Will it ever heal

[mtlhusky]

Hey all I'm recently out of an abusive relationship. Both emotional and physical. I brought it on myself by cheating on her a couple of times. And she would always bring it up, put me down and make me feel totally worthless. she kept me from talking and seeing my family and friends or even use the computer without her supervision cause she said I would just cheat on her again. I loved her and I just kept putting it off as she just loved me and was being protective of me. But near the end I knew she was cheating on me and whenever I asked her about what was going on she would always bring up me cheating on her. I became self destructive by beating myself and burning myself with cigarettes.

She also beat me on a couple of occasions, two times sending me to work with a big black eye and cuts on my face. All the times she was extremely drunk. All the times she put his hands around my throat and threatened to kill me. She always went for the same spot on my head and I think she did some damage to it cause I get headaches there every now and again.

I still love her and he is off with some guy which i know hes now abusing as she did me. But how can I move on after she caused me so much pain, after she put these mental and physical scars on me. How do I move on, Its been 6 months since we broke up and I'm still hurting on the inside. How can I move on?

 

[Kristen.NewCreation]

Have you considered contacting a domestic violence program for counseling? They have some wonderful supportive counselors who can help you heal from this experience. No one should be abused, no matter what was done.

If there's not a domestic violence program in your area, contact a licensed professional counselor who can help you work through your experience and help you to move on.

 

[mjmcmillan]

Mtlhusky, I've been there with the exception that I didn't cheat. I've been accused of it though, and as to all the rest of it--- Often I've responded to a post like yours with "Been there, done that, got the bloody Tee-shirt." (One night, she broke my nose. My Tee-shirt was a sight, looked like I'd been to the slaughter house.) So, I know how it is. Now, like the person who responded above me says--- contact a domestic violence counselor. You may have to work at it a bit, most domestic violence counseling seems geared toward women who have been abused by men rather than male victims, but there is stuff out there for us if you look. Look up "Male Victims of Domestic Violence" on your favorite search engine, and likely you'll find something in your area.

Sometimes, just knowing that you're not alone, and that there's nothing wrong with your manhood can be the biggest help. Yes, there's others out there like us--- men who have been physically abused by our wives.