Why does God allow us to meet certain people?

[aflower4God]

I was pondering about this last night (NO I am not talking about the guy who harasses me, that is all behind me now) I am talking about a man who I was attracted to. He has hurt me so badly, saying I am too sensitive and other things but I would rather not get into that cause that is not my question really.
The question is why did God allow me to meet this guy I was attracted to and God knew that he was going to hurt me deeply?
This guy hurt me so badly that I don't trust men who have his features. i want to get married some day but how can I, cause of the words and his actions (the way he treated me) I wonder if all men that have his features are set out to hurt me.
Why would God want a sensitive person like me meet someone who treated me so badly?
What on earth would be God's purpose in meeting someone like that man, in your opinion?
I have to admit I am a bit disappointed in God cause of this. Rather I am very disappointed cause I feel I was at the wrong place at the wrong time AGAIN!
Anyway, I would love to hear your Godly wisdom about this topic cause God didn't answer me when I prayed and asked him this.
Thanks.

 

[Ana the Ist]

What exactly are these "features" you seem so hung up on? Is this what attracted you to him? What was it that he did to hurt you?

 

[seaking2]

I wondered that too,
I have met soooooo many girls who were wrong for me at the time I thought all girls were the same and I'd never find anyone, I got to the point where I said I dont want a girl and just gave everything to God and found joy in my little blessings in life and how much be loves me and done for me looking back
But I did find someone special and I believe you will too
Go see my profile pic, It inspires me a lot
Also from every girl that hurt me I learned something about myself that made me a stronger person

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[Criada]

I quite often find myself asking 'why?'
But I've noticed over the years that the things which are horrible and I don''t understand at the time are the ones which God uses later on.
I don't know the answers to your questions, but I know that God doesn't make mistakes, and that he has promised to make everything work for our good.
Praying for you, sis.

 

[SplendidTree]

I am so very sorry this has happened to you and understand this pain as well. I think God brings people in our lives and with the free will we have, we make decisions about things. Sometimes we consult God, others perhaps we do not as much.

Either way, the more difficult situations always teach us something. Maybe we don't realize it right away, but they do. I know for me also, I am a lot more empathetic and sympathetic due to the events and people who have been in my life that were not so pleasant.

I don't have answers but I know God loves us all so very much and there is never a wasted hurt. Someday, you may run into someone who has just been through what you have been through who needs a friend and someone to talk to and you will have been there. You will understand them and it will certainly help.

As for being sensitive, I am also super sensitive at times, so you are not alone there. Some people can handle it and others perhaps just don't know how to. It isn't mean or anything on their part at times, perhaps they just don't understand or know how to handle it.

I love you sister and hopefully some of this helps somehow!

 

[aflower4God]

I quite often find myself asking 'why?'
But I've noticed over the years that the things which are horrible and I don''t understand at the time are the ones which God uses later on.
I don't know the answers to your questions, but I know that God doesn't make mistakes, and that he has promised to make everything work for our good.
Praying for you, sis.

(((((BIG HUGS))))))) thank you so much my dear sweet loving sister. I can't wait to see why God brought this certain guy into my life. YOu are always full of such logic and love. Thank you for your prayers as well.

 

[aflower4God]

I am so very sorry this has happened to you and understand this pain as well. I think God brings people in our lives and with the free will we have, we make decisions about things. Sometimes we consult God, others perhaps we do not as much.

Either way, the more difficult situations always teach us something. Maybe we don't realize it right away, but they do. I know for me also, I am a lot more empathetic and sympathetic due to the events and people who have been in my life that were not so pleasant.

I don't have answers but I know God loves us all so very much and there is never a wasted hurt. Someday, you may run into someone who has just been through what you have been through who needs a friend and someone to talk to and you will have been there. You will understand them and it will certainly help.

As for being sensitive, I am also super sensitive at times, so you are not alone there. Some people can handle it and others perhaps just don't know how to. It isn't mean or anything on their part at times, perhaps they just don't understand or know how to handle it.

I love you sister and hopefully some of this helps somehow!

