wife's beliefs

[Moses Medina]

Hello all. Just as a FYI I asked my own Pastor if I could meet with him on monday about this, however I wanted to see some temporary advice until then.

My wife is pagan. We have been argueing about religion recently. After this one time where I told her that she could practice what she wanted how she wanted because she is an adult, she set up an alter. The alter was for good vibes, not to worship another deity, though she believes in another deity.

And so I felt that by it being in our house I was displeasing to the one true God, and so I voiced this and she was very sad and hurt, she took it down. However she wants me to talk to my pastor about this because she views it that, if my God is the true god, then I have no control over her and that I should just view the alter as a peice of wood that is nothing.

She says our marriage is at stake over this. I know what the bible has to say about this, Jesus himself said that he would cause wives to turn against their husbands and children on parents. I am well aware of this and in the end, may God's will be done.

I am worried about God though, I fear him, in reverance. And I don't want to chance idoltary. Unless I am wrong, which I feel I am not.

 

[Moses Medina]

I accidently left out that with this she voiced that she doesnt want me praying and teaching our daughter and that she doesnt want me praying in the house nor reading my theology books or bible... and its very overwhelming. How do I respond with love but firmness. Im not going to back down and deny the one true God...

 

[Tangible]

So sorry to hear about this situation, dario. I have no advice, but I will be praying for your family and for your wife that she may be converted.

May the word of Christ continue to dwell in you richly in all wisdom.

 

[SplendidTree]

Praying for you guys.

 

[cerette]

What a difficult situation!
Here are some thoughts, in no particular order:
-You are the head of the household. Your wife can't forbid you to have books in the house or whatever.
- You are obliged to teach your child the truth, your wife can't forbid you to teach your child the truth.
- God is # 1. If your wife were to leave you because you pray to God, then that's her sin, not yours.
- Would it be possible for your wife to have a small "altar" or a foldable one that she can bring out only when she is "praying" or whatever it is that she wants the "altar" for?

My heart goes out to you, sounds very difficult indeed!

 

[Aibrean]

I couldn't even have any sort of pagan device in my house. I'd feel like I was welcoming in the devil. Give him an inch and he'll take a mile.

Stand up for your beliefs. If you allow pagan activities in your house, that is going to send mixed messages to your daughter.

 

[Moses Medina]

Aibreen, I agree.

Just fyi to all, we married when I had left my faith and she wasnt practicing hers either. So me suddenly through the grace of God being brought back to my faith has been overwhelming for her Im sure. However like my pastor told me last week, im married to her for a reason so share the good news.

 

[Luther073082]

Aibreen, I agree.

Just fyi to all, we married when I had left my faith and she wasnt practicing hers either. So me suddenly through the grace of God being brought back to my faith has been overwhelming for her Im sure. However like my pastor told me last week, im married to her for a reason so share the good news.

Ok this answered my question.

Really with your daughter it's very difficult, the only thing is to make sure she is being fair. So unless the Holy Spirit changes her heart on this the two options seem to be that you both teach your faith to your daughter or neither of you do.

Your other option is of course to teach your daughter anyways and just accept that this will cause your wife to leave. Although I doubt this will save her from mixed messages as the best you could probably hope for from the courts is shared custody.

I would suspect that many here would recommend the 3rd option.

 

[PreachersWife2004]

Hey Dario...hubby and I had been discussing this for awhile, as you know.

Here is what we came up with:

Begin with a basis in Paul's words (1 Corinthians 7:12-16) to remain
committed to the marriage, and continue with Jesus' words (Matthew 10:32-42) to understand that God must come first, and that (Matthew 5:13-16) the whole point of life is to reach the heathen with the forgiveness of the one true God. (John 14:6)

All practical advice must be based on the word of God, or it won't help one bit. To carry out what the Bible says in this man's situation is difficult and potentially ruinous for his marriage--if she hates him because he stands up for Jesus. But his hope must be more than to have an easy life, but to obey and serve God his only Savior. Who knows? By being inviting and winsome (not quarrelsome) in representing the true God, he may yet win his heathen wife for heaven. And if she comes around, how much more blessed their marriage will be!

Learn the truth. Be kind and loving in standing up for the truth. The goal is to win a precious soul, not to beat an opponent. Also read 1 Corinthians 13--not for romance, but for a better understanding of God's gracious love for us, which we are to reflect in our interactions with others.

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Feel free to PM me if you want more. I'm sorry it took so long for us to get back to you. And God's blessings on this journey...

 

[Cjwinnit]

I know what the bible has to say about this, Jesus himself said that he would cause wives to turn against their husbands and children on parents.

Jesus did say that children would turn against their parents, as well as other relationships breaking down from following Jesus. He never included a married couple in this.

 

[Moses Medina]

Hey preacherswife. I sent ya a message about deleting this thread. If that can happen that is. Thanks and God bless.

 

[PreachersWife2004]

I cant delete the thread but I've closed it.