I just read a post by someone that said they broke it off with their man after 2 1/2 years of being together. Now I would understand if there was a reason...but this person said they "don't know why" and that they just couldnt take the final step to marriage. Someone please tell me why in the world someone could think the person they are with is great and their soulmate, even belive they will marry, then break it off just because?! Sorry, it just got to me is all cause it didn't seem like love, it seemed cold and heartless.
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Would it have been more loving and kind to marry and then confirm suspicions that this was not the relationship she wanted?
If I may, I suspect that you are projecting. You would not like to end up in a relationship that gets broken off at the last minute when she "doesn't know why". No one would. It would be very frustrating and seem quite unfair.
But if people are not ready to marry, the last thig on earth they should do is marry. So many marriages go through becasue of the expense and pressure of a wedding and expectations of others, for fear of embarassment... Those are terrible reasons to marry!
And quite often when people say they don't know why, they have a pretty good idea why and often choose not to say it, or they have sensed something about the other person, but are not yet able to articulate it.
If I may, I suspect that you are projecting. You would not like to end up in a relationship that gets broken off at the last minute when she "doesn't know why". No one would. It would be very frustrating and seem quite unfair.
But if people are not ready to marry, the last thig on earth they should do is marry. So many marriages go through becasue of the expense and pressure of a wedding and expectations of others, for fear of embarassment... Those are terrible reasons to marry!
And quite often when people say they don't know why, they have a pretty good idea why and often choose not to say it, or they have sensed something about the other person, but are not yet able to articulate it.
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Actualy, why be in such a long relationship if there is no commitment? Thats what I really don't get. Cause acting like that seems to just show the way the world thinks. If at anytime you get bored with someone or you have a little spat or you just dont want to try anymore then break it off. It just isn't the way I believe God planed. Some times we dont get what we want, but if we are commited (and such a long relationship like that would be commited) then we should work through things, not abandon them.
Well yeah, I guess I am projecting. Cause I would be so crushed if that happend to me. I just dont understand really why it would last that long and then in a moment its all "sorry but I dont want to be with you anymore for reasons I dont even know". Wait to marry yes, but why break it totaly off? But why would anyone be in something that they think is going to head to marriage then say oops I changed my mind? I mean that is just not love. Love is a commitment. I don't know, I just dont understand it. Just one of those things that gets to me.
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I'm sure there was a reason to break it off. But better to have said it and done it now, than live a life full regrets. There are just some things on this earth, no matter how hard you try, you just can't control. It's life......Live and learn.
There are some things I can live with in a relationship. And there are some things I just can't live without. I've been proposed to by my last ex. But being that I just started in my career, and we were only 2-3 months in our relationship, I told her I wanted to wait at least a year. Six months later, we broke up. Eventhough it hurt, I couldn't fault her for wanting to move on.
There are some things I can live with in a relationship. And there are some things I just can't live without. I've been proposed to by my last ex. But being that I just started in my career, and we were only 2-3 months in our relationship, I told her I wanted to wait at least a year. Six months later, we broke up. Eventhough it hurt, I couldn't fault her for wanting to move on.
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Pope Gonzo
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God convicts different people in different ways 
Best to keep focussed on what's between you and him.
Best to keep focussed on what's between you and him.
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Thats a good bit of advice in any situationPope Gonzo said:God convicts different people in different ways
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Ohhhh I HAD that happen to me. Only difference was, we were together for six months, and certainly were not sexually active.
I am not a fan of long engagements. And yes, to say it hurt a LOT would be a massive understatement.
I am not a fan of long engagements. And yes, to say it hurt a LOT would be a massive understatement.
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