worried mom

[jay's mom]

Good morning all,

This is my first posting on this forum, but I think that this is the place I have been looking for.

I have a 12 year old daughter who I found out that she "had" an eating disorder.......bulimia. She has promised me that it only lasted a couple of months, and said that she has stopped but something inside me is not so sure. She believes that she is overweight, and thinks that people will be nicer to her if she was "skinnier" She is not FAT, but is develiping fast, and we also have the "pear-shape" in our family where we tend to have heavy hips, bottoms, and thighs. She is bigger then a lot of kids her age, but is not "FAT".

Even though my husband and I don't go to church every sunday, we have very strong Christian values, and have tried to teach her the same. She goes to church every Sunday, and really enjoys being with people of faith. She is a very kind and sweet girl, and I believe that we have a good relationship. She has been open in the past, but I think that is starting to narrow.

Can someone please give me some advise on how to handle this? I am so worried about her! I am getting her an appointment with her doctor, and will discuss it with her. I also am going to get her into some counceling. Also, is there anywhere in the bible that discusses this issue?

Thank you so much for listoning!
God bless!

 

[beetlequeendiva]

Hi Jay's Mom - I'm not sure if there is anything in the Bible that discusses this issue, your best idea is to affirm the idea that GOD loves her no matter what shape she is....... her internal value is way higher. It sounds as though you're doing the right things for now anyway - going to a doctor and getting counselling are probably the best ideas.

 

[WhereareyouGod?]

Keep telling her that you love her and that she is beautiful

Maybe getting some healthy foods and things in the house? I don't know what will help each person is different. Like Vicki said it sounds like you are doing the right things already

Love n Hugs

Lizzie

 

[BlackRain]

my sister stuggled with an ED for a long time...she still does, actually. but, she went to couseling and went to the doctor...hosptial and it helped her a lot. it didn't extinguish the problem, but it did calm it out. um, pray for her...talk with her, but not to the pushing point because then she may not talk at all...like with my sister. it's really frustrating to watch someone you love go thru this, but know that the Lord is available all day long for FREE counseling sessions...for you. it does a number on family and friends. so you also need to spend time with the Lord and counsel with him about what's goin on. you're plans sound GREAT!! the sooner the better with counseling. just love on her..take a day off and spend it with her. but! know that there is nothing wrong with just asking her how she's doing. you're her mom...so don't be afraid to jump in if you feel the need. it's what you have to do sometimes. you know, at first your daughter may hate going to counseling and the doctor...but she'll thank you in the end. i know i did...hated it all at first, but sooo grateful now! you're doing a great job! keep your head up! and know that my heart really does go out to you.

 

[FaithfulServant]

When bulimia started with me, it would be an on and off thing. I would do it for a couple of months, then stop for a few months, and the pattern continued.

It's amazing that your daughter told you - most people keep it hidden inside. You must have a very close relationship, my parents never found out until after I went off to college and it became and everyday, twice a day thing. I had always been overweight, anywhere from 15 to 30lbs, which doesn't sound like much but to a teenage girl its HUGE.

I would definitely keep a close eye on this - but don't bring it up talking with her about it constantly, the more she thinks about it, the more she will remember how she can lose weight doing it.

Its great she stopped after a short time Praise God - mine continued for a long time and it just gets harder and harder the longer it lasts.

The verse I use to console myself is "your body is a temple" - which reminded me it was a sin to not treat it like one (purging). Sorry, I forget what verse this is from...

God Bless,

Steffani

 

[goldenviolet]

you need resources, knowledge. if you have insurance or not. if you live near help or not. this is considered a disease. you need to see a doctor.this thread is filled with sites, where you can start. God was your *artist* (

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[jay's mom]

Thank you all so very much for your input and prayers. I know that the Lord will help our family thru this time, and I pray that my daughter will have a complete and sucsessful recovery!

God bless!