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Hi everyone. Surfing these forums I've been amazed at how different my life is compared to other kids my age. So I just thought I'd give my opinion, it's always good to have many viewpoints...
I have never dated a boy. I have never kissed a boy, I have never had sex with a boy. I have talked, held hands, and hugged. But that's all I have done.
No, I'm not ugly or incredibly fat. I'm not a lesbian. I'm not socially challenged.
I choose not to date.
I believe (please don't become angry if I offend you) that most people under 18 are not mature enough to date. It's apparent in their actions. Looking back to when I was 15, I have changed so much in two years. I see my old ways and think how much I've grown.
Most 16 year old girls, despite budding hormones, despite womanly bodies, are little girls. They put on an air of false maturity but yet their Valley-girl vocabulary and stuffed animals reveal something much different.
You are a child when you are under 18. I have known very mature kids, but the vast majority cannot handle a crisis. Some cannot handle dating.
Also, and I hope this doesn't sound mean. I believe you should not get married until you have finished your education goals. It will be incredibly hard to finish college, much less high school, while you are a wife. Cooking, cleaning (which you will be doing at least half), pregnancy.
People have done it. Maybe you can. But you shouldn't have to. If your love for your significant other is as great as you believe it is, hold back a few years.
And please, don't make a huge mistake I see tons of Christian girls making. Don't get married to have SEX. Sexual attraction is very exciting and can often be confused with love.
In fact-increased heart rate, butterflies, blushing. All signs of sexual attraction and not love.
Over your life time you may find that you will hold sexual attraction to many people. As long as you pray, the Lord will help you discern when it's appropriate.
Please, please, do not confuse being in lust with love. Because sex only lasts so long and only means so much in the end. When you imagine your honeymoon, what do imagine? Just the romantic physical love? Or do you imagine the conversation afterwards that only two great friends can have.
Also do not think because you have had sex with someone, you have to marry them. God does not want that. Why would you hurry up and marry someone you don't know just because you have had sex with them (and want to keep doing it)?
Know the man you are meant to be with. See how the years change him. See him through the seasons and in happiness and sadness.
Sex is meant for marriage. But it doesn't mean God won't forgive you for messing up. It doesn't mean you're bound forever to your fellow sinner.
And please, to those who say they can't help having sex: YOU CAN. If you believe all things are possible through God, then certainly abstaining from sex is.
It is a biological urge. But you are not an animal. It is a beautiful thing. But it can bring great pain if it happens before you're married.
You can stop. And if your boyfriend claims he needs it and convinces you that you do too, consider his motives.
I really didn't mean to offend any of you lovely women. Who knows, maybe the way I believe is wrong. But I hate seeing so many of my sisters (in real life-not just internet) walk down a dead end path. But God Bless those of you who have made it work.
Marriage is a 50+ year committment. Take it seriously. Consider the fact that one day your husband may not be able to have sex. Consider the fact that, God forbid, you may lose a child. I hope you know enough about eachother to make it through things like these.
So I'm waiting until I graduate high school to start dating. And I'm waiting at least until after college until I get married. I'm strong enough to wait, and my future husband will too.
I won't let the pretty wedding dresses blind me
God bless you all.
I have never dated a boy. I have never kissed a boy, I have never had sex with a boy. I have talked, held hands, and hugged. But that's all I have done.
No, I'm not ugly or incredibly fat. I'm not a lesbian. I'm not socially challenged.
I choose not to date.
I believe (please don't become angry if I offend you) that most people under 18 are not mature enough to date. It's apparent in their actions. Looking back to when I was 15, I have changed so much in two years. I see my old ways and think how much I've grown.
Most 16 year old girls, despite budding hormones, despite womanly bodies, are little girls. They put on an air of false maturity but yet their Valley-girl vocabulary and stuffed animals reveal something much different.
You are a child when you are under 18. I have known very mature kids, but the vast majority cannot handle a crisis. Some cannot handle dating.
Also, and I hope this doesn't sound mean. I believe you should not get married until you have finished your education goals. It will be incredibly hard to finish college, much less high school, while you are a wife. Cooking, cleaning (which you will be doing at least half), pregnancy.
People have done it. Maybe you can. But you shouldn't have to. If your love for your significant other is as great as you believe it is, hold back a few years.
And please, don't make a huge mistake I see tons of Christian girls making. Don't get married to have SEX. Sexual attraction is very exciting and can often be confused with love.
In fact-increased heart rate, butterflies, blushing. All signs of sexual attraction and not love.
Over your life time you may find that you will hold sexual attraction to many people. As long as you pray, the Lord will help you discern when it's appropriate.
Please, please, do not confuse being in lust with love. Because sex only lasts so long and only means so much in the end. When you imagine your honeymoon, what do imagine? Just the romantic physical love? Or do you imagine the conversation afterwards that only two great friends can have.
Also do not think because you have had sex with someone, you have to marry them. God does not want that. Why would you hurry up and marry someone you don't know just because you have had sex with them (and want to keep doing it)?
Know the man you are meant to be with. See how the years change him. See him through the seasons and in happiness and sadness.
Sex is meant for marriage. But it doesn't mean God won't forgive you for messing up. It doesn't mean you're bound forever to your fellow sinner.
And please, to those who say they can't help having sex: YOU CAN. If you believe all things are possible through God, then certainly abstaining from sex is.
It is a biological urge. But you are not an animal. It is a beautiful thing. But it can bring great pain if it happens before you're married.
You can stop. And if your boyfriend claims he needs it and convinces you that you do too, consider his motives.
I really didn't mean to offend any of you lovely women. Who knows, maybe the way I believe is wrong. But I hate seeing so many of my sisters (in real life-not just internet) walk down a dead end path. But God Bless those of you who have made it work.
Marriage is a 50+ year committment. Take it seriously. Consider the fact that one day your husband may not be able to have sex. Consider the fact that, God forbid, you may lose a child. I hope you know enough about eachother to make it through things like these.
So I'm waiting until I graduate high school to start dating. And I'm waiting at least until after college until I get married. I'm strong enough to wait, and my future husband will too.
I won't let the pretty wedding dresses blind me
God bless you all.
you for the wise choices you are making. Again, very well said!
I can't seem to understand that. I prefer long years of getting to know a person before chosing to even persue a romantic relationship with them. It seems like such a rushed thing in other cultures.
