Why do men want relationships?

[Lizzabit]

lol

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

"Him" does not equal "men".

 

[_Paladin_]

What is it that men want out of women?

I've seen so many people on this board alone who have husband who use porn, have affairs, call escort services? Why? Why would you marry someone in the first place. Certainly these guys can't be naive enough to think that one woman can be all and do all.

Love, respect, companionship, knowing that someone beleives in you, someone you can be completely transparent with.

I think it is that many people have these addictions, but that does not mean they are proud of having them... a lot of times especially in Christians, they hate the fact that they are addicted, but they cannot overcome these things on their own.

I am very sorry about what happened to you, remember, though, Christ can heal any pain you may have.

 

[lunalinda]

I'd love to know the answer to that myself, actually. I of course know why women would want a relationship, but you rarely hear men utter their reasons. So I'm quite curious.

*awaits more responses*

 

[scouch125]

Not all men are bad. All of us make mistakes, men and women alike! I think we would all agree that the majority of men are much more "sexual" than the majority of women. Some men make the mistake of focusing their sexuality on things other than their wives. I love my wife, and respect her very much, but she is the reason that I want to have intimacy. I would rather go home to her than to look at porn. I "like" women, but I love my wife (that may sound generic, but it's true)!

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

*awaits more responses*

I blame society!!!

 

[Sketcher]

I've been reading a lot of posts about pornography, and I'll admit, it was a huge factor in my divorce.
In the end, I asked my husband to choose between porn and me, and he chose porn. He said atleast the porn brought him some happiness.

Well, naturally that crushed me to death. It would have been less painful if he had just put a gun to my head instead of killing me from the soul outward.

So my question is this. What is it that men want out of women?

I've seen so many people on this board alone who have husband who use porn, have affairs, call escort services? Why? Why would you marry someone in the first place. Certainly these guys can't be naive enough to think that one woman can be all and do all.

If you're only going to do these things to your wife, I say don't marry. It's best to live in your own little miserable world than to crush the heart and soul of a woman, which I see so many guys doing these days.

Wow. I guess sex is overrated. I don't understand why a man would prefer a fake subsitute over the real thing. I honestly do not. No offense to you, of course. It is clearly his problem and his sin, you were a victim of it. I guess he wasn't looking for the right stuff from you.

 

[Linus]

Peace beloved,

Well, what I want to get out from a relationship is a lot of things, most basically it is;

Love, trust, support, comfort.
To have a special person that you can come home to after a tough day at school or at job, someone that you can share your inner thoughts with, someone you can pray and study the Holy Bible with.

As for sex, I have had it with my previous non-Christian girlfriends and personally, it is not all that, in most cases, I just prefer to cuddling, kissing and holding her in my arms...

 

[GQ Chris]

You picked the wrong man to marry.

 

[TriptychR]

I can't believe that he would be "happy" with porn. They way it takes you down is its continuous need for more satisfaction, because it leaves many things unfulfilled.

Intimacy is one of the reasons I want a relationship, yes, but I consider "intimacy" so much more. As others have posted before me, it means trust, support, understanding, reliability; all those things. I want to make love to a woman because she is those things to me and I to her, but too many times we're tempted to have sex in hopes that everything else will follow afterward.

 

[Kristin06]

I too would love to know why men want relationships....each one seems to have their own reasons!! But sex should never be one of them...

 

[TriptychR]

I too would love to know why men want relationships....each one seems to have their own reasons!! But sex should never be one of them...

So are you saying that you don't want the bedroom to be a part of the life with your future husband?

 

[mina]

I think sex is a good part of a marriage, but sex with someone other than your spouse or sexual fantasies about porn is not good and should not be brought into a relationship. And sex should not be the only thing making you want to marry a girl. I mean I've heard it takes a lot of fun trials and errors to figure each other out and get really good at sex, but you are patient with each other because hopefully you love each other and are in it for the long haul. If sex is your only driving force for marriage, then chances are other good things are going to be missed out on and you are going to have a lot of hard things to deal with. I wouldn't want to marry a guy that only wanted me so he could have sex with me( now don't get me wrong, I want my husband to want to have sex with me, but not as the only thing he loves me for). If that makes any sense at all. Women want to be more than objects

 

[TriptychR]

I wouldn't want to marry a guy that only wanted me so he could have sex with me( now don't get me wrong, I want my husband to want to have sex with me, but not as the only thing he loves me for). If that makes any sense at all.

That's what I've been trying to say. Nearly all couples will want to have sex; it's simply how we're hooked up. But sex should not be the only reason--or even an overpowering one--to get in a relationship in the first place. Love and commitment should bring on the desire for good sex--the kind of love and commitment bound by a wedding ring. It should not and can not work the other way around.

I know this Christian couple in a long-distance relationship. They're both great and have remained faithful and true to each other, but both have admitted to me that it takes all their will to keep from going too far on the occasional times they're face-to-face with each other. Are you going to say they're wrong for desiring each other that way; that they can just turn it off until they're married? No, but they control it.

 

[Jamza]

Men want relationships for all the reasons women do; for companionship, strengthening, friendship, physical intimcay, for someone to love and be loved by, to care for someone/be cared for; women show their emotions more than men; and society does tend to be geared up so that men fall into sinful traps sometimes, but everyone can make mistakes; I think so long as Christians with alive faith marry, there be fewer problems.

 

[GQ Chris]

This is not the greatest question by the way; why do men want relationships. It just makes all men sound like unemotional monsters.

 

[JPPT1974]

Men want relationships the same reason women want.
They want companionships.
As well as being loved.
And they want the warmth, energy, and spirit of being love.
But they must love back in return you know.

 

[renaistre]

....each one seems to have their own reasons!! But sex should never be one of them...

Assuming we are talking about relationships in the sense of marrage, why not?

I have class right now, so my answer for the OP will have to wait.

 

[Leader of the Banned]

"Him" does not equal "men".

Thank you

 

[Kristin06]

Assuming we are talking about relationships in the sense of marrage, why not?

I have class right now, so my answer for the OP will have to wait.

I don't think you should get married to have sex...yes, sex is part of marriage, but should not be a reason to want to be in that kind of relationship!!