why is that?

[Evie]

why is it that if Christ is the comforter than why is it that when I feel absolutely totally alone,I don't feel comforted when I pray for comfort? Is it faith?

 

[Abiel]

A good question to which I do not know the answer. I pray for healing and comfort, and neither come. I am just so tired.

 

[00chad00]

the thing about that is, Christ is'nt going to comfort you all the time. praying is'nt enough. you have to act on your own and try to get help. whether it be professional help or just talking to other people with depression, only you can make yourself feel better.

 

[Yamialpha]

Heavenly Father, a burdened soul cries for your help
Her heart wars with the world, and no human comforts her
She feels alone and the darkness of the world cloaks her
Comfort her, oh Lord
Let her feel your wondrous touch
Reach out to her and lift her up
Most of all let her know that you are there
In Christ's Holy name I pray
Amen

 

[* kittie *]

good question...

That's why i've come to the conclusion that we also need ppl for comfort. I mean...I would pray and pray...so many years feeling so lonely. At bible school, just cry myself to sleep. >.>
hmm...And so I wonder...

 

[Amin]

why is it that if Christ is the comforter than why is it that when I feel absolutely totally alone,I don't feel comforted when I pray for comfort? Is it faith?

Hi, Evie, You pose a good question. It brings to mind,
that all who believe, make up the body of Christ. The body consists of different parts, hands, feet, arms, head, etc.
We all have a different job to do. I might be a foot, you may be a hand, someone else may be the eyes. We all are one body, but we each have a different gift, or function. God will use those who are willing, to function
as a, comforter, peacemaker, counselor, etc. Is there anyone you know that is a christian that you are close to? If so, maybe God wants to use that person, within the body of Christ, to help you thru some things, sometimes we don't allow those things to happen. I have
one person i know that's a christian, that i can talk to, without fear of him judging me, or looking at me, other
than a person who needs a shoulder to lean on. I believe God is useing him, to see me thru all this crap in my life.
I'm not saying i won't be, lonely, sad, or wonder, God where are you. I'm saying, God uses him from time to time, to give me a boost, to get thru another day.
God can definitely take care of your situation, but i think he works thru his people. We, also being human, might fail as that comforter, or maybe it's just not enough,
then God will step in and help both people involved.
The thing is, as God's people, we have to be willing to
be used. I still deal with, anxiety, feelings of being
insufficient, depression, but , we have to continue to
see God as our hope. For if we have no hope in God, we
have no hope at all. My prayer for you is to remember there are people who care, people on this forum who are willing to be used by God to help you thru the hard times. I'm sitting here now, feeling like i'm up against a brick wall, but somewhere deep inside i know, if i give up,( even tho i feel like it at times), on God to help me.
Then, i might as well forget it, because God is the One,
who will eventually, be my salvation from this situation.
I know that, somedays, even a room full of laughing
people, can be a lonely place. Take Care, and God Bless You, Amin.

 

[Evie]

Hi, Evie, You pose a good question. It brings to mind,
that all who believe, make up the body of Christ. The body consists of different parts, hands, feet, arms, head, etc.
We all have a different job to do. I might be a foot, you may be a hand, someone else may be the eyes. We all are one body, but we each have a different gift, or function. God will use those who are willing, to function
as a, comforter, peacemaker, counselor, etc. Is there anyone you know that is a christian that you are close to? If so, maybe God wants to use that person, within the body of Christ, to help you thru some things, sometimes we don't allow those things to happen. I have
one person i know that's a christian, that i can talk to, without fear of him judging me, or looking at me, other
than a person who needs a shoulder to lean on. I believe God is useing him, to see me thru all this crap in my life.
I'm not saying i won't be, lonely, sad, or wonder, God where are you. I'm saying, God uses him from time to time, to give me a boost, to get thru another day.
God can definitely take care of your situation, but i think he works thru his people. We, also being human, might fail as that comforter, or maybe it's just not enough,
then God will step in and help both people involved.
The thing is, as God's people, we have to be willing to
be used. I still deal with, anxiety, feelings of being
insufficient, depression, but , we have to continue to
see God as our hope. For if we have no hope in God, we
have no hope at all. My prayer for you is to remember there are people who care, people on this forum who are willing to be used by God to help you thru the hard times. I'm sitting here now, feeling like i'm up against a brick wall, but somewhere deep inside i know, if i give up,( even tho i feel like it at times), on God to help me.
Then, i might as well forget it, because God is the One,
who will eventually, be my salvation from this situation.
I know that, somedays, even a room full of laughing
people, can be a lonely place. Take Care, and God Bless You, Amin.

you guys are good

 

[AllTalkNoAction]

why is it that if Christ is the comforter than why is it that when I feel absolutely totally alone,I don't feel comforted when I pray for comfort? Is it faith?

