Woe is me(aka Please Help!)

[Bohemian]

Hey all,
I used to be crazy about it, but now I can't believe I've lost nearly all interest in Anime! 4 years back I met this girl, Laura, in my Confirmation class, we didn't really talk until about year ago. Back then, I was crazy about Anime and I was trying to overcome my shyness so I tried talking to her. Turns out she was even more crazy about Anime than me, and we became friends nearly instantaneously. Since my Anime collection was very small, she let me borrow movies, manga, etc from her. She even started writing letters talking about Anime and how she'd like to get to know me better( fav colors, music, what's my room like kinda stuff). She'd also go to Otakon and brought back some Ramune Soda and Pockey(sp) for me. Since this the first girl-friend(just friend) I had, I was really nervous around her. She's kinda shy so I tried to get her to talk to me more, rather than write. Since she showed me so much attention I wondered if she LIKED me or something. After awhile I noticed how cute she was(VERY) so I started getting nervous around her. A few months back my shyness came back whenever she's was around, so we've kinda drifted apart. I can't even look in her eyes without my heart leaping, and I can't gather up my ego so I can ask her out. I'm also really self-concious. Since she always was giving me Anime to watch, whenever I do watch it it kinda reminds me how much I like her. Man! I even kept her letters! HELP! What should I do with both problems? Do you think she likes me!? How can I like Anime again!? Has anyone had a similar experience!? PLEASE RESPOND...

 

[Blessed-one]

let the mods know if you wanted to move this to a forum where you should get more answers...

you said you borrow anime from but you've lost interest in anime? why's that?

i doubt liking anime would solve the problem.. stop being shy, make yourself talk to girls (not just her). I used to be self-conscious and shy too, but since i attend uni it's all changed as that requires you to do many things by yourself, and being shy won't help one bit.

 

[Damien Nightbane]

Download mass quantities from Kazaa. That should work.

 

[Bohemian]

let the mods know if you wanted to move this to a forum where you should get more answers...

you said you borrow anime from but you've lost interest in anime? why's that?

i doubt liking anime would solve the problem.. stop being shy, make yourself talk to girls (not just her). I used to be self-conscious and shy too, but since i attend uni it's all changed as that requires you to do many things by yourself, and being shy won't help one bit.

First, how do I contact the moderators?
Second, where should I tell them to put this?

To answer your question: Sorry, I didn't want to imply that liking Anime would solve my problem; I know it wouldn't. I lost interest in Anime because most of our conversations were about Anime, a then common interest. After I started liking her I tried steering the conversation toward a subject where it would be easier to ask her out. I didn't wanna just say out of the blue: "You doin anything Friday?" I guess Anime became more of an obstacle to me then an interest.

 

[Blessed-one]

some good forums would be courting, christian advice and council...
see forum moderators on the top right hand corner of the forum page.

oh.. well, talking on a common interest's always a good start. Maybe you don't have to push yet, give it a bit of time. Go to an anime convention together? window shopping at an anime shop? anime themes.. how they conflict or relate to Christianity?

if she is really so much into anime as you said, and you guys started talking because of anime, i don't think you can totally have a conversation with her without anime as yet... but it shouldn't be too hard to talk about other things once you get to know each other a bit?

on second thought, i'm moving the thread to the courting forum for you now.