Why is it when we are not in a relationship we want to be in one.. and when we are we look at any reason not to be in it..
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CF has always been a site that welcomes people from different backgrounds and beliefs to participate in discussion and even debate. That is the nature of its ministry. In view of recent events emotions are running very high. We need to remind people of some basic principles in debating on this site. We need to be civil when we express differences in opinion. No personal attacks. Avoid you, your statements. Don't characterize an entire political party with comparisons to Fascism or Communism or other extreme movements that committed atrocities. CF is not the place for broad brush or blanket statements about groups and political parties. Put the broad brushes and blankets away when you come to CF, better yet, put them in the incinerator. Debate had no place for them. We need to remember that people that commit acts of violence represent themselves or a small extreme faction.
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septemberskies
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Well I love being in a relationship... i feel incomplete without one. I never looked to get out of a relationship when i'm involved.
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Oo~Lost~oO said:Why is it when we are not in a relationship we want to be in one.. and when we are we look at any reason not to be in it..
We?
Do most people feel this way? It seems odd to me, err, "us".
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iklepac13 said:We?
Do most people feel this way? It seems odd to me.
I have to concur on this one...I personally have never felt like that...hmmmm
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Could be that you over-romanticise about your future 'prince charming', and then when you get a real guy he kinda seems less that you expected.
I'm not trying to say that you shouldn't be expecting the best, because you should! But guys, just like girls, are human. We're prone to doing dumb things and being really thick when it comes to understanding emotions.
Prehaps the only advice I can offer is to not think over-much about exactly how great a boyfriend you want, and just concentrate on the basics of what he should be like; A strong relationship with Christ, an honourable person, etc. You'll find that if you look for a good foundation, anything build upon it is also attractive.
I'm not trying to say that you shouldn't be expecting the best, because you should! But guys, just like girls, are human. We're prone to doing dumb things and being really thick when it comes to understanding emotions.
Prehaps the only advice I can offer is to not think over-much about exactly how great a boyfriend you want, and just concentrate on the basics of what he should be like; A strong relationship with Christ, an honourable person, etc. You'll find that if you look for a good foundation, anything build upon it is also attractive.
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"Why is it when we are not in a relationship we want to be in one.. and when we are we look at any reason not to be in it.."
-For the people that feel this way, it could be that they always want to be available for the BBD. "BBD" stands for "Bigger, better deal."
-For the people that feel this way, it could be that they always want to be available for the BBD. "BBD" stands for "Bigger, better deal."
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If we're not content in the current situation of course the alternative is always going to be a better option. I think that what happens a lot of the time is that people are not content being single so they rush into relationships that they shouldnt be in; and then once they're there they realize that being single wasnt all that bad.
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I only want my relationship to be my first and only one
To make sure the person I am with
Will be the person I want to spend the rest of my life with
If that is the Lord's will
To make sure the person I am with
Will be the person I want to spend the rest of my life with
If that is the Lord's will
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FYI this was not about me,
I see so much anymore when people in relationship are always looking for the negatives..
My own issue with being in a relationship is I let things go on taht shouldn't but I have leraned and now lived and know better.
I see so much anymore when people in relationship are always looking for the negatives..
My own issue with being in a relationship is I let things go on taht shouldn't but I have leraned and now lived and know better.
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I believe the simple answer to this one is the common saying:
"The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence"
"The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence"
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Tenorvoice
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Oo~Lost~oO said:Why is it when we are not in a relationship we want to be in one.. and when we are we look at any reason not to be in it..
I am probly going to make some people upset by this....but.....
I truely beleive that it comes from our society's teachings today. We live in a selfish, instant gratification society today, its always me, me, me, mine, mine, mine, I, I, I. We are taught to never be happy with what we have. Be it being single/or in a relationship, the kind of car that we have, the house that we live in, ect.....
We are taught that the grass is always greener on the other side. We do not spent the time in God's Word which tell's us how to be greaful for what we do have, and thank Him for it each and every day. He gives us no more than we need, (tho' our selfishness always wants MORE).
I truely believe that if we get back into God's Word and LISTEN to what He has to say, and not just be hearers of the Word but Doers, then we will be a changed people.
My 2 cents
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I am pretty content being single. I used to think I HAD to have a boyfriend. Whenever I have a boyfriend, no matter how great he is, I get bored or something.
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Diane_Windsor
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BlessedJourney said:
We??? Perhaps you think that the grass is always greener on the other side.
Happy Gobble Gobble Day!
Diane
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Hey Diane as I said this thread was not about me, I have read on here in the last few days of persons picking apart their SO and I was just wondering why..Diane_Windsor said:We??? Perhaps you think that the grass is always greener on the other side.
Happy Gobble Gobble Day!
Diane
I do not think anything is greener on the other side, had you read the whole thread you might have seen that.
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bumblebee62331
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It's like how I want curly hair, but only because I have straight hair.
We always want what we don't have. There is always something better. But people need to remember that there is also things that are worse. We take too many things for granted. We need to sit back, take a look at our lives and realise just how blessed we are.
We always want what we don't have. There is always something better. But people need to remember that there is also things that are worse. We take too many things for granted. We need to sit back, take a look at our lives and realise just how blessed we are.
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That is the "human condition" i'm afraidBlessedJourney said:Why is it when we are not in a relationship we want to be in one.. and when we are we look at any reason not to be in it..
i echo your
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