Thank you so much as well my dear sweet loving sister, for your logic and love. I hope that one day I will meet a man who will understand my sensitivity and will handle it in a good way.
God bless you and thank you you were such a big help as well.

 

[Krissy Cakes]

I am sorry I don't have the right words for you as I don't know why God did that BUT I know this..

He has a reason and his reasons are the best.

Please know I am praying for you through this!

Love you!

 

[Revived]

Praying for clarity.

 

[HighwayMan]

That is a very good question. I wonder that too about some people we meet who seem to promise so many things, pretend to be a good person, a close friend....then just for no apparent reason destroy all that. It doesn't make the slightest sense, and all it brings is pain and confusion. Not a lesson, but pain.

 

[aflower4God]

I am sorry I don't have the right words for you as I don't know why God did that BUT I know this..

He has a reason and his reasons are the best.

Please know I am praying for you through this!

Love you!

Awe thank you so much my dear sweet loving sister.

Praying for clarity.

That is a very good question. I wonder that too about some people we meet who seem to promise so many things, pretend to be a good person, a close friend....then just for no apparent reason destroy all that. It doesn't make the slightest sense, and all it brings is pain and confusion. Not a lesson, but pain.

You took the words right out of my mouth

 

[Chococat]

That is a very good question. I wonder that too about some people we meet who seem to promise so many things, pretend to be a good person, a close friend....then just for no apparent reason destroy all that. It doesn't make the slightest sense, and all it brings is pain and confusion. Not a lesson, but pain.

I've also had that experience with friends in the past but as I look back I realise God showed me many things through these painful experiences. The main one I think is to put your faith in God not Man. That isn't to say we should not have human friends but even the best people let us down (just as we let people down) but God will never let us down so our ultimate faith should be in Him. I also think these experiences also taught me a necessary lesson in discernment. Hope that helps

 

[whitebeaches]

god allows other people to cross our paths so we can grow. we become more wiser in our choices because of them. it awakens our senses. we are more able to see what we want in another person and do not want. we become more defined, more molded as well.

 

[Krissy Cakes]

Awe thank you so much my dear sweet loving sister.

Your most welcome!

 

[sarahelizabeth]

maybe because he wants us to meet certian people to either change our lives to make us think
or to make Us be a better person by seeing them being like them(depends on the person)

maybe to touch there lives to help them to realize there is a god
if they havent realized that

 

[cflittlestar]

Look at all the support you are getting from many of your post.
People want to help you, but you also need to help yourself at the same time.

 

[loved33]

Petal ,

There are millions of people in the world . We meet so many people in our daily lives.

What made YOU attracted to that man.

Something familiar.

I don't know what he did, but I bet it was similar to the pattern of hurt and abuse you
were given around the things you suffered at home growing up.

Until a person addresses their original programming - they will always have somewhat of a 'homing device' a 'default setting' to choose what is familar.

I once heard of a man sharing on a tape from a 12 step convention - and he shared that he 'somehow' managed to pick 3 girlfriends who all committed suicide.

Until he began to look at what was 'normal and familiar' in his family of origin, that was dysfunctional and harmful - until he began to seek 'new' patterns and to want to surrender or die to those old patterns....he was just stuck at the same old level of attraction.....to what was familiar.

Life coaches will tell us , that to create a new habit and make it stick, we need to repeat it daily , without breaking it for 30days.

There is a work to be done.

In Christ it is called 'coming to the cross'.

At the cross we nail all of our 'old' things, 'dead' things - things that we were living, were given, believed, patterns..

and at the cross ...we exchange - we give Jesus the old and He offers 'new'.

We don't know what new is...we have to seek it. Often it will be something we have never known, so we don't know it.

It must be sought out though. New wells , new water.

Learning what 'new life ' is.

We can't get new from old wells.


God wants you to have a really good and loving man, but to do that, you need to be able to receive that sort of man.

At the moment you are attracted to what you know.

God wants to show you that there's more.

He can offer it, but it will always be down to you to choose to come to the cross, or not.

Love you petal and I really want you to have the very best xxx