Worried about the children

[Bazman1]

Hi,

My wife left me about 6 weeks ago. It hadn't been right for sometime but I wanted to make it work she said she had had enough and left.

I am slowly getting my life back into gear but I am really worried about the children. The impact on them must be huge the shifting from my house and my wife's is immense.

How can I ease their burden. They start a new school as my wife has gone to live in another town.

It's not just that it's everything really for them. So much to take in for little minds. People say children are resilient but I am not so sure. I worry about them so much it hurts. I am so scared for them.

My wife has the children and at the moment I see them quite a bit as its holidays but like I say when they go back to school I won't see much of them at all. Restricted to probably every other weekend and a night over there to say goodnight.

They are such great kids who were doing so well at their previous school something like this could set them back in so many ways. I just want them to be happy.

Please help. Please give me ideas what I can do for my children. I want to get back with my wife not just for them but for me I love her.

Why has she done this! It's not fair. I will get over it I guess if it was only me I could deal with that but the children I don't know.

 

[Mayzoo]

My opinion from my personal experience:

Keep the lines of communication open for the kids. Be honest if they ask questions and do not speak negatively about their mother. Do not air your marital strife in front of them. As a child of divorce, I know it was very hard when one or both my parents tried to use me as the general newspaper in reference to the other parent, ie..."what is your mother doing this weekend?" or "is your father doing okay?". Try not to "pump" them for information about their mother as that will just leave them feeling like they are betraying her by answering you.

Knowing the ages of the kids would be helpful in providing any more thoughts.

 

[Bazman1]

Thanks Mayzoo they are only young eldest is 8, and then 6 and the youngest of three is 5. Very close in age.

The other thing I forgot to mention she is seeing someone else who has also separated. His wife hasn't taken it very well at all. The children will all be going to the same school so I am worried about if anything kicks off on my children's first day of school. It's really worrying times I am so scared for them.

 

[Autumnleaf]

Pray for the children and get in contact with that guy's wife. It can't hurt and it might help a lot.