Will i ever beat this.

I have been married to a wonderful woman for 14 years & struggle with it every day. It is a very hard thing to live with, you have to have the strength to want it. Sometimes I feel weak and pray I can make it. When I saw your pic, I had a very week moment. I will pray for you.

'Tis a difficult weight to carry around. One important thing (at least for me, maybe for you as well) to keep in mind is this: When you keep punishing yourself for past sins where you have honestly sought forgiveness, you are holding yourself to a higher standard than God does.

When you accept Christ all your sins are forgiven, buried in the past. Make sure they stay there. Don't start dragging up past failures, that will only make today's battles more challenging. Learn from your past mistakes but don't beat yourself up with them. Go to God with them, ask for redemption, and seek His strength to do better in the next battle. That is one of the key things here: recognizing when you lose a battle and figuring out what led to that failure.

Try not to focus on the overall war inside your heart. That is a quite overwhelming thing to view. Focus on the small battles, the daily assaults. Learn to recognize when your thoughts and feelings are heading in the wrong direction. At that point, right at that instant, ask God for strength. Not later, but as soon as you begin to see a risk. Even a very short silent prayer like "Father, help me battle this. I need your strength and love".

transparentwarrior said:

I am in desperate need of some serious prayer.....I hate the strugle of Homosexuality.......It seems when i seem to have it beat...that it comes up out of no where again....if any one has a testimonie...someone that has been through this strugle and prevailed over it completly...please tell me what helped you the most...and please...pray for me.

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Hey man, whats up? The battle with homosexaulity is not going to be won be sheer determination an self will. First of all, let me tell you a little about me.

I had my first gay encounter in 9th grade. Through out high school I was pretty much Bi. I have had mutible women partners, and four male partners. I felt guilty and ashamed at my emotions, but I used sex as a drug to make me feel better. Before I realy understood what I was getting my self into, I was doing things with my body that no one should do. When I got saved, my life did not chage the verry same day. But as promised by god it did change. I no longer struggle with homosexuality. I do still have temptations with sex of a different sort, but that to will be over come.

One thing I can tell you is to not be brave. Dont endure temptation, but run. It is written that we are to flee sexual immorality. flee, run, dont take this on like a man. Instead I suggest you humble your self before your God, get on your knees as a child, and ask your Daddy for help. God is our Father, we our his children. God dosnt ignore his childrens tears. He hears us cry, and it is written that he knows what we need before we ever even ask, that he knows better for us than what we do ask for, and that he will give to all men liberaly. Jesus is the answer. Jesus is the way.

The one thing that sucks, is that the temptation isnt going to go anywhere until you have truely repented and decided to change. God wont give us a magical happy pill, and make all better. Until we truely, with a contrite heart, kneel before our God, and chose his way over our own. But one good thing is, God blesses thouse who endure temptation. How do you endure if you are commanded to flee? By taking the escapes that God has promised us. By following his directions even when they make absoulutly no eartly sense at all. Just follow in the spirit, obey his word, and God will worry about your homosexuality.

Jay

Hate the struggle of homosexuality....hmmm well I see a bit of a dilemma for you - because it seems that homosexual attraction is part of who you are. Sure there are accounts where that has been turned around - in about 3 out of 100 Christians with homosexual attractions that try.

If you are asking yourself to stop being attracted to the same sex (or rather if that is all you are attracted to, to stop being attracted at all) then you are holding yourself to an impossible standard, one which is higher than all other humans.

If you want to avoid sin, such as lust, or adultery - I agree and I think this is a possible goal - but only if you can start to seperate and discern between "good" attraction and "bad" attraction and then work to eliminate on "bad" attraction. If for instance you look at Jonny Depp and go, "wow is that guy cute", so what? So do millions if not hundreds of millions of other people. If on the other hand you become addicted to gay porn sites in order to fulfill a sexual fantasy and recieve gratification - then that might be a problem. See the difference.

I am only concerned by this idea of hating what resides naturally in your own mind. It's like your love of the colour Blue is something to fight. How do you fight something that occurs in your core?

Basically, I agree with "awake" above but only once you have identified what exactly it is you want to eliminate. You need to figure out a realistic life that you want to work towards. Simply continuiously focusing on your "falling" is only going to get you depressed. Do you want a life where you are at peace with yourself, your current attractions but do not want to let those lead to lust or sexual acts while you wait for God - that is possible - and something to work toward. If you want to be absolutely perfect and control every single thought that comes into your head - that is not possible.