Christ is in the heavenly realm, we are born into a weak, fleshy realm. That's why Jesus says:-

John 14:16: And I will pray the Father, and he shall give you another Comforter, that he may abide with you for ever; . . . :26: But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things . . .

The bible records in detail the receiving of the Holy Spirit, which transformed the lives of the people who had tried their best to follow Jesus, but ended up back fishing and not understanding what Jesus was talking about, nor able to do it !

See Acts 2v4, 33, 39; 10v44-48 for details.
The speaking in tongues mentioned is God leading his people in prayer (1 Cor. 14v2, Romans 8v26). It ministers God's comfort to your soul (1 Cor. 14v4, Jude 20-21).

John 14:18: I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you.

 

[Abiel]

Another thing I have come to realise is that this feeling I have right now, that one, is God with me. I dont need a creepy spooky feeling to know this. God promises He is with me, therefore He is, and this is what it feels like.

Does that make any sense??? In the same way, when I am with a suffering person, I comfort them- but my comforting doesn't actually take their pain or problem away. The comfort is in the fact of my understanding presence.

 

[AllTalkNoAction]

. . . God promises He is with me, therefore He is . . .

Abiel, Jesus promised the disciples he would be in *them*, so he wasn't yet *in* them -

John 14:17: Even the Spirit of truth; whom the world cannot receive, because it sees him not, neither knows him: but ye know him; for he dwells with you, and shall be in you . . . 20: At that day you shall know that I am in my Father, and you in me, and I in you.

So, they would also *know the day* - that day for them was Pentecost.

People call themselves or other people “christians”, but how can they make this judgement ?
God says:- “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it ?” (Jeremiah 17v9)
... therefore he *must* bare independent witness, the apostles certainly waited for this:-
“God, which knows the hearts, bare them witness, giving them the Holy Spirit, even as he did to us” (Acts 15v8 referring to the speaking in tongues with Gentile and Jew in Acts 10 & 2).

 

[Evie]

maybe it's me,but I have found that the only thing that takes the loneliness away is reading His Word,praying but more like visualizing meditating just on Him - like almost seeing Him right in front of you and Worshiping Him and letting all the garbage from the day come out our spirit and singing along to a worship song that is more upbeat. Then I don't feel so alone,my Pastor is always telling me that God loves me,but for some reason I never except that.
I am however very thankful that he forgives our fresh mercies everyday as we are not worthy.

 

[AllTalkNoAction]

Seriously Evie, why not go for the way I mentioned in the 25th ? Others have stumbles accross this without even having been told . .here are a couple of testimonies from people in the church I'm in:-

"In the year 2000 I was suffering Severe Depression. I was unemployed for over seven years. Everything seemed helpless and hopeless. Everything that I had tried either didn't work or only worked for a short time.
I believed in God and Jesus Christ and that I could pray to Him to help me. I had been doing that for years, but it seemed He wasn’t listening. I was very unhappy and felt I was slipping away and I didn't want to lose my love for God, I would rather die than lose that.
I decided to pray once more and ask Jesus to plead my cause before His Father and I wouldn't stop saying Abba Father until He helped me. My tongue started speaking in a language that I never learnt. I thought at first I had lost my mind because I didn't understand what I was saying, but then the scripture came into my
head " The Holy Spirit makes intercession with groanings that cannot be uttered" I was filled with a tremendous feeling of relief, joy, light and indescribable peace.
I wanted to know more about this Holy Spirit. A week later a couple of people showed me in the Bible that you can receive the Holy Spirit and speak in tongues and it was a promise for today.
I was baptized, I got a job and I feel much better about myself because I am needed and appreciated. It was like He has put a new song in my mouth and heart, even the praise unto our God."

"Since childhood I had built and maintained a wall around me in a desperate measure to cope with the injustices of the world. I felt isolated, unloved, unappreciated and distraught. A worthless nobody,
a failure! People around me saw the mask I had carefully constructed, but failed to realize the depth of my anguish. I resented having my feelings invalidated, so I 'bottled-up' my anger and frustration inside me.
In 1995 I was diagnosed with Major Depression, which threw my life into further turmoil. I had to admit I wasn't coping within my life. I hated being vulnerable, having to deal with unresolved hurts and feelings. Yet, the stigma attached to mental illness can be unrepentant and cruel. I took antidepressants for over six years and in 2001, under psychiatric care, my dosage was doubled again.
I was told I faced a lifetime of medication. At the lowest ebb I contemplated suicide. I didn't want to kill myself, I just needed a comfortable, reassuring arm around me without judgement or condemnation.
Then overnight, after hearing God's Word spoken with truth directly out of the scriptures, I had a sense of peace and tranquillity for the first time in my life. God giving me with the holy spirit filled that empty void I had since childhood. I was no longer the "black sheep" of the family I belonged not in the darkness alone, but in God’s light."