Why does it hurt so bad?

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

I'm not sure if this goes under grief... but it seemed like the best place to put it.

My boy friend broke up with me. I love him so much... and it hurts so bad... why does it hurt so much? i just feel like i want to crawl under a rock and die...

Jo.

 

[IWRK4JESUS]

Hi im new here and felt compelled to post under your post due to im going through the same situation. I didnt know what i was going to do without my girlfriend ( love of my life ) But after alot of praying and thinking i came to the conclusion that i was not going to live my life for my girfriend but live my life for the lord and everything that was happening was happening for a reason. If it is meant to be you will be brought back together, there is a lesson to be learned and you have to pray that god will show you and you will recognize it...God bless you i know it hurts because i feel the same but remember god will only give you what you can handle. Be strong and put god first...God loves you. If you need someone to ever talk to feel free to message me ....GOD BLESS YOU

 

[VivDaGurl]

I'm not sure if this goes under grief... but it seemed like the best place to put it.

My boy friend broke up with me. I love him so much... and it hurts so bad... why does it hurt so much? i just feel like i want to crawl under a rock and die...

Jo.

It happened to me last year and I find it so difficult to overcome this problem. There were times when I just wanted to hide myself from everybody and suicidal thoughts come by very often. You can find out more by reading my journal ("Growing Up") and also a thread that says "Breaking off on Valentines Day" or something like this. It's never easy to overcome this pain especially when you've loved him so much. I've done a lot of things and I am now recovering slowly. Give yourself some time to grief over this problem and never push yourself too hard. For me, I'm giving myself two years and I also don't intend to have any relationship for the time being until I'm ready to accept a new relationship without looking back on my past as it's not gonna be fair to my new partner, should I have one in the future.

Jo, the wound is still fresh and new...it has just cut open. God knows truly how you are feeling right now and I feel very much for you as well. You can PM me if you want to.

 

[darketernal]

I also learned the hard way that you should never go into a relationship expecting it to work out just because it concerns you. You can't force someone to love you or vice versa, it's a two way road and you need to be able to say to yourself exactly that. The only thing that can replace the los of an ex-bf is a new-bf. I strongly encourage you to move on with your life as it is of no use to wait, just let your feelings flow and when you are ready ,and strong again. Take the lessons you learned in this life, and carry on.

 

[Crazy_nut_4_Jesus]

I know it stings. and I never had a boyfriend but don't be upset over some boy because obviously he missed something. Don't cry over him, Jo, Since he's gone God may have someone ever better waiting for you.

<3 always,
Becca

 

[ysl_75]

I can understand how you feel. Not easy right! But I believed that you will get over it very fast because I believed that God will heal your pain and hurt. Take care! God bless you!

 

[Mr.Cheese]

There is a classic rock song that seems to touch on the topic. One of the lines is: "Gonna find me a hole in the wall / Gonna crawl inside and die."

This is the most jacked up feeling you will endure. But it will pass and one day ou'll be happay as heck that you didn't end up with this guy. I promise. So while you're miserable, look forward to the day when it is all behind you and know that it will come.

Next time around you will guard your heart and be more particular about whom you choose to share it with.

 

[Swanee]

Your grief for the loss of the Love of a loved one is also very painful. Rejection is a very difficult emotion to deal with. I remember when my first marriage broke up, it wasn't just the rejection of my wife, but the loss of living with my children, my home, even my pets. It was a total lifestyle change. Try to understand that it is better to happen now than sometime in the future when there may be a lot of other things to consider, like children. It is better that it happen now.

None of this makes it feel any better, and it is hard to see the other side of this, but I am sure one day you will look back and be thankful for this.

But your feelings, and possibly your self esteem will take time to recover. Give it time, and remember, you are still young, you still have your life in front of you. Pray to God for his strength and peace. Remember the rejection that Jesus suffered.

Phil:4:13: I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

I'm not sure if this goes under grief... but it seemed like the best place to put it.

My boy friend broke up with me. I love him so much... and it hurts so bad... why does it hurt so much? i just feel like i want to crawl under a rock and die...

Jo.

 

[silentpoet]

It just does hurt. I don't know why we let ourselves be fooled by things. We want so much to believe that maybe this time will be different. When it isn't then we hurt.

My girlfriend broke up with me a week before Christmas.

I guess I am a fool for believing that God wanted me happy. It hurts.

 

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

I guess I am a fool for believing that God wanted me happy. It hurts.

God does want you happy. I promise. He probably did this for your benefit. When i put up this post, i felt the same way you do. But after awhile, i realized that maybe this was God's plan for me... and he had someone better. Someone that will love me unconditionally, for the rest of my life. He wants you to be happy. He really and truely does. i know, I know... i should listen to my own advice sometimes... but thats just another thing I have to work on. Hope you feel better soon.

Jo.

 

[Your Desired User Name]

It just does hurt. I don't know why we let ourselves be fooled by things. We want so much to believe that maybe this time will be different. When it isn't then we hurt.

My girlfriend broke up with me a week before Christmas.

I guess I am a fool for believing that God wanted me happy. It hurts.

pain is just another part of life, it may not be the best part of life, but its something we all must go through. Sometimes we may hurt, and sometimes it may seem like nothing can take that hurt away, but no matter what happens pain is not something to fear or run from. If you just give up and stop trying you will always look back and think, "what if?" Do you really want that to be your future, to look back and wonder if you had made the right decision? Do you really want to live out the rest of your life in an emotional state of regret, is that the futuare you want for yourself? Who knows, maybe things will work out, maybe they wont, but atleast if you take the chance you can look back and say "i tried, thats all that i could have done." cause theres always a chance that things will work out and you will be much happier than you would have been if you had just sat idly by and let oppurtunites pass.

hope that made sense...

 

[rumbagirl]

I just went through what you are going through. I have spent a lot of time in meditative prayer. I know Jesus suffered for us, so he can understand any type of suffering we go through. He is there for us and all we have to do is pray and place our troubles in His hands. Everything will work out in time---whether we are supposed to be reuninted or whether we are supposed to learn from the experience of heartbreak and sadness. We can only grow---grow deeper in our faith and our maturity.

I hope that helps.

God Bless.