure they are aware of the way they are treating you. I know that the Spirit sure demonstrates the wrath of God when people ridicule me in my faith. Remember Jesus said anyone who is ashamed of me, I will be ashamed of him. Jesus is a king in the dynasty of David, He is perfect, you can't go ridiculing Him without being put right. So just make sure when you turn your other cheek they know that they are about to slap an innocent person. I think Ned Flanders is far less the role model than Jesus is.

Read about the dynasty of David:

Jesus is a hard king but He is just. You should try to be the same. All the best

Edit: should say "tough" king, He specifically says "For my yoke is easy to bear, and the burden I give you is light." and He is in no way a "hard" king to serve, but He does roll tough
 
Last edited:
Upvote 0