Wondered for a long time

[looksgood]

Maybe someone can answer me on this? I always heard it was good to talk about sex in marrage before the marrage. But I wondered about the actual thinking of the matter. In other words, knowing that soon enough you will be married wouldn't you at times think of the wedding night?

I see sex in marrage as a passionet show of effection. What are the limits to thinking of your wedding night? In your thoughts you are together with your wife, and sex with a wife is not wrong. But in reality you have no wife yet. So I wonder about the limit on thoughts before the wedding?

 

[mina]

Well I dream about my wedding night and I think that's normal. But I don't get all graphic. I mean I don't even dream (or lust) about a particular person. I just day dream about how nice it will be to share intimately without guilt or shame. I think it's a healthy attitude to have if you want to get married. There's thinking about it to be gross and intice lust(replaying fantasies over and over in your mind) , and then there's thinking about it in a non-specific way (like looking forward to it). I don't know if I'm being really clear, but I tried, lol.

 

[Mrs K 2004]

I am getting married in six months, and I find myself thinking about it a lot... I believe it is a way to show your passion, love and affection. Think of it this way, the most beautiful thing in the world is creating a new life, and doing this with the person you love is probably an amazing experiance!

 

[looksgood]

I think I see what you mean. It isn't something I am dealing with, it is just something that I thought about.

Cause I know that it is something that must be talked about before the weding. And when a person gets to talking and thinking I would imagin it would be hard not to get graphic and have fantasiys of that night.

 

[TheFirstNoelle]

I think I see what you mean. It isn't something I am dealing with, it is just something that I thought about.

Cause I know that it is something that must be talked about before the weding. And when a person gets to talking and thinking I would imagin it would be hard not to get graphic and have fantasiys of that night.

I don't think it's wrong or sinful to have fantasies about your wedding night, or to talk about those thoughts with your fiancee. People can get so obsessed with the concept of purity that sexual desire for your fiancee becomes "dirty" and that kind of association will carry over into your marriage.