Why is divorce/remarriage ok?

[Amber the Duskbringer]

Sure there are a few times when it becomes necessary but why are so many Christians ok with the idea of divorce? Doesn't divorce and remarriage go against the bible? Is it not adultery?

There has been such a overflow of protest to certain degrees of marriage but nothing on divorce and remarriage that I have seen. Is it because it is convenient for so many to not protest it?

PS if this needs to be moved please feel free to move it. Thought this may have been a ethical thing really.

PPS this is about divorce and remarriage. Not other types of marriage and you know what other types I mean.

 

[branchofthevine]

It is a sin to divorce and shouldn't happen. That being said Jesus said it is okay to divorce if your partner is unfaithful (cheating on you) and some today would say if you are being abused to get out of that relationship. The plan was to never have divorce, but the sin of one may cause it to happen. If you do divorce it is Adultery to be remarried to anyone other than the one you divorced. Now if you have divorced someone and they die after you have divorced them you are freed from that law, and can be remarried to anyone. Divorce has come about by man, and should never be considered, and even under circumstances that are tough, it should be the last option, and the very last option only under use if all other things (including prayer) fail. Which should be never, but real life isn't a textbook.

 

[new_wine]

Many do not protest it because they have already done it.

Sin is hard to deride when you are part of it.

 

[Cuddles333]

The Bible says that Christians can only divorce upon the grounds of spiritual adultery (fornication Mt. 19:9) against God, and desertion/divorce by a non-Christian spouse (1Cor. 7:15) Only then can the Christian remarry. If a Christian has a spouse who dies, then they can only remarry another Christian. (1 Cor. 7:39)

Regarding the (fornication) clause, this was why Jesus' disciples said that it would be better then not to get married. Before Jesus stated 'fornication' Jewish men could divorce and remarry almost at will per their religious leaders teaching on the Law of Moses. Now, they could only divorce their wives for an offence that was grounds for stoning!

 

[Amber the Duskbringer]

The Bible says that Christians can only divorce upon the grounds of spiritual adultery (fornication Mt. 19:9) against God, and desertion/divorce by a non-Christian spouse (1Cor. 7:15) Only then can the Christian remarry. If a Christian has a spouse who dies, then they can only remarry another Christian. (1 Cor. 7:39)

Regarding the (fornication) clause, this was why Jesus' disciples said that it would be better then not to get married. Before Jesus stated 'fornication' Jewish men could divorce and remarry almost at will per their religious leaders teaching on the Law of Moses. Now, they could only divorce their wives for an offence that was grounds for stoning!

Those reasons aside, many divorces end because of other things in christian families. I don't think I need to post the statistics because well it is quite alarming. Why is there not more of an outrage? I don't think half the divorces are justified by those reasons. I could be wrong but I think there should be more of an outrage rather than justification.

 

[Amber the Duskbringer]

It is a sin to divorce and shouldn't happen. That being said Jesus said it is okay to divorce if your partner is unfaithful (cheating on you) and some today would say if you are being abused to get out of that relationship. The plan was to never have divorce, but the sin of one may cause it to happen. If you do divorce it is Adultery to be remarried to anyone other than the one you divorced. Now if you have divorced someone and they die after you have divorced them you are freed from that law, and can be remarried to anyone. Divorce has come about by man, and should never be considered, and even under circumstances that are tough, it should be the last option, and the very last option only under use if all other things (including prayer) fail. Which should be never, but real life isn't a textbook.

It just seems so many are so willing to jump on the divorce rather than work it out. I understand things happen but I really think with all the other marriage outrage this one seems rather quiet.

<amy do not protest it because they have already done it.

Sin is hard to deride when you are part of it.

Yeah that's really what I am thinking. It's easier to stay quiet and then rage about the other new facets of marriage to overshadow your own sins.

 

[Walter Kovacs]

I'ts never 'ok'. Divorce is one of the most horrible things that can happen between a married couple. Sometimes, however, it is necessary. It's a very painful reality.

 

[99percentatheism]

Sure there are a few times when it becomes necessary but why are so many Christians ok with the idea of divorce? Doesn't divorce and remarriage go against the bible? Is it not adultery?

There has been such a overflow of protest to certain degrees of marriage but nothing on divorce and remarriage that I have seen. Is it because it is convenient for so many to not protest it?

PS if this needs to be moved please feel free to move it. Thought this may have been a ethical thing really.

PPS this is about divorce and remarriage. Not other types of marriage and you know what other types I mean.

Learn what forgiveness is and where it leads.

Your answer is there.

 

[Amber the Duskbringer]

Learn what forgiveness is and where it leads.

Your answer is there.

So a person who remarries and thus commits lifelong adultery/perpetual sin is forgiven in the end? Yes or no please.

I do apologize but long posts with scripture boggle my eyes badly so I can't read it. Or you could post the scripture number. Sorry it's my eyes.

I ask because if sin is sin and even perpetual sin is forgiven then are other forms forgiven too?

 

[dayhiker]

I don't believe divorce is a sin. Its the actions that lead to a divorce that I see as a sin.

I think Jesus was was saying that most of the divorces in his day were illegal. They didn't meet Moses requirement for divorce. So the adultery when one remarried a divorced woman was that she still belonged to another man.

Love is the most important thing in God's view. So I don't think its every wrong to love. So I don't see remarriage as adultery.

 

[99percentatheism]

Those reasons aside, many divorces end because of other things in christian families. I don't think I need to post the statistics because well it is quite alarming. Why is there not more of an outrage? I don't think half the divorces are justified by those reasons. I could be wrong but I think there should be more of an outrage rather than justification.

Christians have yoked themselves with unbelievers. A wicked culture infects almost everyone living in it. The new testament is testimony to that and how Christians should act and interact in that world.

That 50% of Christians are staying married and commited to each other in that marriage and not divorcing is what is astounding. In a society that quite literally worships promiscuity, it's tough to be a Christian the way it is expected to be one.

By the way? Ever heard of King David? He was "allowed" to commit adultery and stay the King. He was allowed to commit murder after committing adultery and was still allowed to be mentioned as "A man after God's own heart." We are, after all, looking backwards to the biblical populace.

THAT is also a testimony about repentance and forgiveness and what condition we are in, with God, after that confession and repentance.

Washed clean, means washed clean.

A person is not washed clean if they do not confess their sins and repent of them.

 

[brightmorningstar]

Amen 99percentatheist,

The Christian today in the west is fundamentalist to the world because the world is now so far removed from God's purposes in postmodernist relativism.

 

[Emmy]

Dear Amber the Duskbringer. Unfaithfulness is a reason to divorce, but often there may be other things as well, to bring it about. But we may be sure that God always knows the reasons Why? and that is encouraging and wonderful to know. As for remarriage, the Bible frowns on it, but there again: God knows the real reasons. I would say the answer is: God knows and He is a loving and fair God, and we can trust Him to lead us aright: " If we ask for His advice in serious prayer." I say this with love. Greetings from Emmy, sister in Christ.