why is he pushing us away?

[wannagohome]

I have been married for 7 years and we have moved 7 times. my husband is constantly switching jobs! Our kids are now 6 and 4 and need stability. My husband is never happy! before each move he says he will be a better man if only he has this job or we live in this place, but nothing changes. He is always angry or depressed. I have a hard time finding hope, I never know what we are going to do next. Then today he told me, "I have been supporting this family for 7 years now, I hate my job (Hes had this one 3 months), now you can support the family or get me a new job." (i.e. submitting resumes for him).
We always agreed I would be a stay at home mom, we married young when I was 18 and he 21. I have no degree or anything, I work part time at a clothing store in the mall......
Anyway as a man shouldn't he WANT to provide for us?
P.S. we owe my parents over $10,000. As far as his family is concerned, they might as well not exist!

 

[Lorie]

I had some friends like that. they both would change jobs, homes, cars etc. they seem to be always looking for somethng else that would make them happy. I thnk they were trying to find happiness from outside sources but never did. They would take one step forward and three steps back. Until they finally divorced because of it. You hubby is not happy and he thinks if he gets that GREAT job he will be. he needs to figure out why he is unhappy and work on his inside.

 

[nuarc]

I agree with Lorie on this one- your husband is searching for something outside that he can only attain inside. Would counseling be possible? I know it can be costly, but it may help to find out where the real problem is coming from.

 

[Jenna]

What kind, if any, relationship does your husband have with the Lord?

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Every place is the same. The only difference is the name. The change has to happen inside. Running away never works because the problem follows. It took me a while to realize this. Heh. The biggest problems I've had in life were...me.